If You Get a Blowjob, Is It Cheating?

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If you get a blowjob from someone other than your significant other is it "cheating?

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  2. It might be. Hard to say...

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  3. Probably not. Depends...

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  4. Most definitely not.

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  1. l_a_dude

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    If you get a blowjob from someone besides your significant other, is that "cheating" by your definition?
     
  2. Mr. Snakey

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    If its me blowing myself no. Someone else blowing me yes:cool:
     
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    As mentioned above, in the middle, between the eas
    Actually, cheating is a pretty open catagory. It is mostly a matter of being intimate with anyone other than the person you consider to be your significant other. It is primarily a breach of trust. The most common form of cheating is over the phone. Making plans or expressing wishes to someone over the phone is an act of intimacy, and is cheating when it's not with the right person. This is done mostly by women and mostly on Valentines day. The fact that a woman will never get beyond this stage makes her no less of a cheater. That's a simple fact.
    Getting a blowjob is definately cheating, unless your hunny told you it was okay.
     
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    Definetaly cheating.
     
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    Like everything else, it depends on your definition of cheating, and in some cases, your definition of sex (see Bill Clinton :rolleyes: ). As was mentioned, cheating is mainly a violation of trust, and of a comittment made between two or more people. The main problem comes when a couple has different definitions of what constitutes cheating. To some, nothing short of intercourse is cheating. To others, something as minor as looking at someone else in a lustful manor is cheating. I think couples should decide on definitions before they commit to each other, as part of what should be an on going dialog. Unfortunately, it seems, partners are often the ones we share deep thoughts and ideas with the least, rather than the most, out of fear of such disclosure affecting the relationship in a negative manor. frankly, I feel that we should all be less sensitive to our own perceived iflictions, and more sensitive to what we inflict on others. Thicker skin, more consideration. Byt that would mean being less selfish, and humans are no good at that....:rolleyes:
     
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    let me see. her mouth on my cock. hmmmm, yea id say so. but what if its a mutual bj between 2 guys? like a horny and drunk thing. that ok?
     
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    I can honestly say your's are the best posts when people are really looking for answers. Keep it up.

    I would add that cheating is anything that inappropriately subjects on one partner another's ill gotten transmissions. To risk your own life and limb (<-oip) is one thing to risk anothers without their consent is another.

     
  8. davidjh7

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    Thank you, first of all.:smile: And second you make a very excellant point! Especially in these days of non curable, and in some cases, non treatable, STD's, some of them potentially fatal, cheating takes on grave new consequences. You are not only risking their trust, but their lives. Ultmately, if and how you cheat comes down to how much you respect each other. You may love someone deeply, but if you don;t repsect them as well, their feelings or welfare won't be as paramount as it should.
     
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    Um, hello! Yes, it is cheating!
     
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    This totally depends on the relationship. This is something you should ask your partner(s). Still, I'd focus less on the technicalities of what is considered cheating, and be more concerned with making sure you are making your partner feel safe, confident, respected, and loved. For some, this doesn't preclude some kind of open relationship, and for others, it does.
     
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    I'd say that anything sexual or romantic, even kissing (other than genuinely platonic) is cheating when there is a relationship with another person - unless there is a specific agreement within the relationship that it is "open" to that activity with others. And even with "open" relationships, my observation is that any activities with others would require continual checking in with the relationship partner, as sometimes even partners in "open" relationships start to change their mind or at least experience feelings of jealousy and hurt coming up uncontrollably.


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    a single kiss is already cheating in my humble opinion
     
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    According to Bill Clinton, it is not :D
     
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    jeff black, chrysalis, snakebyte, is it cheating if someone else first gives me a blowjob while my partner watches, and then gives him a blowjob while I watch?? Seems to me that "cheating" implies deception.

    Iron Mike, I hope your reply was facetious.
     
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    The only way I would not consider this cheating is if u were bisexual and the "other" person giving you the blowjob was of the opposite gender than your partner. Ofcourse, for this to not be cheating your partner must be aware of your bisexuality and realize that u have some needs that he/she just cannot fullfil. In all other cases this is cheating even if it was a druken stupid one time thing.....
     
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    David, this is the best eggcorn ever.:cool:
     
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    It's all about the boundaries the couple has set up. This question will mean different things to different couples depending on how they have defined their relationship.
     
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    I'm with JBT, it depends on the relationship.

    Now...
    So, um, mike, wanna grab a beer? :flirt:
     
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    Having an ex who cheated, alot, it doesn't always have to include physical intimacy but emotional intimacy. Some of the feelings he divulged to other women hurt worse than the sexual acts themselves.
    I agree whole heartedly with davidjh7 and by the way thanks for the advice about the "Highway to Heaven" he loved all your suggestions!
     
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    I haven't recieved a BJ from my wife in years, though it once was my yearly birthday present from her. So every time I visit Vegas, once every year, I have my own little place I go that allows me to fulfill my desires. No harm to anyone. Plus, I even get a massage...Go Figure !
     
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