I tried, and I'm not into anal stuff

[zazoojason]

Exploring my more bi side. Loved sucking dick the first time, so I decided to see what anal would be like. I bought a dildo to try it out. And I struggled with it. Tough to even get the thing inside me, once it was there, the feeling wasn't enjoyable. I decided to try with a smaller toy, could defintely get this on in easier but still wasn't getting any pleasure from it. I sometimes have the fantasy of taking a guy in the ass but I think the pleasure is more from getting them off than it is about me.

Everytime I open up the hookup apps like sniffies, all i see are guys posting pump and dumps. Good on you dudes, I can't take one tiny dildo, y'all taking multiple big dudes in the same night.

 

[x911xxx]

First, when it comes to getting used to taking something up the butt I highly recommend that you start with butt plugs instead of a dildo. Get used to the feeling of being "full" and try to wear it longer and longer throughout the day. You'll learn to like this feeling to the point where not being plugged feels abnormal(I got to the is point).

Secondly, as you've discovered taking dick is very much mental. For me, I very much love being objectified and lusted over. Having a man use my ass as a tool for his pleasure turns me on, and is a big part of what makes it feel good. Once you get to the point of what I can only describe as "fuck yeah, fuck my ass deep" the pleasure will really start to kick in.

 

[halcyondays]

Yeah. You need to train your butt to relax and open. Get a set pf S/M/L butt plugs, a bottle of lube, a lube injector and an enema kit. Clean yourself out, lube up and gently insert the small plug. Keep it in only as long as it's comfortable which may be only a minute or two at first.

To open your hole push like you're defecating. This relaxes anal sphincter muscles. What lets poop out lets toys and cock in. Train a little every day keeping the small plug in longer and longer. Once you're comfortable with it do the same with the medium plug then the large.

You're training your hole to relax and be stretched open. It took me me two weeks of daily practice. It may be longer or shorter for you. The following week I had a horny top plowing away in me for the first time. Remember it's about pleasure not pain.

Good luck and enjoy it!

 

[BlackBearCognac]

I'm the same exact way. Sometimes we're simply not wired that way and that's okay.

I do love getting rimmed though. Have you tried that? It's like heaven.

I almost exclusively top, but occasionally flip fuck as long as long as they are quick to finish! I don't get very much out of it aside from the satisfaction of getting the guy off.

As long as everyone has a good time, don't worry too much about it.

 

[halcyondays]

Sometimes we're simply not wired that way and that's okay.

I started topping at 22 but didn't bottom until 40 because I received no pleasure whatever from anal play or penetration until then. Not sure why but I wasn't wired for anal pleasure until I got older.

 

[deleted2780451]

It's ok not to like anal, that doesn't take away from your sexual identity. I used to love it when I was younger, but these days I prefer just sucking cock unless they really want to fuck or if I'm REALLY horny. I will say toying your ass and being fucked feel totally different though.

 

[viscountwxyz]

Not wanting to do anal doesn't somehow mean you're not really into guys, and don't let anyone tell you different.

I'm 1000% into dudes exclusively and personally find anal absolutely repulsive.

 

[ILoveGames48]

Just because you don’t want to do anal doesn’t make you less gay than those that do.. ignore that post ..

There is the thing as well — never let a dildo judge your decision in doing bottom.. .. they don’t feel real or as good as a real cock

 

[FrankTO]

100% gay and I don't like anal. I wouldn't worry about it. I mean, my ex could only have an orgasm by rubbing against me, and absolutely hated having his balls touched in any way, so we're all different. Don't feel pressured into doing things you don't like. Didn't like being fucked when I tried it, and my husband, who is bi, doesn't want that either. Also you just can't be spontaneous with all the preparation that is required. It's a pain in the ass, literally.

 

[678wsb]

Not wanting to do anal doesn't somehow mean you're not really into guys, and don't let anyone tell you different.

I'm 1000% into dudes exclusively and personally find anal absolutely repulsive.

You find topping and bottoming both repulsive?

 

[deleted17065231]

Exploring my more bi side. Loved sucking dick the first time, so I decided to see what anal would be like. I bought a dildo to try it out. And I struggled with it. Tough to even get the thing inside me, once it was there, the feeling wasn't enjoyable. I decided to try with a smaller toy, could defintely get this on in easier but still wasn't getting any pleasure from it. I sometimes have the fantasy of taking a guy in the ass but I think the pleasure is more from getting them off than it is about me.

Everytime I open up the hookup apps like sniffies, all i see are guys posting pump and dumps. Good on you dudes, I can't take one tiny dildo, y'all taking multiple big dudes in the same night.

Anal play can't be rushed, you have to start small and SLOWLY work your way up in size. Start with a pinky finger well lubed and once comfortable with that go to the index finger, then ring finger, then middle finger. Once your good with the middle finger get a 1" butt plug. Go up 1/4" in size, don't try to rush. It should NOT hurt. Be sure to wash your hands and toys before play and after, hygiene is important. TAKE YOUR TIME!

You have to train your brain AND anus and that takes a little time.

 

[ariesgeorge]

Exploring my more bi side. Loved sucking dick the first time, so I decided to see what anal would be like. I bought a dildo to try it out. And I struggled with it. Tough to even get the thing inside me, once it was there, the feeling wasn't enjoyable. I decided to try with a smaller toy, could defintely get this on in easier but still wasn't getting any pleasure from it. I sometimes have the fantasy of taking a guy in the ass but I think the pleasure is more from getting them off than it is about me.

Everytime I open up the hookup apps like sniffies, all i see are guys posting pump and dumps. Good on you dudes, I can't take one tiny dildo, y'all taking multiple big dudes in the same night.

You won't like anal with every man every time you do it. The same goes for toys in your case. I'd say you need a little patience and a lot of exploration. Tips from other guys are important but it's really about what you enjoy. I'm generally a top but that doesn't mean I enjoy fucking every single thing out there. The tension that comes from fucking another person is a huge part of it. If you were giving yourself up to another guy that might get you in the mood as it were so that you could feel more sensations. Try using your fingers, slapping your hole, playing with your nipples and cock at the same time. That's the sort of stuff I do with a guy before I fuck him.

 

[Robert Dole]

It's important for a curious guy to be able to explore his curiosity in a comfortable way - for many curious guys, anything anal is strange, uncomfortable, shameful, dirty, and unpleasant if approached directly. However, finding that a certain touch while otherwise exploring is intensely pleasurable isn't forgotten quickly and often becomes curiosity in itself especially where imagination is involved- "I want to know more" becomes stronger.
I don't think OP's experience is an unusual one, in that several bi curious guys I've met have described the same thing either before or after finding that their anus is a pleasure hotspot they were unaware of. In one instance the guy wanted a blowjob and was definitely "don't touch my bum". After a slip of the tongue (literally) while licking his ball sack got a very positive response several other "slips" followed. Next time we met up he was keen for a repeat, a few licks lower and he was squirming. I suggested he get some lube and try a fingertip at first, he looked skeptical but next time we met he was quite sure lubed fingers were part of what he wanted...

 

[Infernal]

It can take time to learn what your body finds pleasurable when you're trying something new. It can take time for the nerves to figure out what works and what doesn't. I've rarely experienced pleasure from receiving anal. I've loved giving it, but being on the receiving end is different. There are times when I want it, but I've learned that it's not so much that I want a cock inside of me, it's a different level of physical intimacy that I'm craving. It's not painful, or uncomfortable, but it's rarely given me pleasure or gotten me off. The few times it has it was incredible.

Some guys don't enjoy anal. Their bodies aren't wired for it, and no matter what they do, they will never experience pleasure from it. That's fine. It's not for everyone. It doesn't hurt to keep experimenting. You may find that you enjoy it with someone else, but not by yourself, or maybe you like it by yourself, but not with someone else. The more you know your own body, the easier it can be to pleasure someone else.

 

[Mushrhoom]

Me too. Not my thing. I've been out for 50 years. I love cocks, but not into asses and don't want to be fucked. Some gay people can be obnoxious if you don't like what they like. Don't let anyone pressure you into something you don't like or tell you you're "not really gay". That's BS. You know what you like.

 

[thongboy]

100% gay and I don't like anal. I wouldn't worry about it. I mean, my ex could only have an orgasm by rubbing against me, and absolutely hated having his balls touched in any way, so we're all different. Don't feel pressured into doing things you don't like. Didn't like being fucked when I tried it, and my husband, who is bi, doesn't want that either. Also you just can't be spontaneous with all the preparation that is required. It's a pain in the ass, literally.

Different folks, different strokes. Always show respect. I have a buddy I'd love to fuck (the oral is sensational) but he isn't interested. His friendship is more important to me than a need to fuck him.

 

[BreedingEnjoyer]

Weird, I suck for a minimum of 20min, or at least try to lol. The longer I take usually the bigger the reward at the end.

 

[WilliamG]

As others said... Anal ain't for everyone. The problem for me on Sniffies is they all want to be bottoms (or just oral).

 

[cosatrit]

Anus is not a sexual organ...its primary purpose is to control the exit of feces from the body. Yes, it can be an erogenous zone just like some other parts of the human body (lips, ears, nipples, inner thigh etc) but they don't work the same for all.

Plus, anus is part of the digestive system which is exactly the same for both males and females of the species. Gay men can claim absolutely no extra qualities or characteristics of this specific orifice - therefore it's all in the brain.

 

[ariesgeorge]

Anus is not a sexual organ...its primary purpose is to control the exit of feces from the body. Yes, it can be an erogenous zone just like some other parts of the human body (lips, ears, nipples, inner thigh etc) but they don't work the same for all.

Plus, anus is part of the digestive system which is exactly the same for both males and females of the species. Gay men can claim absolutely no extra qualities or characteristics of this specific orifice - therefore it's all in the brain.

It's the stimulation of the prostate not the anus itself. Although there are many nerve endings than can definitely be erogenous.