I dont have a hard time at all, my family,friends and my girlfriend know that im bisexual. And to the ppl who think it cant be done or than im confused, your wrong. Im happy being myself and happy with my bisexuality, i mean who wouldnt be, best of both worlds. Also, I can commit to one gender, i have and will in the future when i decide to get married and have kids. This may be with a woman and it may be with a man, I'm not the deciding factor in who i fall in love with.
Monster,
I have not visited this thread for a while and so I missed your posting. I wish that I could feel as comfortable as you, and to be able to be so open to all my friends and family about my sexuality. That must be a wonderful feeling. You must have a wonderful family, girlfriend, and friends! A freedom, such as yours, is beyond my ability to even imagine, much less one that I can hope to experience in my life time.
However, I am the product of another generation, and also from an area of these United States that is still completely ruled by fundamental religious mores and laws that
damns to hell, those of us with these feelings and desires. And, in some cases, it is not unknown for us to be
"helped on our way" there!
It is not uncommon to be disowned by family and friends, without feeling or hesitation, dismissed from employment on a rumor, and denided the ability to make a living or to live a peaceful existance. Therefore, for those of us of a certain age, it is very difficult to leave the safety of our familiar closet. I've been in that proverbial closet all of my life, and so I find it more dificult to leave.
I, too, am very happy with my bisexuality and wouldn't have it any other way. It is indeed the very best of both worlds, having the desires and the ability, as you have mentioned, to commit dependng on how your heart leads you. It allows the freedom to love whomever you wish and not to be confined to only one gender. And, especially, not to have to be a lemming and follow rules and norms dictated by an outmoded, hateful, and unwilling to understand society.
I have lived the life of BI all my life. I have had relationships according to the dictates of my heart. I have been extremely happily married (until it was ruined by in-laws), been honored and blessed to be a father, had the same male partner for 20+ years (at present we are separated, but only tempararily, I hope), and so know how wonderful it is to be BI.
Monster, I wish you well with whatever gender your partner may be, and a future life that will bring both of you great happiness. And, may you have the chance to experience the joy of fatherhood. It is wonderful!
I have had the opportunity to view you here and at another site, and I truely believe you have what it takes to find that happiness and joy as a BI.
May all of us be able to experience your freedom someday. Thanks for sharing.