Stay in close contact, meet her friends, and build a social network. Cute coworkers have cute friends, and you don't have to deal with the drama at work. It's always good to make close, nonsexual relationships with an attractive girl or group of girls. I've used my clutch set of cute girls to help out in relationship troubles.
I thought we were friends............
+1; bigdog83, hopefully you paid for your part of the lunch and she only had to pay for hers.
And, are you actually trying to date this girl? If you even think you are, stop it, and don't try. Dating coworkers rarely goes well, if ever.
Lastly, don't change your mind so quickly about her. Just because she didn't go to lunch with you a second time (and besides, it's just lunch) doesn't make her a bitch.
Speaking of "it's just lunch" -- there's a dating service in some cities called, "It's Just Lunch." They hook you up with other possible matches with the idea of meeting for lunch instead of a full-blown date. More personal than speed dating, less time commitment than a night out.
i paid for me, and she paid for her.
I've slept with a lot of women from various employers and it never worked out well. Even dating can get strange. I know several couples that met at work and eventually married and had no issues, so marriage may be the variable.
Frame it a bit. How did she turn down the lunch invitation. Was it:
"I already have plans", or "I have to finish this project, maybe some other time".
or
"Are you out of your mind, eat with you? I would rather stick a pencil in my eye".
The first one is easy, wait a couple of days and ask her again. If it is the second one it depends on how much you want to screw with it and how good of a salesman you are.
me:hey wanna do lunch again?
her
h, i dunno.......depends what im doing(same thing she said before).......even though i shouldnt.
me:what?
her:im really busy, trying to save money, watching what i spend, going back to school, trying to only take 30mins..........and i think she kept going but i tuned her out after 30secs of this crap.
me:well ok just let me know if you wanna go sometime.
her:i will.
im sorry but maybe its just the way i am, but i was never rude or anything to deserve that. i think it was a big fuck off in a nice kind of way. and thats fine, but dont try and act like a friend the next day. ive knowed her for 2 months, pretty much always talk, seemed like good friends, never asked her to hang out after work, never asked for her phone number. since when dont co-workers go out to lunch?
she could of just said, shes busy or no thanks,.......and i would of respect that. but i think responding the way she did in this context is the same as saying fuck off you dont even stand a chance.
i think she went out almost everyday that week too. just think how i felt.........
besides all the get the fuck outta here girls, ive had a girl tell me......"i dont stand a chance, nothing will ever happen, and there will never be us, and we can only be friends"....i told her, "WELL! that is the coolest thing a chick as ever told me, and yes i will be friends". we hung out almost every weekend for the next few months with all our friends, and still talk.
the problem is, i dont talk to her because of this, and she wont leave me alone. what i mean is at first she wouldnt leave me alone she would always try starting converstaion, joke, hi......i just didnt want to talk to her because i still stand by that i felt she was rude(my terms, a bitch) by what she did. but now she really wont leave me alone.......and purposely going out of her way to try and make me jealous and mess with me. so now i reallyyyyyyyyyyyyy dont wanna talk to her at all because of this.
just leave me alone, thats all i want.
