I'd like to hear guys opinions on this, straight & gay...

[insert_8]

Yes, a naked-genital orgasm inside your partner is DEFINITELY related to greater intimacy. Knowing that my bare penis was releasing my seed into her willing and receptive vagina was definitely a psychological aspect when my wife and I took each other's virginity. But I don't know which comes first: the attachment and intimacy, or the bareback sex.

 

[hairyversmuscle]

Only have done it with a trusted BF... I don't think it made a difference. I actually prefer it coating me than in me!

 

[ellehutton]

still curious....

 

[B_pussylover10]

As per me having sex with outside cumming is just a sexuality. But depositing cum inside or permission to deposit the cum inside develops some relationship beyond sex. The out put of deposited cum (pregnency) is a different issue, but some one takes my seed inside is a respectable feeling both ways. The girls which i had sex with cummed inside and cummed out side or in a condom, i experienced the difference in attachment when we met again. This is my personal experience with.

 

[ellehutton]

 

[D_Madam_Ovary]

I think it does feel more intimate personally, because there are no boundaries. I was thrilled when my wife went on birth control back in college so that we could do that (until the birth control eventually began killing her sex drive, and then it wasn't really worth the trade off).

There is also a territorial aspect in a way I think, of a guy leaving his "mark" on a girl. When we were still dating in college and my wife and I got back together after a break up and eventually admitted she had been with someone else, it came out that their first time he had gone bareback and cum in her, completely unprotected with no birth control or anything (she got VERY lucky nothing happened as a result). Since I had never cum in her or not used a condom ever, and didn't for a long time after that, there was definitely this strange feeling that another guy had full, unprotected access and use of her pussy well before I ever got to, like he was the first guy to actually "mate" with her in the animalistic sense, and even when I finally did get to finish in her, she was on birth control so it was still protected in that regard.

This sounds sort of familiar to me. My first 'real' boyfriend (who I lost my virginity to) would never cum inside me. He didn't have much faith in the pill (or perhaps me) and he was all about the visual aspect.

After a couple of years we broke up... and then 9 months later bumped into each other again. It was never discussed, but we both knew the other had moved on since then, but the attraction was still really strong and one thing led to another and we ended up having a short, but very intense reunion.

I remember wondering at the time what the hell had changed - the sex was more rough than it had been (in a good/feral kind of way) with hair-yanking and biting hard enough to leave marks and he came inside me every single time. It was like he was trying to prove something. It wasn't long before we split up for good, but I remember feeling completely content while it lasted.

 

[Gecko4lif]

As of yet. No.

Come back in 10 years and ill tell you if it has changed.

 

[D_Doe_Ray_Mi]

Interesting question to ponder. I'd say yes it does feel more intimate. First is the intimacy of being invited or permitted to cum in her and the free feeling in her vagina and feeling my cum coating us as I thrust after I've cum in her. In the last 15 years every woman that I've had sex with insisted that I not use the condom that I was about to don. Guess they prefer the intimacy too. Also my ejaculations are kind of explosive and once they've experienced that they love it!

 

[D_ewjjde]

For me its not so much cumming inside of a woman, but when we climax together. That's what gets me the most, when we hit that point in synchronization.

 

[ellehutton]

Loves it.
Great honest responses-

I have to say the guy i mentioned in the initial post has decided to become a typical L.A jerk and stop talking to me...
What bugs me most though is that i feel connected to him because of this act (i think he could give a damn) and i have even been desperate for him because it effected me so much, but i don't love him.

It's just how often does your DNA go inside someone else? It can't be meaningless.
Kinda hurts that it meant nothing to him like it did to me but reading all these varied responses is very nice & hopefully i can put it in perspective.