Have you ever meet a woman that did not think that they could change you to suit her needs?
History tells us that God loves an honest gay man...
I think a better question is, "Why are so many married men really gay or bisexual and won't admit it to themselves?"
gay men who marry women make me sick. How dare you lie to them and before god. and if your secret comes out not only do you ruin your life but also theirs. This is just selfish and wrong. I feel very strongly about this cause i saw it happen first hand and it made me sick.
You know what they say about walking a mile in someone else shoes? Lighten the fuck up.
I won't lighten the fuck up cause this is something the women face all the time nowadays.
Men who are ashamed of themselves get into a marriage and start a family. Then they turn around and tell theirs wives that this is not a life for them. How dare you do this to a an innocent woman. I'm not talking about those who do it willingly cause then they know what to expect but what I'm talking about is the women that want nothing more than a husband and children.
I know some women might be okay with this but that is not always the case. I saw someone very close to me go through this and she committed suicide.
you don;t have to walk a mile in someones shoes. you just have to know the situation.
In my opinion, there will be men who are straight, gay, bisexual, or bicurious. These people existed in prior generations, they are existing now, and will be in the future.
The issue is.....where these people are in their lives....and where they live in different countries? The United States, for the most part, is more tolerant and liberal now, save, the 1950s.
Some gay men who live in Muslim countries or other countries who are not as sexually tolerant -- well -- you guessed it, may find themselves hanged, shot, or beheaded. Those countries, because of religious reasons or sociological pressure, demand conformity -- like it or not.
So, some men, who can leave for more liberal countries, flee while they still have their heads. Others, go through the motions, marry, and stay married (they may have men on the side, have children, and die). Whether or not they are honestly happy, I do not know because I can not make a judgement call.
I am going to guess, the gay issue was brought up to reflect the United State's views on marriage. However, every gay man does not live in the United States. I wonder how they handle their situations?
Finally, it would be nice to receive diverse comments from people, living in Sweden, Amsterdam, England, Guana, St. Petersburg, Tanzania, Iraq, or Iran. Oh, in some African countries, they kill you -- no questions asked.
I think a better question is, "Why are so many married men really gay or bisexual and won't admit it to themselves?"
It is my opinion, that both men and women are either gay or bisexual. There is no "straight". That's the myth.
I think a better question is, "Why are so many married men really gay or bisexual and won't admit it to themselves?"
It is my opinion, that both men and women are either gay or bisexual. There is no "straight". That's the myth.
Yeah sorry, that doesn't make a lot of sense, as has been stated by posters before me.I think a better question is, "Why are so many married men really gay or bisexual and won't admit it to themselves?"
It is my opinion, that both men and women are either gay or bisexual. There is no "straight". That's the myth.
I married her because at the time, I identified as bi and fell in love with her, as a person. We have 2 wonderful children, who are the most amazing thing to ever happen to me in my life. I wouldn't change anything for the world, despite the pain we've both been through.
She knew I had a sexual interest in men when we got married. Nothing hidden there; but when things got rough at home, I was the one who caused the problems because I'm gay. And I was faithful.
Now, I'm just not that interested in the vag. I firmly agree with the people that say that how we express our sexuality can evolve throughout life.
And who in the hell made you the expert on the subject? How old are you? Go around life for a few more decades before you start preaching in here about who's right and who's wrong according to your narrow view.
You have NO right to judge anyone else. Trust me, in the next 40 years, you will hurt people, and there just may be people lined up to bash you.
There is enough hate for gay men, coming from themselves and the outside world, we don't need it heaped on from one of our own.
^^^This.^^^
Again, you have NO idea what makes a person, their life experiences, their feelings, attitudes and upbringing. You DO need to walk a mile in someone else's shoes before you can even begin to understand what they are going through.
This is something women face all the time? You have hard evidence to prove that? Data that shows that marriages ended because of a homosexual male? Why aren't you condemning men who leave their wives for other women? Or women who leave their husbands for other men? Based on the incidence of homosexuality, I'd say, conservatively, that about 10X more people get their heart broken by heterosexual partners leaving the marraige. Your friend that committed suicide is n=1. You have no right to paint a broad picture with one experience.
And you know the WHOLE situation, right? You know everything that went on behind closed doors? You're the expert? You know what both people were feeling?
Let me answer that for you: No. You don't know the whole situation. I guarantee it.
Do us all a favor and take your self righteous attitude and shove it. We can all do without it, thanks.
I married her because at the time, I identified as bi and fell in love with her, as a person. We have 2 wonderful children, who are the most amazing thing to ever happen to me in my life. I wouldn't change anything for the world, despite the pain we've both been through.
She knew I had a sexual interest in men when we got married. Nothing hidden there; but when things got rough at home, I was the one who caused the problems because I'm gay. And I was faithful.
Now, I'm just not that interested in the vag. I firmly agree with the people that say that how we express our sexuality can evolve throughout life.
And who in the hell made you the expert on the subject? How old are you? Go around life for a few more decades before you start preaching in here about who's right and who's wrong according to your narrow view.
You have NO right to judge anyone else. Trust me, in the next 40 years, you will hurt people, and there just may be people lined up to bash you.
There is enough hate for gay men, coming from themselves and the outside world, we don't need it heaped on from one of our own.
^^^This.^^^
Again, you have NO idea what makes a person, their life experiences, their feelings, attitudes and upbringing. You DO need to walk a mile in someone else's shoes before you can even begin to understand what they are going through.
This is something women face all the time? You have hard evidence to prove that? Data that shows that marriages ended because of a homosexual male? Why aren't you condemning men who leave their wives for other women? Or women who leave their husbands for other men? Based on the incidence of homosexuality, I'd say, conservatively, that about 10X more people get their heart broken by heterosexual partners leaving the marraige. Your friend that committed suicide is n=1. You have no right to paint a broad picture with one experience.
And you know the WHOLE situation, right? You know everything that went on behind closed doors? You're the expert? You know what both people were feeling?
Let me answer that for you: No. You don't know the whole situation. I guarantee it.
Do us all a favor and take your self righteous attitude and shove it. We can all do without it, thanks.
What does this MEAN?
Yeah sorry, that doesn't make a lot of sense, as has been stated by posters before me.
The bisexual theory, although I'd still disagree with that, would make more sense, but not that everyone's born either gay or bisexual.
A more viable theory would be that we're not born with any one designated sexuality and that sexuality is actually a lot more complex than just being branded 'gay', 'straight', 'bi' etc. Perhaps, perhaps not, but perhaps.
So wait - you are saying someone can be gay (i.e. have no interest in, desire for, romantic notions towards the opposite sex) but that someone cannot be straight (i.e. have no interest in, desire for, romantic notions towards the same sex)? That makes no sense whatsoever.
Maybe you can explain to me exactly what it is about being heterosexual that is so impossible that could not also apply to being homosexual. Or indeed vice versa, what is so possible about being completely homosexual that cannot be applied to being completely heterosexual?
I think the percentages that people choose for themselves is interesting. If you say that you are 60/40 does that mean that you should be in one camp and never cross the line?
For me it is another example of the judaeo/christian convention of marriage being out of tune with human nature.
Anyone with any sort of crossovering should probably avoid church regulations, have a civil partnership and decide their own lines on polyamory etc.