If I Were Gay

[joeweekend]

OH yeah, definitely.

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[Tommy56]

This is an interesting topic to me. Since I started exploring sex with other men a few of years ago, I have had more encounters than I believe I would have had with the opposite sex. This may be my own inability to interact with women in a way that leads to sex, as opposed to the directness that seems to come easier with guys, I don't know. But I've had more sex with guys in three years compared to very few prospects with women.

 

[D_Petherick_Poundlouder]

Ladies should be glad that guys like you exist.

Thanks.

I'm starting to think most of the population is where I am though. Most straight men just don't get as much sex as they want. I'd say like 80% dont. That includes those getting it 10 times a week.

 

[B_Artful Dodger]

If i were gay, i would get with loads of other sexy women.

Lol. Couldn't resist :biggrin1:

 

[MarkLondon]

If you were gay you'd theoretically have more opportunity for anonymous brief encounters. Often with "straight" men. Whether you'd act on that would be up to you. Your chances of finding a stable relationship would probably be less. It's swings and roundabouts! No lifestyle is perfect.

 

[Countryguy63]

Yes and No

There are lots of males out there looking for sex, so chances are high that there would be more opportunities.
However, if you have any type of standards that you try and stick to, I feel that it really makes no difference, gay or str8.

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

This is from a Sociology professor friend of mine who has specialized in sex and religion. The religion doesn't come into play here, but he says that men typically want sex earlier in the relationship than women do. Studys show gay couples have the most sex, then straight couples, then lesbian couples. His explanation is that male couples have two people wanting sex fast and often, mixed couples have one fast and one "slow" [to sex] partner, and female couples have two slow partners. A very broad generalization (and there are exceptions to everything) but I would say yes, gay men in large cities probably have more sex than anyone other group. On the other hand gay men in small isolated towns or rural areas probably have much less sex than their het counterparts due to lack of partners.

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

I think I'd get a lot more sex. Is that a valid statement? A lot of gay guys here to share their opinion.

A lot of gay men have (tried) flirted with me. I guess I can say the same for women, but as all us know it gets a lot more complicated than simply flirting with women. And I get why, sometimes I love (or loathe) why, but it is what it is.

I'm not gay. So I will forever have to deal with the beautiful mess called women. But I wonder...if I was, how active would this seemingly average joe sex life of mine be.

If you were gay, Ajoi, and lived near me, I'd be bugging you every day about sucking that gorgeous cock of yours.....

 

[midlifebear]

OH yeah, definitely.

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Most definitely. Joeweekend's blog is worth the visit. So nice to know youngn's are keeping up a grand old tradition. If you were gay, you'd undoubtably be on Joeweekends regular door-bell trade list. :wink:

 

[jdoe86]

Homosexuality equals promiscuity... I think they did a study on this somewhere. At least if you were going out to bathhouses and adult book sores cruising for action, it would be a lot easier than going to a regular bar trying to pick up on a girl.

"The good thing about being bisexual is that it doubles your chance of a date on a Saturday night."

Woody Allen

 

[tray22nc]

Homosexuality equals promiscuity...

:wtf1:

Are you kidding me right now with this?? That is like saying heterosexuality equals being a dumbass. I know straight people (both men and women) who are WAY more promiscuous than most gay people I know.

 

[D_Jerry_Atric]

Homosexuality equals promiscuity... I think they did a study on this somewhere. At least if you were going out to bathhouses and adult book sores cruising for action, it would be a lot easier than going to a regular bar trying to pick up on a girl.

:wtf1:

Are you kidding me right now with this?? That is like saying heterosexuality equals being a dumbass. I know straight people (both men and women) who are WAY more promiscuous than most gay people I know.

I agree.

Not all bisexual or gay men are as highly promiscuous as society, heterosexuals, and people in this thread assume that most or all gay or bisexual men are or somehow will be highly promiscuous by default or stereotype.

I'm not heterosexual and I'm not into being promiscuous or having sex with random men who I don't know that well, or know at all.

Most of my bisexual and gay male friends are the same way since we're more relationship oriented, can be picky, and prefer having sex with someone who we're in a relationship with and not someone who we don't know at all or who we barely know.

I know some gay and bisexual men who are single, celibate, and haven't had any sex or a relationship in years.

I'm not into having sex with strangers, going to bath houses, having sex with random people in parks or other public places where public sex goes on, I'm not into having sex with random people off the internet, and I only go to adult bookstores to buy porn and sex toys.

I have been successful meeting people at bars to have as partners, and the very few one night stands I've had that I didn't really enjoy I met in bars but we did lots of very safe sex.

 

[Rowan Ravenseed]

I agree.

Not all bisexual or gay men are as highly promiscuous as society, heterosexuals, and people in this thread assume that most or all gay or bisexual men are or somehow will be highly promiscuous by default or stereotype.

I'm not heterosexual and I'm not into being promiscuous or having sex with random men who I don't know that well, or know at all.

Most of my bisexual and gay male friends are the same way since we're more relationship oriented, can be picky, and prefer having sex with someone who we're in a relationship with and not someone who we don't know at all or who we barely know.

I know some gay and bisexual men who are single, celibate, and haven't had any sex or a relationship in years.

I'm not into having sex with strangers, going to bath houses, having sex with random people in parks or other public places where public sex goes on, I'm not into having sex with random people off the internet, and I only go to adult bookstores to buy porn and sex toys.

I have been successful meeting people at bars to have as partners, and the very few one night stands I've had that I didn't really enjoy I met in bars but we did lots of very safe sex.

Oh dang you so pretty i was hoping we could be promiscuis together

 

[B_Hung Jon]

Thanks.

I'm starting to think most of the population is where I am though. Most straight men just don't get as much sex as they want. I'd say like 80% dont. That includes those getting it 10 times a week.

It's just my experience but I've found that the more a person "wants" sex, the more it won't happen for them. Sexuality is more complex than just trying to "get some". I person can have a huge amount of sex and still not be satisfied. It takes something else to appreciate yourself and others. When you find that something, then sex will just be a part of who you are rather than a thing to try to get.

 

[D_Jerry_Atric]

Oh dang you so pretty i was hoping we could be promiscuis together

Heh I see nothing wrong with being a total PIG with certain select partners, like a partner/boyfriend.

My then boyfriend called me a pig and spit in my mouth after we did lots of wrestling and consensual light choking, face slapping, and hand and glove (he was wearing my leather cop gloves) over mouth and lots of giving fellatio and 69ing.

I found it all highly romantic and sexy!

If I could have slept with His cock in my mouth and throat all night I would have, but the first thing I did after I woke up was suck him off.

The whole bondage/SM/kink thing is another factor why I don't have sex all that often as I know that not too many men or even women are into it, and even the sites like recon and other ones are full of flakes.

 

[D_Petherick_Poundlouder]

When you find that something, then sex will just be a part of who you are rather than a thing to try to get.

Yep. Its about natural charm.

 

[D_Petherick_Poundlouder]

Some of those men wouldn't want you if you were gay.

Hm...weird. Why?

 

[HUNGHUGE11X7]

I think I'd get a lot more sex. Is that a valid statement? A lot of gay guys here to share their opinion.

A lot of gay men have (tried) flirted with me. I guess I can say the same for women, but as all us know it gets a lot more complicated than simply flirting with women. And I get why, sometimes I love (or loathe) why, but it is what it is.

I'm not gay. So I will forever have to deal with the beautiful mess called women. But I wonder...if I was, how active would this seemingly average joe sex life of mine be.

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Its a curious thing, gayness. I've talked to people about it. Specifically gay people.
. I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality.

ummmmhmmm this is WHY you are either constantly pontificating about it or either delivering a preponderance of protestations to prove a point . I would be willing to bet my inheritance we will see you flailing about on a float in a WEHO pride parade not too far in the future .



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[scottredleter]

The thing that gay men and straight men share more than any other single thing is that we behave the same way sexually... there just aren't as many women out there willing to have quick anonymous sex as gay men are, so we gay men can find it way easier. I don't think I ever got together with a man for sex thinking, "now this guy can really provide for my security." If something happens beyond the sex, then that's great, but it's never been how I picked a sex partner. I think women are wired much differently then men (all kinds). there are a lot of reasons for this... and I think it's understandable that over the centuries women have had to be more careful... they are the ones who get pregnant, they have been more vulnerable physically and in general have a lot more to loose from sleeping around.

 

[KTF40]

This gay guy wrote this post on craigslist. Some of it I agree with, some I don't. But still some good points in here.

"I don't blame you for sometimes wanting to be bi.

When it comes to sex, men have to do SO much to get women even INTERESTED in sex:

1). First you have to ask her out -- this makes her feel wanted, special, pursued. (That's why she won't ever ask a *man* out; she'd lose out on feeling "pursued".)

2). Then you have to spend money on her -- appetizer, dinner, dessert, drinks, movie, more drinks after movie. (She feels she "deserves" all this free stuff because she's allowing you to breathe the same air as her.)

3). Then you have to assuage her insecurities, which emerge in the form of unspoken demands: "Make me feel PRETTY! Make me feel SPECIAL! Make me feel INTELLIGENT! Make me feel LOVED!" And, the most important, "Make me feel that I've 'won' over all the other competitive women in this room!"

4). Then you've got hours of foreplay.

5). Then you have to try to get HER off, which is like raising the Titanic.

Meanwhile, with gay guys, you don't have to spend your bank account on them; they don't treat sex like a reward for buying them a meal, or a dozen roses, or jewelry. With men, gay men and straight men alike, sex itself IS the reward, and doesn't need to be preceded by socially acceptable bribes like fancy dinners, an assload of compliments, or having to listen to 3 hours of conversation about all the Manolo Blahnik shoes a woman has amassed for herself.

Plus, a LOT of women have an absurbly inflated sense of self, and what they bring to the table, so that alone makes dealing with them annoying. "But I'm PRETTY," some random Princess might say. "That means that everything should be GIVEN to me, and everything revolves around what ***I*** want!"

I thank God *EVERY SINGLE DAY* that I'm gay . . ."


With gay dudes, I just take my shirt off and they are crawling all over me. Never the case with women. So yeah, I can understand why a straight guy would want to be gay.