If a Guy Who's Not Attracted to Men Lets a Guy Blow Him, Does That Make Him Bi?

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  1. JAGCO1

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    I have a huge hung friend who's not attracted to men, but lets me blow him while he watches straight porn and does not reciprocate. Does this make him bi?
     
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    i'd go with definitely, for now...?
     
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    Again with the labels
     
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    Idk. It's iffy for me. Most of the time I think of labels such as gay, straight and bi to have less to do with who you have sex with and to be more about who you have relationships with. This may seem strange but in these times everyone seems to be moving towards the 'if it feels good do it factor', which when it comes to sex makes things very hard to label. I mean,...yeah...he's letting you suck him off...but he's not really acknowledging you and your sex isn't a factor at all for him most likely. It feels good. You're more of a pleasure hole at that point and not really thought of as male or female. (That wasn't meant to be derogatory in any way btw.)
     
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    If a gay guy got head from a girl (hypothetically), would that make him straight?

    I don't think a single homosexual act makes someone gay. If you genuinely like guys and girls then yeah you'd be bi. If you'd only ever be with a girl, but are open to a guy sucking you off I'd say less so.
     
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    NOPE....just means he is doing his friend a favor by letting you suck him off....think of it that way....he is agreat friend....NOW DO IT AGAIN AND THANK HIM....and do not mention this to him..silly man.
     
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    Nope, cause oral sex ain't sex. According to Bill Clinton.
     
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    Hmmmm. No, not IMO. I think the BI line is drawn with kissing a guy.
     
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    as long as everyone is safe and having a good time, what does it matter?
     
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    Bloody good point, I imagine few people look at it this way.

    I think the lines between classical stereotypical definitions of straight and gay are becoming more and more blurred.

    Yes there are people that personify the stereotype of straight and gay but I think increasingly there is a massive group in the middle of men and women, (talking men here though) that are not adverse to getting there ego stroked and kicks through a little none committed M on M interaction behind closed doors.

    There are gay guys who don't touch anal, so a straight guy getting off by another man, no surprise.

    Labels as people have pointed out are meaningless yet sought after things, to my mind 'bi' is what covers everything in the middle of classically straight and gay which is lacking the depth and width needed to cover the spectrum of human (male) sexuality.
     
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    I've had sex with women and I don't think that makes me straight in the slightest.
     
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    I don't see how he could be considered bi if he's not attracted to men. He seems to be doing his best to ignore you and focus on the blowjob.
     
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    i agree with everyone who says to just get on with the job and stop with the labels.
    Ultimately though, it does not make him bi it makes him selfish and you very lucky
     
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    He couldn't be a horny gay dude who likes to relax and be serviced without wanting to reciprocate? Would that ruin the hookups?:confused:
     
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    That or you're an awesome friend.
     
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    An opprotunist!
     
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    makes him gay
     
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    I don't think it makes you homosexual or hetrosexual, just "sexual". I have a hetrosexual friend that I "help" out from time to time because his wife won't perform oral sex on him.
     
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    No, it just makes him horny and practical. Wish there were more dudes like that.
     
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