If you were dating a bisexual guy, would you assume he's gay or in the closet?

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I have a friend who is dealing with this right now. His boyfriend is trying really hard to thrust 'gay' things upon him ( i know i know, what is gay?) and destroy his individuality. I think it's more a matter of this guy, and I told him he should dump him. How secure are you with dating a bi-guy?
 

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I'm a tad confused - what do you mean by secure? Do you mean would you be secure dating a bi guy when your gay? If it was me, I'd be just as secure dating a bi guy as with any other person. Is your friend the bi one or the friends boyfriend?

Just because someone is bi doesn't mean he's got more chance of being a cheater, or more chance of being fucked up, or more chance of being intense.
 

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It is not at all clear what you mean, maybe an example of what "gay stuff" is being thrust upon him would help?

To answer the post topic, no, I would not assume someone is in the closet. I also wouldn't be needy or clingy.
 

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i have no issue with bisexuals.... they like what they like.... if i were exclusive with a bisexual, i would only expect that they be monogamous as i would be with them....

as for the thrusting of gay things, i can understand that.... a bisexual may not be as immersed in the gay 'scene' as a 100% gay person, and may not necessarily adopt certain gay stereotypes and characteristics.... he might hang out in places or with people that are homophobic to different degrees, or he might simply not be in to hanging out in gay bars/clubs, getting in to 'campy' things, etc....

the impression i'm getting about this relationship you're describing is that there are 2 people dating who come from seemingly different lifestyles and one is trying to change the other.... that isn't right, and in the context of a relationship there should not be any sense of insecurity on either side.... these two can either talk about it and work it out, or they can part ways before something totally unnecessary happens.... if they decide to just ride it out and something bad does happen, that's their problem....
 

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How secure are you with dating a bi-guy?

It would be less about his orientation and more about my desire for monogamy. If a guy is bi and walks around the world professing it so they can fuck anyone any time they please and still say they're looking for a relationship, they can go and fuck themselves. Besides, I think there are far fewer truly bisexual men in the world than the number of guys who claim it.