And to add to this you will have to step it up and become a husband. In every meaning of the word. You will be a steward and show your wife how not to be bitchy, demanding etc.
What?
Did someone just let their bible slip out of their pants in public?
Here's the thing... Every human being is born as a manipulation machine. Every child seeks a strategy to get everything they want when they want it.
Parenting and acculturation are the processes whereby people learn what strategies are ACCEPTABLE in a society of peers.
As boys, men are taught quite comprehensively, thru competitive team sports, how to deal with a hierarchy of authority... what is and isn't fair as low man on the totem , or as team captain.
Those who learn these lessons well will act appropriately in exercising or submitting to authority, whether they are the deck hand, or the captain of the ship.
Women in the states generally do not get this early experience... and, unfortunately, since the late 70s, they have been raised with an expectation that men are idiots, that male needs and concerns are bad and unworthy, and that men should do as women demand, and demand nothing in return.
And because most young men want desperately to get with women, they have been allowed to get away with this attitude.
The result is that women do not always understand what is and what is not "playing fair" in terms of power and authority.
But here is the upside.... older men can be hugely attractive to women when they have become confident in themselves and unwilling to allow women to push them around...
without losing respect for women,
without losing appreciation for a woman's needs and concerns being valid.
Recognize that when you run across these women of which you complain, you are being faced with spoiled girls who have never been told "no".
If they are too far gone... then they may never learn how to deal with a world of other people's needs being just as important as their own... and they will be miserable all their lives...
But there are women out there who either were not spoiled... or are self aware enough to learn that the world is not gonna go exclusively their way.
You need to understand yourself well enough to know in what areas you can compromise to accommodate the needs of a good woman...
and what areas in which you will stand firm for the sake of your own integrity and self respect.
And you have to find a woman who is capable of doing the same in return.
We all want the same things, more or less... the biggest difference is in the methods we employ to attain what we want.
learn that women have a right to expect something in return for what they offer... and be fair with them, and with yourself, about what you are willing to offer in exchange.
When you exude the self confidence of a man who understands himself, is willing to bend for his mate...yet stands his ground at the core of himself...
then you will find that the women drawn to you will be the ones you are looking for.