If you found out your BF did porn?

[amendmentx]

I am curious as I've had an offer to do a movie here and am somewhat considering it. I've seen this mentioned a lot in reverse as BF finding out there GF did porn or are doing porn. So what would your reaction be if you found out your BF did porn in his past when you weren't together?

 

[petite]

1st Reaction: Hysterical laughter! He'd be hot, but he's so "boy next door" it's funny to imagine. Sort of like how Clark Kent played by Tom Welling in Smallville is the last guy who'd ever do porn. Sure he'd look hot, but the idea is downright hilarious!

2nd Reaction: Anger. There's no way I'd forgive him for not telling me!

 

[the_new_godiva]

I think I'd give him a pat on the back.

 

[ConstantComment]

Watching it is fine. Better that than going down to the pub. But no, I can't have an SO who engages in that live. In my younger years, I may have tried to be open minded but it's just not possible these days.

 

[HiddenLacey]

Ummm selling one's body for money is not ok. I would be ticked if we were already together and had been together for awhile. If I just met him, I'd drop him like a hot rock. Remember folks this is just what I would do. Not saying someone else wouldn't think differently. On the other hand if I found out he'd posted pic's or vids I'd just laugh and want to see them. The money thing bothers me.

 

[D_Sparroe Spongecaques]

I am curious as I've had an offer to do a movie here and am somewhat considering it. I've seen this mentioned a lot in reverse as BF finding out there GF did porn or are doing porn. So what would your reaction be if you found out your BF did porn in his past when you weren't together?

I wouldnt be bothered (his past is his past) and hope that he'd do movies with me.

I sort of work (p/t) in eroticism so who am i to judge?

 

[Not_Punny]

Oops. Misread the opening post.

I'd have both of us tested for disease. (Diseease really is the only thing wrong with multiples of sex partners, and we're very finicky on this subject.)

 

[B_willy5904]

I did a couple of porn movies when I was in college. My wife learned about it a few years after we were married. She was excited about it and wanted to watch them, but I have never been able to find them on tape or dvd.

I did these movies when I was a freshman and sophomore in college, and it was in the early 80s, right about the time that porn movies were moving from film to video tape. The company that I did the movies for were one of the film hold outs, they refused to use video tape. That maybe why I have never been able to find it on video.

The first one I made was as a freshman. My girlfriend asked if I wanted to do it during our spring break, the money was good so I said yes. She had done several before this for the same company. She received a bonus for bringing in a new guy. I got them to bring my brother and his black hung roommate and their girlfriends into the production which got me a nice bonus.

For the film we went to a private island out of Miami, I think it was in the Bahamas. The story was that there were 12 couples stranded on an island and just spent our days fucking each other. Not much of a story. We hung out on the beach and screwed our brains out as we got filmed. The mornings involved doing cum shots. The director would have looked at the daily footage and call us in to do cum shots to cut in where the actual cum shot was not good enough. I got called in for a lot of these shots as I have a huge cock and could really shoot cum far. I could get about 4 really good cum shots done in the morning.

The next year I did a porn movie with the black guy from the year before. That movie as about 2 male exotic dancers entertaining at a stag-ette party. We spent that springbreak fucking about 12 girls that were suppose to be the bride and bridemaids. It was pretty hardcore with a lots of anal and DP scenes.

I only saw both of the movies once; when they previewed the movies to the cast following post production. They were very hot movies and the previews ended up being reunion orgies for the cast. I had heard that the producer had taken some of the man on man footage from those 2 movies and mixed the scenes with some other to make a gay porn film, but I never saw that film. I never did one my junior year because by then this production company had gone under because they would not use video.

So my wife did find out I did porn and she was disappointed in me; because I do not have copies of them for her to watch. :biggrin1:

 

[TheRob]

1st Reaction: Hysterical laughter! He'd be hot, but he's so "boy next door" it's funny to imagine. Sort of like how Clark Kent played by Tom Welling in Smallville is the last guy who'd ever do porn. Sure he'd look hot, but the idea is downright hilarious!

2nd Reaction: Anger. There's no way I'd forgive him for not telling me!

why if you weren't together at the time I mean isn't there anything from your past you've left out?

 

[TheRob]

Oops. Misread the opening post.

I'd have both of us tested for disease. (Diseease really is the only thing wrong with multiples of sex partners, and we're very finicky on this subject.)

wait a second so if I bring a clean test result I can have a little 'not_punny' while I am visiting : o )

 

[big_tits4big_dicks]

I'm into nerds, so I doubt that would ever happen! Haha, I'm not attracted to the people in porn, not cuz they are ugly or anything. I just would turn me off to think of him as "that guy". That is just me, I'm open minded to a lot of stuff, but the more I find out about the porn industry the sadder I become.

 

[hunkydory]

One of mine actually did - I found it sort of depressing, I realized at that he hadn't come a long way since then. I think it's not the porn that could be the issue so much as what you are going to do with the rest of your life. (I can see from your pics why you were offered though)..

 

[thadjock]

as a concept, like if that was just his "day job" I would be totally ok with it, i watch it , i'm turned on by it , so it would be really a double standard to say no because u do porn you're not good enough to be with me.

he could even do porn while we're together if he can seperate his work life from his personal life, which i'm not sure it's possible for performers to do, i dont' think i'd be able to.

having said that , guys (and girls) who do porn sometimes do other things that i woudln't be ok with like drugs, cheating, and risky sex, and i would'nt put up with any of that bs for a second. i'm not a big fan of emotional chaos either.

 

[petite]

why if you weren't together at the time I mean isn't there anything from your past you've left out?

There's nothing from my past he doesn't know about.

 

[Lex]

If I found that my BF did porn before we met, I would shrug, ask about it and keep moving. Remember, as Chris Rock says, "You ain't planting a flag anywhere..."

There's nothing from my past he doesn't know about.

^^This. There should be no "soap opera" level secrets between a committed couple. You know, the kind of secrets that, if exposed, would end your relationship. Skip keeping those secrets. Tell them. Be open and honest.

 

[alwayshornyatl]

Man, I would be jealous. If he was my BF, it means his sex drive is as high as mine.

 

[iluvbigheads]

...given the nature of my job, I'm afraid I would have to terminate the relationship. For some, probably sounds hot, but to others, it would be embarassing and possibly negatively impacting my career...sorry, can't be part of it. You choose either porn or someone else.

 

[Chantal_Kyrie]

I would be fine with it. I work in the sex trade myself, so I sort of know what it's like. (I don't do porn though, just a plain old whore!) It is possible to separate one's work life from private life...even though I am fully aware of the fact that I sell my body for money, it's not something that's in my mind when I'm with someone who isn't a client.

 

[claddagh]

Last year I dated a guy that in the past has done porn, posed in magazines and worked at one time as an escort. Since it was all in the past I really didn't care. But I did think that it was kind of hot that he had done the movie and posed for magazines.

I did ask to see the magazines and movies - he only had one of each.... It was interesting. I do not believe in open relationships, so I did find it a bit uncomfortable to watch him having sex with someone else, even though it was in the past, and at the same time I also found it kind of exciting. I mean here's this guy I'm dating and I'm watching him perform in a movie.....

I also enjoyed hearing a lot of his stories about escorting - but he never told me details about having sex with his clients (I know he did have sex with them though), he just told me about their reactions to having him show up, or what they did if they went out to functions, shows, etc.

I know that I would not be able to handle someone actively performing in movies or escorting - but I think I would be ok if they were doing modeling work, even if it was nude.

 

[Jhbmeetbuddies]

My gf caught me about two weeks ago jerking off while chatting with a buddy (she does not know that I am bi). She didn't see that I was chatting with a buddy (thanks God!) but she went completely mad. We broke up, but we are now getting back together again. She gave me an ultimatum - stop watching porn and jerking-off and she will get back to me... it is going to be so difficult!!!!