If money isn't everything...

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Older people sometimes lie and say that money isn't everything. It's just the start of everything! So I lived most of my life wasting time because I didn't think money would be very important. Obviously I was wrong.

However, now that I have mostly just enough money to live on, I find myself wondering what it's like to feel loved. Would you say you feel loved in your relationship now? Have you in the past? How does that influence your perspective? What does it feel like?

I don't know why I'm asking this really. Maybe I want to know whether I might be missing out on something or whether love's a big, sloppy, messy, painful waste of energy. What do you think?
 

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love is all that but still we want and or need company so if you want to find love go for it but your heart will get hurt a few times before you do if you want true love get a dog cheers
 

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What good is wealth and fame?
Fine clothes and diamond rings?
It just don't mean a thing if you ain't got love! ``Dolly Parton

Money doesn't buy everything, but it will buy the kind of misery you can enjoy!


I grew up poor and ragged. I worked hard when I had nothing and grew it into something major. I was rich and set for life. At 28 my dad and I wrongfully trusted the "medical community" without question. They killed him and wiped me out financially, breaking my spirit the whole way.

Looking back, the happiest times for me was when I had no or little money. I suppose that one finds a way to be happy when they have nothing.
 

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Money is highly important. You need it to travel and close gaps - you need a GOOD amount of it to eat RIGHT (eating healthy IS more expensive) - you need money to get a decent education without swimming in debt - you need money to properly care for a pet while properly supporting yourself and possibly others.... etc. etc. etc.
 

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People always say money can't buy happiness, and that's great and all, but I'd rather just be upset about not having love instead of upset about not having love in addition to; wondering how the rent will be paid, having the lights turned back on, trying to get the car out of impound...
 

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money is not everything but love does not pay the bills.

When in a relationship, especially if both are planning to or are living together, each has to make an effort to pay their fair share of the bills. No matter who makes more.

Once again I find myself unemployed but I still have some money saved to pay for my next date.
 

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what do you guys think of a relationship where one partner makes millions and the other just maybe a hundred thousand a year? I mean, please share what you think about this, in every way possible, like scenarios, good/bad idea, ego, pride....
 

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Unless you're freaking Survivor Man who can live in the forest, build your own shelter, hunt/pick your own food, start your own fire... etc, money is survival.

what do you guys think of a relationship where one partner makes millions and the other just maybe a hundred thousand a year? I mean, please share what you think about this, in every way possible, like scenarios, good/bad idea, ego, pride....


Are you asking whether someone making millions can get along with someone making less? My answer is ... "why not?". If they disrespect each other because of their money making egos of course it's not going to work.
 

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I think that suggesting either love or money is enough to live well on is silliness. Of course in our modern silly society you need money to live. We've set the whole damn place up so that money is indispensable.

That said, human beings cannot function without love. We're built to require connection, contact, and caring from others. Money, meanwhile, is only useful inasmuch as it can get you things. As the old saying goes, you can't eat money.
 

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Love is worth far more than money. Money can buy you nice things, and if material things make you happy, then it will buy you happiness. That is until something new comes along and you find yourself longing for it. What you actually have is material jealousy, not happiness. Money can buy you love - fake love - at least until the money runs out.

I was very poor as a child, but I had love, and what I didn't have wasn't important to me. Now my partner and I live comfortably and yet none of the material things we have matter because we have each other.
 

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I enjoy my posessions and other things that money can buy like travel, entertainment, a nice home etc. But I don't have love, so is it worth chasing? I'm not really unhappy now. I've only ever been let down by love, so I doubt it can bring happiness. I could be selfish I guess. People who make promises and then just dump me are a PITA. Any other views?
 

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I enjoy my posessions and other things that money can buy like travel, entertainment, a nice home etc. But I don't have love, so is it worth chasing?

Fuck yes. But: What are you looking for? If you've got some bullshit Hollywood ideal of what love looks like, you're in for a rough go of it. That whole "happily ever after" thing is utter tripe that glosses over all the difficulties in maintaining a healthy adult attachment.

Love is wonderful, nourishing, liberating; it makes you feel safe, cared-for, and understood. But it takes work. It takes practice, patience, and a whole lot of compassion.

People who make promises and then just dump me are a PITA. Any other views?

Yeah they are, but they've also let you know by their actions that you were barking up the wrong tree.

Love may be a lot of work, and a lot of pain in the ass, but the benefits far outweigh the difficulties. Also, it's one of those things in life in which the pains can help you grow, learn, and become a better person.

Don't give up on loving relationships because of some failures. Failure has an undeserved bad reputation. It's mainly through failure that we grow.
 

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Personally dont think money plays a role with Love
Surely love overrules the $ sign, that only eases your way thru .. till you run out?
Think its stupid to spend a lifetime accumulating the $, only to depart without it.

Going to live an unhappy aged life out, if there are any regrets about not having spent your earning life accumulating, esp the almighty $ ..
I can happily live very well on several hundred a week, and thats paying rent.
 

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Fuck yes. But: What are you looking for? ....all the difficulties in maintaining a healthy adult attachment.
....It takes practice, patience, and a whole lot of compassion.

Love may be a lot of work, and a lot of pain in the ass, but the benefits far outweigh the difficulties. Also, it's one of those things in life in which the pains can help you grow, learn, and become a better person.

Don't give up on loving relationships because of some failures. Failure has an undeserved bad reputation. It's mainly through failure that we grow.
Thanks for your thoughtful response, this is the kind of stuff I'm trying to make my mind up about. Still I'm not convinced yet that there's anything out there for me. Any more people want to offer their experiences? Also I'd like to know how it makes you feel. Is it more than 50/50 Happiness v's PITA? :confused:
 

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It depends from person to person. Ultimately though, the final goal is happiness, in its various forms. Yes, some people's idea of "happiness" might be pretty gruesome to others, etc. Money is useless unless you buy something with it. And why do you buy something? To make you happy, directly or indirectly.

In short - how much money matters to you depends purely on how expensive the pursuit to happiness is.
 
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Money doesn't buy you happiness.

Buts it's nicer to cry in a Mercedes than in the rain.

The moderate amount of money/credit that I have has made me happier and more contented than any one individual has - because they always f&$/@ing leave! There's always a good reason why they can't love me or that they'll be better off with someone else or that they have just moved on or they didn't realize until too late that it wasn't love. I'm never the right person at the right time. Men are either fakes or flakes or not interested or just too gutless. :mad:

Somebody want to prove me wrong? :confused: