I used to meet guys from Plenty and OkCupid rimarily for sex. The "dates" were initially to reassure each other that we were not psychos. Once we established that we liked fucking each other, we could go out and have a good time beforehand. But our main reason to see each other, was to get laid. If you're looking for sex, just say so. Men who want sex and pretend they want to date are irritating.Plenty of Fish and OkCupid are the best free sites to meet women. They're for actual dating, not sex. But it's definitely easier to meet women off there than craigslist or some other similar site.
Just be smooth on the date and you'll get some sex.
you guys really can't just meet a woman at a bar, club, library, class, supermarket ... anywhere? and just talk to them??
if you don't have the skills to talk to a girl in real life, what makes you think they will hop in bed with the same awkward person behind a computer screen?
I've gotten laid off Craigslist many times without paying.
It depends. When I was using the internet to find hook-ups, it supplemented my offline pursuits, and I preferred online hunting because I was never looking for a one-off. I wanted long-term, no strings sex relationships. I wanted it to be casual and easy, but I wanted to fuck the same handful of guys every week. I wanted friends with benefits. I wanted to go do friendly stuff, and then go back to his place and fuck until we passed out. You just do not get to see as much of people's personalities when they are drunk at some bar or club, or posing for their homies at a park or wherever. Online, and especially once you get them to call you on the phone, you have them alone, all to yourself, no one to impress but you, and you can get them to relax and just be real. Especially if you yourself are relaxed, and true to self. I had waaaaay better luck finding keepers online than in person. I also had a very strict photo rule. I made over 20 photos available, and required a dude to show me at least 12 pictures of himself before I would even give him my phone number. the more pics you see, the more likely he is to look like his pictures. I was never disappointed. Twice, I was pleasantly surprised by guys whose pictures were hot, but did them no justice.I think the poster had it bang on who said that women don't need to use the internet for sex hook ups when, if they are reasonably attractive, they can just go into a bar and get laid the same night.
Why bother with paying a joining fee, writing out a profile, choosing a flattering photo, waiting for replies, reading the replies, sifting out the inevitable morons, weirdos, Shrek lookalikes, scam artists, out of towners and potential serial killers, chatting on MSN, setting up a date, going on the date...... only to find out that the guy she is on a date with is 15 years older and 30lbs heavier than his photo. Blah blah blah. She could have met about 10 "real world" partners in that time, if she wished. And for each of them, she would have been able to see the goods up close, talk to them to assess them for potential sexual chemistry and the likelihood of them having an axe and a roll of duct tape in the back of their car, and choose, in her own time, whether or not to take things further without there being any weight of expectation on either of them that they were going to fuck (which would always be the case with internet dates).
It just doesn't make sense. I mean, when you fancy a burger, do you drive down to your local McDonalds there and then, or do you order one over the internet and wait weeks for it to turn up, when it will probably turn out to be no good anyway?
Women probably use the net more for seeking out potential LTR boyfriends, because that way they can advertise on the basis of compatibility of interests and personality, and then take their time to see whether there is any connection.
OKC stands for OkCupid. OkCupid was the bomb when it first started up. You could find whatever you were looking for (as long as you were looking to find it with nerds). A bunch of us even started a pool league after we met at a huge party the site threw for us in NY. Most of the guys I met from there had gigantic dicks, but even bigger brains. It was awesome. You just do not find personalities like that every day, not anymore. They were heavily concentrated over there, way back when.
Well, I'm both a good writer and speaker, and sex is hard to come by on my end in even the best of times, so I dunno. I agree that Craigslist, for the straight fellows like myself, is probably not going to work with regularity if at all. I say this as a guy who has posted ads there thrice now, with no success. As for adult sites like ZOIG, AdultFriendFinder, here, etc. the results are equally dismal.
Now for the OkCupid/PlentyOfFish crowd: Been on both, looking for actual dates/partners, not hook-ups. Haven't had much like luck on either, though only really been on OKC for a couple of weeks now.
A pretty common complaint I'm hearing from bystanders/friends is that they just don't believe someone like me would actually be on an online dating site (the "too good to be true" syndrome). Which is both flattering if I believe their assessment of my looks and charm and writing ability is fine and true, and disheartening because I really do have a hard time meeting quirky, unconventional women in the real world who fit my standards. That's the problem with being weird: you narrow your niche considerably.
I don't know what I can add to be helpful though really as my success rate makes failure look good. :redface:
I'm a girl. I prefer to fuck dudes. I have been telling you about male-female fuck-fests.Alteredego, since you're 80% straight - did you ever use OkCupid to find and fuck women? I'd be curious to know how easy it was for male-female fuck-fests to arise.