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Speaking as a big man myself, please allow me to offer the following suggestions.
1.) With respect to cervical pain, please speak to your doctor. He or she may see a cause other than the big penis.
2.) For some women, more time is required in the form of foreplay in order to accommodate the additional inches.
3.) Have you ever considered a sex toy of the same size to use when you are alone. It may help your body to adjust to a penis of that size.

Good luck.
 

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[And it turns out that for some people, direct stimulation of the cervix is highly pleasurable and even results in its own distinct genre of orgasm.]

Had no idea that was a thing. Thank you.

[For me, if the cock is in front of the cervix, it’s wonderful, and if it’s behind it, then I’m finished and need to curl up in a ball.]

I can't even picture that. Though also helpful to lpsgers.

[In my anecdotal experience, some men can correct with positioning and others are hopeless. It seems to depend on how in tune with their bodies they are, and particularly how sensitive their genitals are—how well they can feel where their penis is in vaginal space.]

Well i'm screwed.

[While I do think your sexual health and pleasure is, for the most part, in your own hands, it’s kind of a bummer that she’s the one asking this question and not him. I feel like if you have a big dick, the one downside is you need to learn how to wield it.]

Now i feel personally attacked. Also very helpful for lpsgers but man...i'm trying damnit!

[I can imagine it might be difficult to get honest feedback with the kind of nuance that helps one figure out exactly what spot to avoid? Like, when I’ve been punched in the back of the cervix, I’m definitely not on board for a “Does this hurt? How about now?” research mission.]

That's more than fair.

[It was the diva cup. It has to go way up in there, and then you have to squeeze it just right to get it sealed properly, so I spent a lot of time feeling around my cervix.]

First time hearing about that too.

[I don’t think lube is going to help the cervix issue. Heightened arousal might. It doesn’t for me, but that doesn’t mean anything for this woman’s body. I’m suspecting that he’s also significantly wide. Lube and arousal will absolutely help with accommodating girth.]

Hmm. Never thought that lube could help with that but i have read some comments from both men and women who do online. Also good information. The rest is also very good info. Thanks for the add.
 

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My penis head is the most sensible part so i don't need to enter my whole penis until hit the cervix, half is more than enough for me but there is some girls that are able to take more than that and is ok too.
 

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...waiting for Eeyore to show up and accuse others of humble-bragging, privileged, bitching and whining about something that isn't an actual problem, because even if they're doubled over in agony, teh wimmens all want crave desire lust after huge-ahhh peens.

Maybe that other guy can jump in, and conduct a social experiment demonstrating how this is all more evidence of the "phallocracy".

Then we'll have heard from all Three Stooges.
 
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[And it turns out that for some people, direct stimulation of the cervix is highly pleasurable and even results in its own distinct genre of orgasm.]

Had no idea that was a thing. Thank you.

[For me, if the cock is in front of the cervix, it’s wonderful, and if it’s behind it, then I’m finished and need to curl up in a ball.]

I can't even picture that. Though also helpful to lpsgers.

[In my anecdotal experience, some men can correct with positioning and others are hopeless. It seems to depend on how in tune with their bodies they are, and particularly how sensitive their genitals are—how well they can feel where their penis is in vaginal space.]

Well i'm screwed.

[While I do think your sexual health and pleasure is, for the most part, in your own hands, it’s kind of a bummer that she’s the one asking this question and not him. I feel like if you have a big dick, the one downside is you need to learn how to wield it.]

Now i feel personally attacked. Also very helpful for lpsgers but man...i'm trying damnit!

[I can imagine it might be difficult to get honest feedback with the kind of nuance that helps one figure out exactly what spot to avoid? Like, when I’ve been punched in the back of the cervix, I’m definitely not on board for a “Does this hurt? How about now?” research mission.]

That's more than fair.

[It was the diva cup. It has to go way up in there, and then you have to squeeze it just right to get it sealed properly, so I spent a lot of time feeling around my cervix.]

First time hearing about that too.

[I don’t think lube is going to help the cervix issue. Heightened arousal might. It doesn’t for me, but that doesn’t mean anything for this woman’s body. I’m suspecting that he’s also significantly wide. Lube and arousal will absolutely help with accommodating girth.]

Hmm. Never thought that lube could help with that but i have read some comments from both men and women who do online. Also good information. The rest is also very good info. Thanks for the add.
I think the "in front of/behind the cervix" is referring to what some here call the anterior and posterior fornices. The depth and angle of the cervix varies a lot among women, and changes during arousal phases. So what works at one moment for one woman can change a minute later, and may not work at all for another woman.

I found the statement that spontaneity was hurt by all this was rather interesting. In my opinion, all that changes is what constitutes "having sex". I'm in no rush to, nor even particularly always want to, pound away. My wife is the same....sometimes she wants slow and sensual, sometimes hard and furious. I respond accordingly. My responsibility is to gauge whether she is more sensitive and do whatever is needed. It works for us.
 
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Maybe that other guy can jump in, and conduct a social experiment demonstrating how this is all more evidence of the "phallocracy".

So far it seems to be simply an honest discussion of size issues. Nice to be able to adjust insertion to the needs of the case at hand unlike some of us.

On the other hand, the guy may not be as "great" a guy as the woman imagines. Maybe he's actually a covertly sadistic phallocrat unlike Mr. Kim, of course, who aims to hurt the cervix purposely for his own enjoyment..

I've heard that experienced big dickers can avoid smashing the cervix by pointing down towards the bed assuming the woman is lying on her back and thus be more likely to duck or slide under the cervix and fornices with less direct force and thus penetrate to the so-call cul de sac, the true end of the vaginal canal.

It's all hearsay and diagrams to me. You can't prove by me the cervix and fornices even exists other than pointing out that I was born. But, I never had the gall to raise the woman's legs over her shoulders to make sure I couldn't get to the cervix somehow. Women didn't suggest that either.