I think I may have lead my best friend's step dad on.

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  1. BirdinMo

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    So I was at my friend’s house all day today because she is really sick and I offered to take care of her for the day. Well at about 12:30 her step dad came home for lunch, he ask me if I would be willing to clean there house because Thursday is Lecia’s birthday. Lecia is my best friend’s mom. I said “sure I can do it tomorrow” He said “Thanks, you have no idea how helpful that is. I told him It was no problem. Well at about 6:00 he came home from work and said “Where is Lecia?” I said “She called and said that she is working late tonight to have her birthday off” He said “Oh, ok.” Well at about 6:30 he fixed dinner for us all and we ate. After dinner he went to his room till about 8:00, he then came out in his sleep pants and it was obvious he did not have on underwear, no biggie really, a lot of guys do not wear underwear especially with sleep pants. I said “Try and be quite please, she just fell asleep” He said “I just want to know if you would be willing to do a few loads of laundry tomorrow to?” I love doing laundry so of coarse said “Yes, just leave them in a pile at the foot of the bed and I will get them tomorrow.” He then smiled, grabbed his cock and balls and said “Great, I’ll try not to leave them stiff.” I just laughed because he is all the time making sick little jokes. Well at about 9:00 I helped my friend to her bed for the night and was picking up a few things before I left when he came back out of his room with a handful of dirty dishes headed for the kitchen. I said “Wait, I am going to tell you my cell phone number for you to put in your phone in case she needs me.” He said “Ok, but your going to have to get my phone out of my pocket” And stuck his right hip closer to me for me to get his phone. I was a little hesitant to reach and grab his phone so I said “I’ll just wait” Well he came back and said “Ok, what is it?” I gave him my number and started to the door to leave. He hollered at me to wait, so I stopped. He said “What if I need something? Can I call you?” I just said “Sure” and he smiled at me and said “Really?” I said “Yeah, really” And he said “Thanks” and I left.
    Now that I think about it I think he was hitting on me! And I do not know what to do! I’ll be at there house all day tomorrow by myself except around noon when he will be home for lunch and I’m scared of what might try and go down. He is really nice and sweet but he is married and my best friends step dad! I know I will tell him no if he try’s anything but I’m afraid I might of lead him on tonight with my answers. How should I tell him no if he try’s anything? I do not want to be rude to him but I need to get my point across!
     
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    sounds like that could be an explosive situation...
     
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    Go with the flow until he tries something...then explain that you wouldn't be comfortable with doing anything of that sort.

    Or you could just get mad and make a comment like "you think just because i'm gay i'll do anything with any guy"?
     
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    How old are you?
     
  5. BirdinMo

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    19 slurper la.
     
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    Well yeah, it'll be a bad situation altogether. He's married, and it's not just some random anonymous fling because you know him... Just do what you have to do (the helping out, cleaning around the house), and stand your ground if he wants to do something. I don't think you were leading him on at all. You did nothing wrong. He's the one who initiated, so just ignore him tomorrow, and just stay focused on what you're doing.
    I think he's gonna want to do something with you... I won't blame you if you give in... I would if I was in that situation.
    How old is he? Is he resistable? Lol.
     
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    hes 48, I can resist him but it will be hard. I know if I do even the littlest thing with him I will feel the guilt of it forever. But on the other hand I really want to do things with him to. How sick and f-ed up am I?
     
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    Just think how your friend would react to the situation if she found out, surely her freindship is far more important
     
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    You need to find some other older guy to knock boots with - a friends stepdad is possibly the worst person you could mess about with. There are plenty of guys online who would be happy to act out your daddy fantasy.

    If he tries anything on you need to be firm and tell him you aren't interested. You can turn him down without being cruel.
     
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    I don't think you're sick at all, to be honest. Either that, or we're both sick! :tongue: I have a thing for my best friends father. He flirts with me ALL THE TIME and has attempted sexual things with me, unbeknownst to my friend. I won't do it. I like him, sure. But he's married and I know I'd just be a fling. The major thing though is the relationship with my friend. I have far too much love and respect for her to do something like that. If he does try to start anything with you, just think of your friend and turn him down. Some things are better kept a fantasy, imo. :smile:
     
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    Hey BirdinMo if you ever wanna do my laundry :wink:
     
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    Thanks gals and guys! I just got off the phone with my friend and she is staying home again today so I will not be alone, I'm taking that as a sign. sneaky117, bring em over. No guarentee you get all of your underwear back though ;)
     
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    why can't he clean his own house and do his own laundry. Maybe he got watching you go domestic for him.
     
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    He's been polite, nice and sweet. You've been very helpful to him and your friend. Don't be fearful and suspicious of him. You aren't going to lead him on unless you want to, and you won't. What I think will "go down" are the meals that you eat and the preparations for Lecia's birthday. I also envisage you being at his beck and call to attend to household tasks. But if that sort of thing appeals to you, so be it.
     
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    You clearly are saying that you don't want too. So when he is makingh moves, don't get to influenced by it and just say no. It can be hard, but it easyer when nothing has happend yet. Just say no if he asks for something you don't want.
     
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    Your mind is telling you no,

    but your body is telling you YES!
     
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    Oh my gosh fellow members you have no idea how scared I was when he came home for lunch and said “you ready?” I was frozen in place and could only mutter the words “for what?” and to much relief his answer was “Help me pick out my clothes for her birthday, I figure because you’re gay you have good style unlike me. Why? What were you thinking?” I felt like a huge boulder had been lifted from me, I almost felt stupid for thinking what I had thought! I just let a big breath out and said “oh, nothing” He smiled and laughed and said “No nothing like that! I think of you as a son and would never try that. Boy your mind is dirty though isn’t it?” I turned bright red like the same color as a fire truck and put my head down. Then he said “I’m flattered by the thought but you and I are to close and besides that your to young.” I was so embarrassed but so relieved to here that all he wanted was my help picking out clothes! I guess we now know where my mind belongs….In the gutters.
     
  18. AM_092

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    LOL ok... Well, I'm glad everything went well for you...
    Though I don't want to offend you, but something about it sounds fictionalised...
    Anyway, well it's probably a good thing that he didn't make a move... Or maybe he wanted to, but didn't end up asking...
     
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    Sounds like a bad porn movie
     
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    Sounds to me like he feels the same way you do. Maybe there's some attraction and the idea of doing something is somewhat appealing but the circumstances just make it out of the question. Anyway, glad it turned out well.
     
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