If you are bi does your family or friends know?

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Thanks to everyone for the kind words of support. biguy2738 and cigarbabe you are two in a million :wink:

I do feel better now. It is people like you guys that make me feel better about myself. I wish you all lived closer to me.:mad:

If only there were more people like you!

Ben

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Thanks Ben, it's very kind of you.

I am happy to hear that you're feeling better. It's not an easy journey because it's a confusing orientation with very little signposts. Be warned: The confusion and depression are going to be part of the process and at times it will surface when you least expect it. Don't allow it to make you feel as if you have to formulate answers for yourself right now. In the end, you will come through with very little if no battle scars at all.

Same here bud, it sucks because all of the bisexual folk that I'm meeting and becoming friends with live in other countries...but hey, there's PM and email, so hit me up if you ever need to talk etc.
 

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I came out as bisexual to my family when I was 21 (well over 10 years ago). They took it very well -- much better than I anticipated. Even thought I never had sex with a man, I had an attraction.

I had a on-and-off relationship with a girl at the time that I first came "out". She didn't take it well when I told her. She called me all kinds of names, the usual homophobic remarks, and ended up hating me. Our relationship was so tempestuous that I think she just used it as an excuse to leave.

None of my family members belive that I was bi. Over the years I've told all of my close male and female friends and they all believed me and they all accepted it graciously.

I still haven't had sex with a man. I am open to it, but the opportunity just hasn't presented itself yet. Maybe some day...
 

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Geez Cigarbabe...I is blind today...among other things.

There are no words that can adequately express my gratitude to you for your support, care and friendship. Thank you for your encouraging me to bring the blog here and to keep it going - it has helped me in so many ways and I hope that it will be just as helpful to others.

You are a gem and I count myself blessed to be able to claim you as a friend!
 

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I have told some close friends and obviosly people on this site know. This site was very easy for me to be honest and that is why I can never understand fakers. I have had a comment on my pics from someone who says they are 100% straight. The comment was of a sexual nature and when I challenged him he got shirty with me! why not be honest?

Right now I'm feeling quite depressed as I don't ever think I will lead a satisfactory life as long as I stay in the closet. However, I don't think I can tell many people, as I am sure they would not understand. I just don't know what to do.


Hey, Ben (I hope I can call you that...?)

I have not revisited this thread since the other day, so I missed your posting.

I have to agree with the others...you will be depressed.....that comes with life sometimes and you don't have to be BI, or any other orientation, for it to come upon you. But, you don't have to let it overtake you...just don't allow it! Easier said than done sometimes, but it can be done.

I know WELL what is going through your mind, and you are right, very few people will understand, or for that matter WANT to understand. But, every day more and more of them do understand, or at least try to, and one day, hopefully, it will not be a problem. I am not as eloquant as biguy2738 or others posting here, but I think you get my meaning.

Yes, I am indeed still in the closet (except for here) since it is very difficult for me to be otherwise and I too still wrestle with some little demons. Even some of my closest friends only know that I am "gay" since I find that "being Gayis is more acceptable", and don't think some would understnd the BI thing. But, my lpsg friend, that closet doesn't have to be dark, dreary, and lonley. You make of it what you will.

You don't have to feel lonely, for you have me, biguy2738, cigarbabe,...and I am sure others that will possibly contact you privately...with whom you can contact for support. It is unfortunate that most of us live far apart, but e-mails and IM's are the threads that connect each of us "heart to heart"...remember that...and do feel free to say hello to any of us at any time. I for one, would be very happy to hear from you. If you want to...let me know and I will provide you with my IM..

We are all brothers and sisters here....and care.
 

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I've been attracted to both sexes since I was at least 9 years old, thats when I first found myself attracted to another female. For a few years after I first realized that I liked girls too I didn't really acknowledge it that much and didn't think much of it until I was 16 and one of the most beautiful girls in my school (quite surprisingly) began flirting with me and flashing me these incredibly seductive glances, which led to her constantly grinding her vag against my hips and her playfully grabbing my breasts during gym class. I was pretty turned on by all that attention and a few weeks later we wound up having the HOTTEST sex EVER at her house.

After that experience I didn't need much more convincing that sex with other females is a wonderful experience that I could not live happily without, and began pursuing other girls as well. Most of my friends know that I love women as well as men, but I don't think I would ever feel comfortable enough to tell my family. I'm positive that none of them suspect it, except my father who once caught me looking at lesbian porn - very very awkward moment! But he and I have an understanding and I don't believe he will break my trust.
 

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I've been attracted to both sexes since I was at least 9 years old, thats when I first found myself attracted to another female. For a few years after I first realized that I liked girls too I didn't really acknowledge it that much and didn't think much of it until I was 16 and one of the most beautiful girls in my school (quite surprisingly) began flirting with me and flashing me these incredibly seductive glances, which led to her constantly grinding her vag against my hips and her playfully grabbing my breasts during gym class. I was pretty turned on by all that attention and a few weeks later we wound up having the HOTTEST sex EVER at her house.

After that experience I didn't need much more convincing that sex with other females is a wonderful experience that I could not live happily without, and began pursuing other girls as well. Most of my friends know that I love women as well as men, but I don't think I would ever feel comfortable enough to tell my family. I'm positive that none of them suspect it, except my father who once caught me looking at lesbian porn - very very awkward moment! But he and I have an understanding and I don't believe he will break my trust.


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it's so great when you say that most of your friends know you love women as well as men. I feel the same way but I'm not sure if it's truly bisexual or maybe something different. I would say that I'm generally more attracted to women physically but that some certain guys have a look or a personality that is very interesting to me, and I end up caring about them or loving them. Like I've said on other threads here, I'm not attracted to men generally. That's why I put 10% gay in my profile.
 

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I know bi's who come out as gay just so they can fit in. I agree, bisexuals now have a harder time coming out, black and white is a lot more simplified than gray, and that's how people want to see everything in this world. I feel a lot more isolated now than before everybody started coming out.
 

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I dont have a hard time at all, my family,friends and my girlfriend know that im bisexual. And to the ppl who think it cant be done or than im confused, your wrong. Im happy being myself and happy with my bisexuality, i mean who wouldnt be, best of both worlds. Also, I can commit to one gender, i have and will in the future when i decide to get married and have kids. This may be with a woman and it may be with a man, I'm not the deciding factor in who i fall in love with.
 

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^^^ I agree with you that it is the best of both worlds when one is bi. I would be very disappointed if I woke up one day with no sexual attraction to women; I feel that life would be far more boring if I didn't have my options open. However I'm not sure I could commit to one gender. I strongly desire to marry a man and have his children, but I'm not sure that I could give up women completely.
 

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I dont have a hard time at all, my family,friends and my girlfriend know that im bisexual. And to the ppl who think it cant be done or than im confused, your wrong. Im happy being myself and happy with my bisexuality, i mean who wouldnt be, best of both worlds. Also, I can commit to one gender, i have and will in the future when i decide to get married and have kids. This may be with a woman and it may be with a man, I'm not the deciding factor in who i fall in love with.



:smile:Damn you know how to make a guy feel good!:smile:
 

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I dont have a hard time at all, my family,friends and my girlfriend know that im bisexual. And to the ppl who think it cant be done or than im confused, your wrong. Im happy being myself and happy with my bisexuality, i mean who wouldnt be, best of both worlds. Also, I can commit to one gender, i have and will in the future when i decide to get married and have kids. This may be with a woman and it may be with a man, I'm not the deciding factor in who i fall in love with.


Monster,

I have not visited this thread for a while and so I missed your posting. I wish that I could feel as comfortable as you, and to be able to be so open to all my friends and family about my sexuality. That must be a wonderful feeling. You must have a wonderful family, girlfriend, and friends! A freedom, such as yours, is beyond my ability to even imagine, much less one that I can hope to experience in my life time.

However, I am the product of another generation, and also from an area of these United States that is still completely ruled by fundamental religious mores and laws that damns to hell, those of us with these feelings and desires. And, in some cases, it is not unknown for us to be "helped on our way" there!

It is not uncommon to be disowned by family and friends, without feeling or hesitation, dismissed from employment on a rumor, and denided the ability to make a living or to live a peaceful existance. Therefore, for those of us of a certain age, it is very difficult to leave the safety of our familiar closet. I've been in that proverbial closet all of my life, and so I find it more dificult to leave.

I, too, am very happy with my bisexuality and wouldn't have it any other way. It is indeed the very best of both worlds, having the desires and the ability, as you have mentioned, to commit dependng on how your heart leads you. It allows the freedom to love whomever you wish and not to be confined to only one gender. And, especially, not to have to be a lemming and follow rules and norms dictated by an outmoded, hateful, and unwilling to understand society.

I have lived the life of BI all my life. I have had relationships according to the dictates of my heart. I have been extremely happily married (until it was ruined by in-laws), been honored and blessed to be a father, had the same male partner for 20+ years (at present we are separated, but only tempararily, I hope), and so know how wonderful it is to be BI.

Monster, I wish you well with whatever gender your partner may be, and a future life that will bring both of you great happiness. And, may you have the chance to experience the joy of fatherhood. It is wonderful!

I have had the opportunity to view you here and at another site, and I truely believe you have what it takes to find that happiness and joy as a BI.

May all of us be able to experience your freedom someday. Thanks for sharing.