I seriously don't get it...

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by uboat, Oct 23, 2011.

  1. uboat

    uboat New Member

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    Question? Why does it hurt so bad when YOU are the one who ends the relationship? She was spoiled to the core, selfish, and thoughtless…but yet I miss her and want to hold her close to me. I don’t get it.
     
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    Damn, I wish I knew that myself...
     
  3. D_Fred Flintstones

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    Dude It happend to me to but she left me because she is the devil I'm sure. You will get over it and she will realise she has lost out for bein a prick. Everybody who is a hood person feels bad after a break up. It shows ur a good man
     
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    ill be honest, you were right to leave her! there are some really nice people who will treat ou the way you deserve. that sort that you described dont deserve from you to look at them. speaking from experience, be it a gf or just a friend. it hurts because youre used to her being there next to you and its a natural human fear not to be alone. some time must pass and you will be glad you broke it up very soon. dont ever forget her description in your question, otherwise youll never be happy again if you get back together, and youre still annoyed by all that. remember, you cant change anyone!
    a bit harsh an answer but honest from the heart, hope you ll take my advice and spread it around, take some time and enjoy all the time you spent with her watching a game, or just walking, hanging w our friends, and then you will find for someone much better. cheers

    ps oh, and tytn is right 100% too
     
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    OMG, sounds like me. I empathize.
     
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    Because being miserable in a relationship is better than being alone.
     
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    I didn't even feel this bad when she thought it was normal to go camping with a guy. I was angry then non the less, but now I just feel sad. She wanted to bake her cake and eat it too. I'm soooo disappointed. I thought she was going to be the one I dropped to one knee for. She promised me time and time again that she would change her bad behavior. I had no choice but she forced my hand.
     
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    I had the same relationship before I met my wife. Had a g.f. who was totally in love with me and wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. I knew she would make me happy for the rest of my life.

    Except for those times when I wasn't around. Then she'd start flirting, and one thing would lead to another, and a few days later I'd hear from her BFF that I better be wearing a condom.

    I nearly had a nervous breakdown trying to keep the relationship going. But in the end I had to say to her: "We need to have a talk."

    Twenty minutes later it was over. It was really painful and over twenty years later I still think about her. However, it was probably one of the best decisions I made.

    Unlike you, I felt a huge feeling of relief, never regretted the break-up, and life got a whole lot better.

    You'll get over it, of course. Everyone does. Just keep in mind that her behavior is her responsibility and it sounds like she'd never be able to have the relationship you deserve.
     
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    Cos you're lonely.

    And you want to know

    A 12 o'clock straight up nigga

    That don't give a shit that ya Pussy Control!
     
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    it's painful, and, will be painful for a bit. but, it will eventually pass. but, it does hurt for awhile. you need to keep in mind "why" you ended the relationship, and, not the parts of the relationship you miss.
     
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    Nobody every said doing the right thing would be easy.......even when you know it is the right thing to do.
     
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    Well you loved her but you realized it wasn't a healthy relationship so you ended it. When a relationship ends usually no one leaves feeling good but it time you realize you did do the right thing.
     
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    Most people cant admit they are wrong
     
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    I always leave it up to her to break up. The one time I broke it off was thirty years ago, and I still miss her...
     
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    I'm going thru the same issue as we speak. She was full of venom and would attack anyone I was in contact with. She especially hated my sister something terrible. Thank God (and Uboat) for this thread because I'm having a hard time getting past that she will be sleeping with another man.
     
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    Like the old song says: "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do". But it was a wise decision. It would have only brought you more pain and heartbreak in the future. Consider yourself lucky that you got away. In time the hurt will be gone. Time wounds all heels. Don't sit around pining over lost love or you just might write a country and western song.
     
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    My lyrics would start out like this.... "pain pain, go away, come back another day"

    She did push me to go further in life. She was very ambitious.
     
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    My grandparents remained married until death. When my grandmother was 92 years old we were having lunch together, and I asked her... "If you could change one thing in your life, what would it have been?" She didn't pause even for a moment. "I would have divorced your grandfather right away. It was never right, and it was never going to be right."
     
  19. uboat

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    Wow... Thats crazy spanky.
     
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    After I was divorced and hurting badly from being the victim of a notorious cheat, my Mum was consoling me. I asked her if ever in her life she thought about leaving Dad. She said, "Not at all. I would have killed him first."
     
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