I think the reason we ask.

Discussion in 'The Healthy Penis' started by D_Cliebert_Chodechoker, Dec 28, 2005.

  1. D_Cliebert_Chodechoker

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    I think the reason we ask if 7.75 inches is big or if 6 inches around is big, is because(for me atleast) i see all these people on the board posting saying their 10 inches long and 7 around and what not, then a female posts that thats the ideal size for them. It makes a person feel inadequate. Guess those were just my thoughts tho.
     
  2. GoneA

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    just remember, the internet does not screen for liars. therefore, i'm willing to vouch that many of them are lying. the ones that are telling the truth are in the minority. if people (lovers) are calling you "cokecan" i think that's something to rave about.
     
  3. D_Cliebert_Chodechoker

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    i dont wanna be taken the wrong way. im happy with what ive been blessed with, and i do agree with what your saying, i just wanted to post that for the people who flame us to have better understanding of where we were coming from.

    Peace
     
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    But, Coke, if you're happy with what you've been blessed with, how could you feel inadequate?
     
  5. D_Cliebert_Chodechoker

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    no i dont feel that way anymore., i was just saying thats how i felt when i would ask about my size. its not a current thing its an explination for why i use to ask.
    i feel i should post it bc im sure i got on peoples nerves with this. Thats all=)
     
  6. Ineligible

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    That's very true. I know some people prefer to be a big fish in a small pond, but that's not always healthy. And it wouldn't help to have a special board for (say) everyone around 7.5" - imagine how boring that would be.

    There have been people here with 9.5" who considered themselves small in their own minds, helio. I think it's not just the size, but your own self-confidence, and experiences, and what people tell you, and all sorts of things.
     
  7. D_Cliebert_Chodechoker

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    What are your issues? o figure you would be crushin some females. u would fall under the Small body with big dick category.
     
  8. txquis

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    I am not huge, I am not small...and i think those of us who fall somewhere in the middle *do* have more questions about what people consider "hung" or not. it varies so widely.
     
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    And I've said it before & will again... you guys certainly aren't inadequate by any stretch. In another post I read someone said "look at a ruler at the 7 inch mark - that's big". It really is... Being very large isn't always that great when it comes to funtionality.... they're fun to look at and all, but I've been told it hurts!! I'd honestly trade methinks...
     
  10. D_Cliebert_Chodechoker

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    Shit i wish i had that problem. the pretty part i mean.
     
  11. D_Cliebert_Chodechoker

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    LMAO @ your last comment.

    Shit id have a huge urge to be a pimp if i was u. i do gotta admit that when i saw your pic i thought u were a girl.(not trying to offend u) so i can see where your problems stem from. i think it was the nose that made me think that, but i wouldnt change shit. wait til your in college and youll see what i mean. all kinda dimes hollerin at u bc of what your worried about now.
     
  12. Lex

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    This is a great thread. I think that everyone's perespective is skewed by their own experiences and frame of reference. I never thought I was big until a few years ago (And even though I now realize it, I prefer that it NOT be the focus of those "OMG YOU GOT A HUGE COCK CAN I SEE? messages). I grew up watching lots of porn and just really felt like everyone had equipment of the same relative size. I didn't have cousins with whom I compared and avoided the showers in high school gym class because I went through puberty VERY late (my pubes grew when I was 17).

    As Pecker said, if you're happy with what you have and know how to use it for the pleasure of yourself and others--then you are fine. I have a close buddy who has gone through life feeling like he had a small cock. At 42, I gave him a paper ruler and told him to measure length and girth. Turns out he is 6.5 x 7.5--a proverbial beercan. I sent him some of the penis size stats and he was floored. he had this idea in his head that you had to be 8" or more to be hung and that simply isn't true.


    All you handsome thoughtful men have to be okay with yourselves. People would much rather have a great guy with an "Avserage" cock that an asshole with 10". Trust me.
     
  13. D_Martin van Burden

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    I don't think those two concepts -- "happiness about what you got" and "inadequacy" -- are all that mutually exclusive. Think about standards of beauty in general. Let's be honest. A lot of the men and women we see in fashion billboards, runway shows, athletic fitness magazines, prime-time TV, they just don't look like us, everyday people.

    Sure, we could spend a ton of money (e.g. liposuction, expensive gym memberships, personal trainers, elective surgeries, laser hair removal) to look as much like them as we can. Really, drastic changes like that without these high-cost endeavors are nearly impossible for a lot of us. Thinking of body weight, for example, our bodies are genetically engineered to stay with a set range after pubesence, notwithstanding stuff like pregnancy or binge eating. So, for an average-build man of 175 pounds -- good size, bit of a paunch, but not qualifying as obese -- for him to get cut, shredded, ripped, vascular, etc., would take an inordinate amount of time and energy and resources that a lot of us can't muster.

    Can it be done, though? Is this a subtle attack on our more athletic members of the species? Absolutely not. The choice to make these body changes is irrelevant. The bigger question is, why?

    Sometimes a drive to make positive change can become so consuming that it ends up being pathological -- as in the case of anorexia, bulimia, muscle dysmorphia, etc.

    And in a general sense, people may not see themselves as beauty equivalents of chopped liver, but at the same time, they wouldn't be the first to hit up the heavy weights or take their shirts / slip into two-piece bikinis. And you certainly don't have to appreciate people who tend to flaunt their looks in a narcissistic fashion instead of simply feeling good in their skin. Those emotional disparities exist.
     
  14. B_caneadea

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    This is an amazing thread. I have to laugh a little because I am surprized that some of the BEST LOOKING PEOPLE have made derogatory remarks about their own looks.

    The reason I show my torso in my avatar is because that's what everybody notices. That's what seems to attract people. Nobody ever says that I'm good looking. I'm not ugly. But, I won't win any prizes.

    I've had boy friends who had big dicks and not much else to go with them. I'd take a wonderful man with an average dick any day.

    I'll bet that if you asked everyone on the LPSG what one thing they would change about their appearance, you would get hundreds of surprising answers because we are all too critical of ourselves.

    Please notice that at least 3/4 of the discussions here on the LPSG are not about penises or what people look like. So, you see, it doesn't matter.

    And for the teenagers here: good luck finding anything that"s right in your life. The teen years are the toughest time of your life. Everybody wants to look good, have friends, fit in, have a girl friend or boy friend, and have some independence.

    But, you'll get through it just like the rest of us did.
     
  15. mehgah

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    I think that's the case with a lot of the people here, helio. We are the people we want to be on the Internet. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, and because it's not people you know, you don't have to fear judgement. We see our faults in everyday life and fix them with our online personas.. I'm not a psychologist or anything, but in some way it must be some sort of release.
     
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