If you found out your BF did porn?

[Denverbearmark]

I'd get a tee-shirt that said, "My Boyfriend is a PORN STAR" and wear it all the time!

I am also in discussion with a guy who use to do educational video production, but that market has tanked--schools can't afford new movies to show the kids! So he is considering porn production--more as just something to do since he is living on retirement from being a college professor--so I guess I am pretty open to porn. I'll be on the production end--not hot enough to be in it!

 

[BigDikkedGuy]

I would love it if my bf did porn

 

[HiddenLacey]

My gf caught me about two weeks ago jerking off while chatting with a buddy (she does not know that I am bi). She didn't see that I was chatting with a buddy (thanks God!) but she went completely mad. We broke up, but we are now getting back together again. She gave me an ultimatum - stop watching porn and jerking-off and she will get back to me... it is going to be so difficult!!!!

Hmmm, don't most guys jack off and watch porn, I'm assuming that is what she thought you were doing? What is there for her to get mad about? If you really are 50/ 50 you are hiding a big part of yourself from her. If she is right for you she would be able to accept your sexuality. Thats just my opinion. Eventually you may start to dislike her for making you into someone you are not.

 

[OCMuscleJock]

I've been asked, lots of times...and said no. Only because it just isn't the right thing for me to do at this time. HOWEVER, I definitely did consider it...talked it over with the bf...and he'd be cool with it. I'd never say never on this subject. I just do not see doing it while my momma is alive. lol She's very accepting and such..but that would just be awkward for me with her knowing. Anyone else, I wouldn't care.

I have LOTS of friends in the porn industry and to 90% of them...it's just a job. Their personal lives are totally different. I think as long as you can keep it separate from your "real life" then more power to ya. Just be upfront with everyone if they confront you with it. People are more pissed off when stuff is hidden from them. The only porn that pays well is gay porn...so if you're gonna do it...then go for the money aspect of it. Otherwise it wouldn't be just for the money and then that is a reason for your significant other to be pissed off. Just realize that people do eventually find out...and you will have to deal with the consequences of your decision, not only with the reactions of others, but with yourself.

 

[thetramp]

Hmmm, don't most guys jack off and watch porn? What is there for her to get mad about? If you really are 50/ 50 you are hiding a big part of yourself from her. If she is right for you she would be able to accept your sexuality. Thats just my opinion. Eventually you may start to dislike her for making you into someone you are not.

Yes most guys do, not much wrong with masturbating, but some girls are tight about that, they don't want it unless they are away or something, and then they still would like to monitor it.
It is not that uncommon for girls to me worried whether they might not satisfy their boyfriend enough and feeling insecure if the guy jerks off, especially if there is some other women involved, even if it is only a porn star or playmate or whatever.

I have also been asked by a girl once whether i would mind if she had a sex toy because former boyfriends did mind it and felt jealous.

 

[HiddenLacey]

Yes most guys do, not much wrong with masturbating, but some girls are tight about that, they don't want it unless they are away or something, and then they still would like to monitor it.
It is not that uncommon for girls to me worried whether they might not satisfy their boyfriend enough and feeling insecure if the guy jerks off, especially if there is some other women involved, even if it is only a porn star or playmate or whatever.

I have also been asked by a girl once whether i would mind if she had a sex toy because former boyfriends did mind it and felt jealous.

Our bathroom has more naked women on the back of the toilet than you can find on the internet... ok thats not quite true. But there are several playboys and maxim mags there at any given time. He tried to make porn a secret along time ago. I walked in on him watching and he became all flustered about it. I just acted like it wasn't a big deal. Everyone does it.

 

[thetramp]

Our bathroom has more naked women on the back of the toilet than you can find on the internet... ok thats not quite true. But there are several playboys and maxim mags there at any given time. He tried to make porn a secret along time ago. I walked in on him watching and he became all flustered about it. I just acted like it wasn't a big deal. Everyone does it.

That might be how you feel about it, and i do so too, i want my GFs to masturbate if they feel like it, it does not question me in any way.
And i expect her to accept that i might need to relax from time to time too.
To me it is a supplementary part of my sex life not a substituting part.
But not everyone is like that, men and women can actually be jealous of magazine pictures, porn models and toys.

 

[HiddenLacey]

That might be how you feel about it, and i do so too, i want my GFs to masturbate if they feel like it, it does not question me in any way.
And i expect her to accept that i might need to relax from time to time too.
To me it is a supplementary part of my sex life not a substituting part.
But not everyone is like that, men and women can actually be jealous of magazine pictures, porn models and toys.

Yeah, I understand what you are saying. We all have different levels of comfort. I would rather whoever I'm with watch porn than go find another female partner. That's just the way I look at it. Plus it is a natural thing to masturbate. I'm just not ok with the paid porn thing I don't think? I don't know I haven't ever ran into the situation where I would have to decide, at first I said I would dump him, but I'm not sure

 

[invisibleman]

If I found out that my BF did porn...it would depend on the porn. I would hope that he would be upfront about it.

 

[Lex]

This:

... I definitely did consider it...talked it over with the bf...and he'd be cool with it.... People are more pissed off when stuff is hidden from them. ...

and this:

... I would hope that he would be upfront about it.

Again, being open and honest is best.