i think i sort of understand where you coming from. You went to lunch as just co-workers and she blew you off the next time you asked her.
But what was really on both minds was "date" pretending to be co-worker lunch because u mentioned "didnt pay..not to seem like a date".. thats not the real reason people dont pay for each other at collegial lunches, this means probably all the other aspects of the "lunch" felt like a date to her.
The thing is most guys here are missing the point, the girl knew what she was doing (most guys would have taken the elaborate story as it is...) but you caught her lie out, and she knows it.
Now she is trying to "make-up" with you..
I sense you liked her a little and maybe still do.
What you have to do is treat her like any other co-worker. Dont go out of your way to talk to her, but dont be mean to her either. Also dont try to find out what she is up to.
But importantly NEVER ask for lunch again with her, never suggest anything to her again until she has suggested eg lunch more that once. And even if she asks for lunch again, say you are "busy, and you'll tell her when u're free..." And obviously dont.
She'll probably ask you again and then u say not today but can do e.g wednes..
Then you back to normal "friends" again.
But please IF you go out to lunch again, treat her like a co-worker, dont think of it as a date pretending to be lunch.
By treating her as a co-worker, you dont lose face by being jealous "making me jealous" and gradually out of sight out of mind. ( i know the paradox of out of sight in the work place but you dont really notice or see the co-workers you dont care about and even if you work in the same environment)
But what was really on both minds was "date" pretending to be co-worker lunch because u mentioned "didnt pay..not to seem like a date".. thats not the real reason people dont pay for each other at collegial lunches, this means probably all the other aspects of the "lunch" felt like a date to her.
The thing is most guys here are missing the point, the girl knew what she was doing (most guys would have taken the elaborate story as it is...) but you caught her lie out, and she knows it.
Now she is trying to "make-up" with you..
I sense you liked her a little and maybe still do.
What you have to do is treat her like any other co-worker. Dont go out of your way to talk to her, but dont be mean to her either. Also dont try to find out what she is up to.
But importantly NEVER ask for lunch again with her, never suggest anything to her again until she has suggested eg lunch more that once. And even if she asks for lunch again, say you are "busy, and you'll tell her when u're free..." And obviously dont.
She'll probably ask you again and then u say not today but can do e.g wednes..
Then you back to normal "friends" again.
But please IF you go out to lunch again, treat her like a co-worker, dont think of it as a date pretending to be lunch.
By treating her as a co-worker, you dont lose face by being jealous "making me jealous" and gradually out of sight out of mind. ( i know the paradox of out of sight in the work place but you dont really notice or see the co-workers you dont care about and even if you work in the same environment)