Did I miss a memo regarding {str8) as biC? Hmmmmm
I don't agree that gay men should feminize themselves so that they can be understood by straight men easier- for many guys that would be very out of character for them- and traumatic.
Again I say it's all about human interactions between like minded men, and others with opposing or skewed viewpoints and behaviors. Our society no longer seems equipped to teach basic rules of interaction, and so a guy might not be socially adept at responding to a situation that he doesn't understand or appreciate. What matters is how he responds.
Consider that m/m sex and relationships have been around since Adam and STEVE (SORRY BAD JOKE). Ok, forever. Guys used to know how to gracefully say "no thank you' towards an unwanted flirtation, or they'd clobber the guy. Both seemed socially the norm, and, well, acceptable responses. Now there is too much anger, fear, resentment, and gender confusion to allow a cool-headed level response- and the physical response can get you sued or worse.
To get back to the original post, "seduction of a straight man" ... the op had kernels of truth. He was advocating that two men bond around our base shared love of sex- and that openness and physical interactions would possibly follow. Unlikely, but possible- if using this new definition, the straight guy was really str8 and would, over time, allow his gruff exterior to be privately penetrated (bad joke again) by a properly manscaped one-eyed monster.
It all comes down to some guys wanting that kind of relationship as part of their life, or NOT. Male affirmation can come in many forms- and not all of it must be homoerotic. I'd wager a side bet, to a lesser reliable degree, that these men were never taught how to have great male relationships growing up, due to a lack of a demonstrated role model, and they are the ones who fear that friendship with an open hearted, open minded gay or bisexual might require the ultimate sacrifice on their part... naked time! (shocking) and so they literally or emotionally flee the scene.
We are who we are, and you really can't change that. If an attraction is one-sided it might be due to admiration of beauty, or character, or money, or any other number of factors out there that have been bringing couples (gay or straight) together forever. How do we handle an unwanted advance? Politely say "thanks no thanks" smile, and move on. Come on Guys, remember the dating ratio of scores to strikeouts? This still holds true.
And now a word to the apparent offender- to the guy who makes a mission to take mr straight down to BJ town by an elaborate plan of introducing beer and porn... can you think of something more constructive to do with your Saturday night? A marriage could break up over something like that- and nowadays we really need solid families to try to teach the new generation how to fix the shit our grandfathers left us. This isn't right or left- this is reparations.
I feel bad for that guy, actually, because it would seem that his axe to grind with society comes from destruction in his own life. At least a lack of some sort. If he had love in his home he wouldn't be on a mission to try to find it in a place where it wasn't being offered.
So in all the camps out there it seems like education, tolerance, and more interpersonal communication is needed - a tall order when you consider that men don't really talk to begin with- and especially not during March Madness.
Dads with young boys- I charge you to plan a men-only camping trip with your boys for late this spring- take a risk, break down the barriers, talk, and LISTEN- and train your boys to act and behave like they have a pair. Maybe the rest of us can someday catch up.