I want my wife to feel a big cock

[Trott.lint]

@DaisyDoesIt & @CarlaM : And like I said------it's generally the guy who wants the big dick.

OK, I can understand why you'd say this. BUT... can it be true that the guy seeing his lady having sex with a bigger dick is enjoying it MORE than the two actually having sex? Surely not. Even here on LPSG, where the ladies shoot down every guy suggesting bigger may be better, there are enough comments from selfsame ladies indicating that sometimes bigger is definitely better. What you're saying is that the psychological pleasure received by the cuckold/hotwife husband etc etc exceeds the physical pleasure being received by the woman.

I'm not saying it's not true, as I don't have personal experience, but would appreciate an expansion of your comment.

 

[DaisyDoesIt]

Nah. He wants it for himself. No straight guy would ever want someone else having sex with his wife.

 

[Jeff Powers]

This is all so interesting to me to learn about. Quite honestly, I don't "get" the whole concept and, personally, I would be heart-broken if my wife took on some bigger/better guy. Im trying to figure out the psychology behind letting your wife hook up with another/bigger guy.

 

[Trott.lint]

Nah. He wants it for himself. No straight guy would ever want someone else having sex with his wife.

I disagree. I've met some who have. And while you can never truly know the sexuality of another, I'd gamble my house on the fact that the two guys I know who went this route are as straight as they come. And also, it wasn't about size.

 

[Trott.lint]

@Jeff Powers It has evolutionary echoes. According to evolutionary biologists, historically women were as promiscuous as men, explaining the larger male phallus. Sex was very much about the war of sperm inside the vagina rather than outside (in other words, women had sex with more than one guy to ensure she was impregnated by the best sperm - and the longer the penis, the closer it deposited the sperm to the cervix etc). That apparently also explains the cone-shape of the glans, which pulls sperm out of the vagina on the outward thrust; this would be most effective if the woman had sperm inside her from a previous encounter & a new lover's penis was then getting rid of the competition before he deposited his own.

This feeling of competitive excitement drives many males to want to be better, more effective lovers, they want to outdo the guy who went before them, and really the excitement and thrill would only apply if the guy who went before was much larger. Why would a large guy get all excited about competing if his rival had a small cock. An experiment was done showing guys who ehacilate after watching MFM porn produce far more sperm than those who ejaculate after watching MFF porn, because there's no drive to be competitive in the latter situation.

But humans have evolved and are now more geared towards falling in love for two years, giving them the opportunity to raise a child together. Hence, the importance of the whole male package rather than just penis size has been far more emphasised in our genes. Of course, that love often becomes deeper affection, which usually succeeds in seeing children growing up in a balanced, protective parent situation, instead of by just the female when there would be far more opportunity for things to go wrong.

Despite this, those deep primal urges in the male brain are still there. They still want to compete on size, get that thrill of thrusting deeper & harder to outdo the bigger male. In many males, this evolutionary desire has disappeared, particularly when they have nothing to feel inadequate about with respect to their penis size. Smaller guys are far more vulnerable to this complex/condition/fetish because the thrill if wanting to compete is like a sexual drug.

It stands to reason therefore that guys who love their gf's & wives will get far more of a thrill out of seeing her fuck a huge dick. Reason being that they have an emotional investment, it makes the situation more dangerous, they have more to lose. Suddenly there's a potent cocktail of physical and emotional neural fireworks.

The result doesn't work for most, and most can't understand it. But people who feel this way shouldn't be judged. Some of us are simple, others are more complex. That's just the way the world turns, and if they're not hurting anybody by trying to fulfil their desires, then it shouldn't bother others too much.

 

[Trott.lint]

^ I should add that there's a good chance that many of these guys are gay or bisexual, as @DaisyDoesIt says. And that's fine too, as long as they've been honest about this to both the other participants, nobody should take offense.

 

[CarlaM]

@DaisyDoesIt & @CarlaM : And like I said------it's generally the guy who wants the big dick.

OK, I can understand why you'd say this. BUT... can it be true that the guy seeing his lady having sex with a bigger dick is enjoying it MORE than the two actually having sex? Surely not. Even here on LPSG, where the ladies shoot down every guy suggesting bigger may be better, there are enough comments from selfsame ladies indicating that sometimes bigger is definitely better. What you're saying is that the psychological pleasure received by the cuckold/hotwife husband etc etc exceeds the physical pleasure being received by the woman.

I'm not saying it's not true, as I don't have personal experience, but would appreciate an expansion of your comment.

I didn't mean to imply I don't like the way a bigger guy feels, just that I think my husband liked wearing the big fake penis over his little one than I liked the feeling of the big fake penis in my vagina. It gave him more of an egg I boost than it gave me added pleasure. I'd just prefer a natural bare real penis to a rubber one.

 

[Uncutpete]

Nah. He wants it for himself. No straight guy would ever want someone else having sex with his wife.

Wait, wasn't it you who said that sentences that use "always and never" are wrong? How is saying "no straight guys would ever want..." any different?
Are you a guy? Are you a straight guy? Have you ever been in this situation? You are simply stating an opinion from one woman's point of view. You might say, "I can't imagine being a straight guy and wanting someone else to have sex with my wife."

On the other hand, I have been in dozens of situations with straight men who were delighted to watch me have sex with their wives, who in turn were delighted with the pleasure that I could give them. Obviously this doesn't appeal to you, and you can't imagine it appealing to other women or straight men. But it does. So perhaps broaden your perspective?

 

[Trott.lint]

@CarlaM That might explain a whole lot about why my extender does nothing for my gf, who definitely prefers larger. I never knew there was such a difference between an extender & a real penis. Damn! I'm just going to have to accept that there's nothing size-wise I can do to give her better orgasms (although having said that, the best orgasm I've ever seen her have was with a rabbit pressing on her g spot, and they're pretty hard & synthetic. She agreed that physically that was the best orgasm she's had while with me. It was a massive ego boost seeing how she reacted, unable to walk and panting afterwards, hence why I just don't want to give up)

 

[Jeff Powers]

Thanks Trott.lint, that perspective helps me to understand it a bit better. My wife and I have never even had a real discussion about it and I doubt she would ever even remotely entertain the idea of another guy screwing her as long as she's with me.

 

[Trott.lint]

@Jeff Powers No worries. I think the vast majority of women feel the same as your wife.

 

[Jeff Powers]

Well, hopefully I satisfy her enough with what I have so that she won't worry about another guy....at least as far as cock size is concerned.

 

[Trott.lint]

@w815 Not true in my case, and I'm sure I'm not alone. I'm bi & have had sex with men. All were blah experiences, regardless of cock size. I think there's an important distinction to be made here. You say guys coerce their women into these situations 'so they can live vicariously through them and get all the details of how it would feel and what not'. This may be true in many cases, but how do you explain men who have the opportunity to have sex with other men, and indeed whose women permit them to (a more common scenario than you'd like to imagine), but who still get their ultimate erotic kicks from the realization of straight sex? A powerful cocktail of emotional and physical neural activity is at play, and it can't simply be dismissed as the 'guys being in the closet'.

Any desire I have for mfm is related to my gf's pleasure - I'm intrigued by her enjoyment, completely entranced by the mysteries of female sexuality, and it would be the interaction of the other two people that would excite me, not the male (or his big dick) alone. That doesn't do anything for me unless a woman is involved. Humans are complex. They can't be pigeonholed. Trust me, I wish I was either gay or straight, life would be so much easier, mostly because most people are just convinced that if you're attracted to men but with a woman, you;re in the closet. Again, trust me, I'd rather it was that straightforward. Being bi is sexually brilliant because of the possibilities, but it's social torture because few make an effort to understand it, and plenty are quick to pass judgment on something they simply don't (or won't) understand.

 

[INS]

@CarlaM That might explain a whole lot about why my extender does nothing for my gf, who definitely prefers larger. I never knew there was such a difference between an extender & a real penis. Damn! I'm just going to have to accept that there's nothing size-wise I can do to give her better orgasms (although having said that, the best orgasm I've ever seen her have was with a rabbit pressing on her g spot, and they're pretty hard & synthetic. She agreed that physically that was the best orgasm she's had while with me. It was a massive ego boost seeing how she reacted, unable to walk and panting afterwards, hence why I just don't want to give up)

Really depends on the extender/dildo. Some are out there that feel real.

 

[Trott.lint]

@w815 Not asking you to explain it, or to pass judgment. 'Weird shit', like beauty, is pretty much in the eye of the beholder.

 

[Uncutpete]

It was a joke. You are a little over sensitive, chill bro.

Bro - It would be better, when a guy has trusted the thread and been really open in discussing this kind of thing, if you didn't call his desires "weird shit." It's like, we all don't really need to know your casual, un-thought-out opinion.

 

[Trott.lint]

@w815 Well you're right that as a public forum it isn't like AA or therapy. But yr comment just came off as a bit dismissive in context. Maybe it got lost in translation. Whatever the case, I'm now chilling (-:

 

[twoton]

As a fantasy, it's one thing. In real life, I'd be too jealous to handle it well. Not that my wife would be at all interested anyway. She had her experiences and put them behind her when we started dating. And she knows how I wouldn't handle it.

Besides, I can give her all the big cock she'd ever want.

 

[Wantanine]

This is all so interesting to me to learn about. Quite honestly, I don't "get" the whole concept and, personally, I would be heart-broken if my wife took on some bigger/better guy. Im trying to figure out the psychology behind letting your wife hook up with another/bigger guy.

Can't explain it. But I love the thought of my work getting fucked by a big cock and filled with his cum

 

[Wantanine]

Can't explain it. But I love the thought of my work getting fucked by a big cock and filled with his cum

Wife not work