If The Majority of Women Can't Cum From Vaginal Sex

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I have already stated i can. Some women can, i don't know about other women because i am not them.

I think it comes down to the woman in question.:smile:
thank you!

you just don't know until you've fucked ten miles in another woman's cunt.

we're all different.
 

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I've never had an orgasm from vaginal sex alone, nor have I ever had one from recieving oral. I've been close, but haven't gotten there yet.
I can cum easily from playing with my clit, which I do while having sex.
Maybe I've been masturbating for so many years, that it's the only way I can cum. I don't know. I don't know if I can actually cum from vaginal sex alone, because it would take me a while and no guy I've been with has ever had enough patience.
Have I faked an orgasm? Yes, I'll admit I have. Usually cause the guy kept trying to pressure me into "finally" cumming that I gave up trying and just faked one. Sad and wrong of me, I know.
One guy, actually the first one, that ever gave me oral and was bragging about how good he is at it, gave up after trying to get me to orgasm after about 20 minutes or so, got really upset and left. God damn, I was only 19.
 
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Sometimes I cum from vaginal sex; sometimes I cum from vaginal sex, but I need to rub my clit at the same time; sometimes I can't cum from vaginal/clit sex at all. Generally, I'm an orgasm machine, rolling out one after the other; sometimes there's only one.

I'm only one woman and I can be unpredictable. Every woman is going to be different.

As to "the majority of women" not being able to cum from vaginal sex and thus needing to fake....I gave up faking long before I finished Uni. If it's not going to happen, I just tap out, call a time out for water and a snack. I'm more than eager to give him a 'happy ending' if he wants a finish and I can't. Otherwise I can do it myself - he can watch if he likes. :biggrin1:
 
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I started seeing this girl when she had just broken up with her bf...one week before she and I had sex. He was so large that he stretched her out in every direction. She has told me in the 1.5 years they fucked, she only came once vaginally. Then I come along literally while she is still stretched out from this dude and I gave her 5 or 6 vaginal orgasms in one month alone. The last time we had sex, I was even partially limp because I was upset with her...and she still had a vaginal orgasm. Things weren't going to work out for other reasons...so I tried to break things off...she still follows me to this day, wanting to get back together. So go figure, the huge dick couldnt get "it" done but I could. She did say his was "fun", being so large, but that I hit her spot while he hit "every" spot. So I dont really know how that works but hey women are complex creatures. She did say I was her biggest besides her ex....and one other dude she had a one night stand with.
 

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I have never subscribed to this so-called statistic about women being unable to orgasm during vaginal penetration. All things are possible if it is led up to with the correct partner and an open mind.

For yes, a large amount of one's pleasure depends upon the mind. That is why there exists the saying 'in the mood'. Orgasm is the cherry on top of a complete composition. The mindset, or mood, cannot be neglected as an ingredient.

Those who say they are 'unable' have simply not done it yet. Perhaps they have other more important priorities, such as career, social status, or keeping their present partner despite bedroom shortcomings.

Anything that can bring orgasm while in the vagina is proof that it is possible. What other stimuli you add to the mix will vary. Nobody orgasms from simply having their slot filled. It's how, and under what circumstances.

I agree about not neglecting mindset, but otherwise I'm completely with dolfette here. You talk about "other more important priorities" and the need for "the correct partner and an open mind" - that really is very condescending to those that don't have vaginal orgasms. Not to mention it upholds what I thought was mainly a man myth, i.e. 'you just haven't been fucked right yet'. But it seems some women believe this myth too.

as far as faking orgasm, i can understand why it's done but i do feel for those women.

Before you 'feel for those women' perhaps you'd like to consider women like dolfette who can have an absolutely great time fucking and faking. Perhaps each woman is different and each enjoys sex in her own way and on her own terms and doesn't want or need anyone's sympathy.

utter rot.

utter patronising rot at that. the assumption that not a single one of these vast numbers of women has the sexual maturity and open mind that you have?

the arrogance of that is astounding!

Yeah - it kinda shocked me coming from helg, too. :frown1:

Maybe I've been masturbating for so many years, that it's the only way I can cum.

MYTH!!

I just can't accept this stupid fucking belief that women can desensitise themselves to orgasm with a partner through wanking. I hear loads of different versions of it. 'Oh you mustn't use a vibe, you'll get used to cumming that way then a cock will be no good to you', 'oh you mustn't rub your clit like that because then you'll only be able to make yourself cum and be ruined for any poor man that wants to tame you with his woman conquering meat sword of O!'.

Utter, utter shit!

If the way you get off when alone gets you off GREAT! Enjoy it - try applying it during sex. I found my vaginal orgasm by masturbating myself (rubbing my clit) during sex or when using a dildo. If I had stopped making myself cum by clit rubbing and concentrated only on pressure and friction inside the vagina I may never have found it.

Have I faked an orgasm? Yes, I'll admit I have. Usually cause the guy kept trying to pressure me into "finally" cumming that I gave up trying and just faked one. Sad and wrong of me, I know.
One guy, actually the first one, that ever gave me oral and was bragging about how good he is at it, gave up after trying to get me to orgasm after about 20 minutes or so, got really upset and left. God damn, I was only 19.

And that's why many women fake. To try and avert those hurt feelings and possible tantrumming some guys get all caught up in when they think they have 'failed'. The expectation of mind-blowing orgasmic sex from the outset is totally unfair on both men and women.
 

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La Femme: I enjoyed your straight ahead comment. No airs, just real on the difference between men and women. Fortunately, I have a great woman who enjoys herself uninhibitted, with me. It took her a long time to find her match. She is ten years older than me, has always liked sex, but certainly had her times where a little maintenance here and there (i.e. one night stands, short lived relationship...) just might not have gotten her there. Women certainly need to feel SOME kind of connection to get there. Guys just seem to need hydraulics. LOL
 

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I must add one more thing... If more of these guys on this site would realise that there is so much more to sex than just getting off... when two people find a true loving connection, sex can be great with no real effort at all. (Sorry if I offend any women that have real trouble acheiving orgasm.) Great, good comfortable sex comes out of trust and connection with their partner. Not just the motion of the ocean and hitting the RIGHT spot. It's the whole damn thing. Grow up a little, learn to communnicate... learn to explore... have fun with sex, because it is a great thing, We humans are sexual creatures. OK, enough of my ranting...
 

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La Femme: I enjoyed your straight ahead comment. No airs, just real on the difference between men and women.

What part of LaFemme's post talks about the difference between men and women? - I see one person talking about herself.

Fortunately, I have a great woman who enjoys herself uninhibitted, with me. It took her a long time to find her match. She is ten years older than me, has always liked sex, but certainly had her times where a little maintenance here and there (i.e. one night stands, short lived relationship...) just might not have gotten her there. Women certainly need to feel SOME kind of connection to get there. Guys just seem to need hydraulics. LOL

Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit!

Some people need a connection, some don't. Some people just need the sensations, some need more. Stop trying to tell me I need to be a little bit in love to cum, because I know I don't.
 

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The last time I faked an orgasm, I was 15. He was my first 'proper' sexual boyfriend - I did it once and realised, to my dismay, that he pretty much expected it to happen ever time after that. These days I'm honest. Guys ask what I want, what works for me, they go down on me for (seemingly) hours, they hold back their own orgasms til they're sweating and tense as a neurotic cat, but I still don't fake. I don't want to. Especially with young guys, I found it taught them that all they had to do was stick it in and fuck hard enough or long enough, without the time/experimentation/skill development to actually learn what feels good for his partner. Note that I didn't say learn how to make her cum, because I don't think that should be the goal.

I love sex. I love oral, anal, squirting, deep fucking, DP, hands, tongues and cocks, but I've never cum. It's not his fault any more than it's my fault. My goal is not to cum. My goal is to have awesome sex and have a great time with a friend. That bit, you'd think, would be easy.
 

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Wow Manly, I must have hit quite a nerve. To clarify: I liked femmes comment on, "If it's not going to happen, I just tap out, call a time out for water and a snack. I'm more than eager to give him a 'happy ending' if he wants a finish and I can't. Otherwise I can do it myself - he can watch if he likes." That, to me, is a woman who can enjoy herself and doesn't always need the fucking to get her off, but is still having fun. Also, she is more than happy to get the guy off and maybe finish herself as well. Women may not need to get off, Men are ussually going to want to. Sounds like men and women to me.

Oh, and part B: I said most women need SOME kind of connection. That might be as simple as being turned on and attracted to someone, horny and looking to get laid, or maybe just drunk and fell into bed with someone. I never said there must be love involved.:cool:
 
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Oh, and part B: I said most women need SOME kind of connection. That might be as simple as being turned on and attracted to someone, horny and looking to get laid, or maybe just drunk and fell into bed with someone. I never said there must be love involved.
point of fact: no, you did not.
what you actually said was this:
Women certainly need to feel SOME kind of connection to get there. Guys just seem to need hydraulics. LOL
there's a world of diffreence between ''some women'' and ''women certainly''. you hit a nerve because you said we're all the same. we're not.
 

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Thanks for the correction, dolfette. I'll work on my grammer.

My thinking was/is women certainly seem to need some kind of connection... In my experience. There is no way I believe women are all the same.
 

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Thanks for the correction, dolfette. I'll work on my grammer.

My thinking was/is women certainly seem to need some kind of connection... In my experience. There is no way I believe women are all the same.
i know plenty of women who don't and a hell of a lot of men who do. i'll grant that it's more common in women than in men, but still...
 

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I love sex. I love oral, anal, squirting, deep fucking, DP, hands, tongues and cocks, but I've never cum. It's not his fault any more than it's my fault. My goal is not to cum. My goal is to have awesome sex and have a great time with a friend. That bit, you'd think, would be easy.

I know exactly what you mean, VernalTiger. I've only cum a handful of times from sex, but it doesn't matter an iota to me. I have amazing sex with my partners and while I know they are sometimes disappointed at my lack of orgasm, they learn to deal wtih it.
 

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utter rot.

utter patronising rot at that. the assumption that not a single one of these vast numbers of women has the sexual maturity and open mind that you have?

the arrogance of that is astounding!


I didn't mention myself at all, dolfette. And if you don't choose to share your orgasm with another person, that is your choice. But I'll bet some of the toys you mention are meant to be inserted! So you are coming from vaginal penetration with them, at least now and then.

And also, I agree with you that it is wrong to judge a vaginal component to an orgasm as somehow superior to an orgasm that doesn't involve the vaginal.
 

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I agree about not neglecting mindset, but otherwise I'm completely with dolfette here. You talk about "other more important priorities" and the need for "the correct partner and an open mind" - that really is very condescending to those that don't have vaginal orgasms. Not to mention it upholds what I thought was mainly a man myth, i.e. 'you just haven't been fucked right yet'. But it seems some women believe this myth too.
Yeah - it kinda shocked me coming from helg, too. :frown1:

Manly, you and dolfette are both reading into my post something which is not there, which is a belief that vaginal orgasm is some sort of holy grail of orgasms superior to all other sexual enjoyment, orgasmic or not.

Dolfette fakes because she wants to keep her real orgasms private. At least that is how I am understanding what she writes.
And as a wee thing I understood only clitoral orgasm and the rest of my body was pretty foreign to me. It has taken me decades to truly enjoy being touched, and a lifetime to learn to orgasm from other stimuli than clit, including vaginal. I do not presume to dictate how any other woman should feel in her own lovely body. Everyone is unique.

What I object to most strenuously is a mindset about any stimulus that includes 'can't'. Anything can conceivably be construed as pleasure in the right setting by someone, as long as they are not yet dead. Don't rule anything out; it's living in a box.


And that's why many women fake. To try and avert those hurt feelings and possible tantrumming some guys get all caught up in when they think they have 'failed'. The expectation of mind-blowing orgasmic sex from the outset is totally unfair on both men and women.

Complete agreement from moi.
 

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I didn't mention myself at all, dolfette. And if you don't choose to share your orgasm with another person, that is your choice. But I'll bet some of the toys you mention are meant to be inserted! So you are coming from vaginal penetration with them, at least now and then.
no, i am not.

i quite clearly stated that i don't, and how dare you tell me otherwise! that's just seriously fucking rude. insulting my intelligence by claiming to know more about how i'm wanking than i do?

i am orgasming from clitoral stimulation.

if i happen to brush my teeth while i'm rubbing my clit, that doesn't mean i'm cumming from gum stimulation. it's incidental.
as it happens, i find penetration makes orgasm more difficult. when i orgasm it's from the clit.

just plain fucking rude.
 
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