If you had a pornstar for a wife...

[petite]

As a woman about to be married to a man who is willing to fulfill all of her perverted fantasies, and vice versa, can someone explain to me why it's not a good idea?

I'm serious. It's not a rhetorical question.

I know that's not what many people have with their spouses because their relationships are different, but ours is very sexual and open and our sex life is important to both of us. It seems ideal for us to be the ones who fulfill each other's fantasies, and the fact that we both want to do those things for each other, well doesn't that mean that we'll probably have a happy marriage?

 

[curiousvirgin]

As a woman about to be married to a man who is willing to fulfill all of her perverted fantasies, and vice versa, can someone explain to me why it's not a good idea?

I'm serious. It's not a rhetorical question.

I know that's not what many people have with their spouses because their relationships are different, but ours is very sexual and open and our sex life is important to both of us. It seems ideal for us to be the ones who fulfill each other's fantasies, and the fact that we both want to do those things for each other, well doesn't that mean that we'll probably have a happy marriage?

Petite I dig what you have... Its an excellent idea!:biggrin1:.. you're like my role model on what married life should be like..I also do think that sexual fantasies married make the best couples haha...

 

[sbat]

As a woman about to be married to a man who is willing to fulfill all of her perverted fantasies, and vice versa, can someone explain to me why it's not a good idea?

I'm serious. It's not a rhetorical question.

I know that's not what many people have with their spouses because their relationships are different, but ours is very sexual and open and our sex life is important to both of us. It seems ideal for us to be the ones who fulfill each other's fantasies, and the fact that we both want to do those things for each other, well doesn't that mean that we'll probably have a happy marriage?

I think the lesson here is don't take sex advice from strangers.

But here's one thing I have noticed. A girl is willing to do a lot more for a guy (and enjoy it) if she's really in love with him. So sexual drive within a relationship may be a reflection of the person's reason for being in the relationship in the first place.

I remember Freyasworld mentioning three factors in each relationship; sex, attachment, friendship (if my memory serves me right). The ones that have a good balance of all three seem to do the best.

 

[thecalling]

As a woman about to be married to a man who is willing to fulfill all of her perverted fantasies, and vice versa, can someone explain to me why it's not a good idea?

I'm serious. It's not a rhetorical question.

I know that's not what many people have with their spouses because their relationships are different, but ours is very sexual and open and our sex life is important to both of us. It seems ideal for us to be the ones who fulfill each other's fantasies, and the fact that we both want to do those things for each other, well doesn't that mean that we'll probably have a happy marriage?

And I thought sex stopped at marriage? :biggrin1:

 

[petite]

I just re-read my post and I really didn't express myself completely. I have my own commitment issues and fears about how marriage will change our relationship or what will happen to us in 10 or 20 years. This is my first marriage, after turning down marriage proposals from other men. I've avoided marriage for a long time. I was sincere when I was asking, what exactly is the problem with having a kinky marriage?

Petite I dig what you have... Its an excellent idea!:biggrin1:.. you're like my role model on what married life should be like..I also do think that sexual fantasies married make the best couples haha...

I think it sounds good, too! I don't really know if it will be, but I hope it will.

I think the lesson here is don't take sex advice from strangers.

But here's one thing I have noticed. A girl is willing to do a lot more for a guy (and enjoy it) if she's really in love with him. So sexual drive within a relationship may be a reflection of the person's reason for being in the relationship in the first place.

I remember Freyasworld mentioning three factors in each relationship; sex, attachment, friendship (if my memory serves me right). The ones that have a good balance of all three seem to do the best.

This is true. I am more willing to do something for a man I love. I'm also more willing to do things for a man who is willing to be as generous towards me. I don't think I've ever been with a man so giving. He's a pleaser. :smile:

And I thought sex stopped at marriage? :biggrin1:

No, say it isn't so! I sure hope not.

 

[sbat]

This is true. I am more willing to do something for a man I love. I'm also more willing to do things for a man who is willing to be as generous towards me. I don't think I've ever been with a man so giving. He's a pleaser. :smile:

So would I be right in thinking that a woman is much more likely to happily push her sexual boundaries if she feels that her man will put a lot of effort into making her happy (and not just in bed)?

 

[petite]

So would I be right in thinking that a woman is much more likely to happily push her sexual boundaries if she feels that her man will put a lot of effort into making her happy (and not just in bed)?

For me, yes.

It might not be the same for other women. I mentioned on the other thread that I saw that TV show Sexual Healing about couples visiting a sex therapist, and I saw that a lot of women are just intractable in the bedroom, even though their husbands are willing and want to be giving. Different women are just different about things like that.