If You Were Unable To Have Sex, What Would You Do?

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I guess ED qualifies?

my answer is intolerable

I had ED for a long time since i was a teenage but it's getting better now since I started going on long walks and exercising... it's not 100% but for me it's a lot better then it used to be say compared to last year i could barely get semi hard and go soft immediately.. at my highest since 18 was 250 pounds now i'm at 203 today I think things will get better as time goes on and i lose more weight..I avoided opportunity cause I was embarrassed i could not get hard..
 

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Workable.
I’m assuming you mean PI-something, or penetrative acts.

I’ve worked around “spirit is willing, flesh using weak” with a couple partners.
Some days, he could orgasm.
We typically just carried in like teenagers, heavy petting, lots of just being hands on, some oral, both ways.

if the person is worth it, you find a way.
 

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Im not going to lie, it'd be intolerable.
The thought of it motivates me to keep away illnesses and disorders can could induce something that would prevent me from physically being able to have sex.
Maybe Id find a way to cope after the fact, Id like to think Im an adaptable person, but thats not a mindset id like to tap into for any reason.
 
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Well I’ve not been able to go out to have sex for nearly four months now. You learn to cope. Whilst filled with hate.
Yeah but you can still masturbate I assume..I think the question us geared towards what would you do if even with available and present partners you couldnt fuck
 

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Yeah but you can still masturbate I assume..I think the question us geared towards what would you do if even with available and present partners you couldnt fuck
But how could you ever not be able to fuck or be fucked?
 

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Fair enough although i think the implication is that which will give sexual release...so maybe this is a question only hetero men can answer..because frankly everybody else has some sort of alternate option
It does seem like a Male question. But even then, men have asses and mouths too, and some will prefer to give some sort of pleasure and relief instead of having it themselves. Meh, it’s a lame question.
 
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Been in that situation and most times, intolerable and at the worse, a serious headfuck... to the point I felt suicidal. Another time it was fine, but I wasn’t in a relationship and had no desire for that or even fooling around and it felt....cleansing. Genuinely. I was able to channel my emotions into other things and I was more productive, spiritual and happy. But inevitably, you meet someone, you have that connection and you wanna do more than just feel like a teenager waiting to get laid. That’s when I sunk into a bit of a depression. While penetration isn’t the be all and end all, it is important to me and being healthy on all another accounts, young, and actually wanting to have sex but not be able to do that, was brutal. And no alternative (I.e. sex toys) helped. If anything, it made me feel worse and close to wanting therapy, but in the end I didn’t go there. It’s certainly... an experience. Only ever spoke to one other person about it, and I think if I didn’t, i’da truly lost my shit.
 

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Assuming all loss of physical sensation but not the memory/desire for sex? As if I were para- or quadriplegic? Grieve the loss then focus on what I am able to do not what I've lost.
 
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Been in that situation and most times, intolerable and at the worse, a serious headfuck... to the point I felt suicidal. Another time it was fine, but I wasn’t in a relationship and had no desire for that or even fooling around and it felt....cleansing. Genuinely. I was able to channel my emotions into other things and I was more productive, spiritual and happy. But inevitably, you meet someone, you have that connection and you wanna do more than just feel like a teenager waiting to get laid. That’s when I sunk into a bit of a depression. While penetration isn’t the be all and end all, it is important to me and being healthy on all another accounts, young, and actually wanting to have sex but not be able to do that, was brutal. And no alternative (I.e. sex toys) helped. If anything, it made me feel worse and close to wanting therapy, but in the end I didn’t go there. It’s certainly... an experience. Only ever spoke to one other person about it, and I think if I didn’t, i’da truly lost my shit.
seems like you were 'close to therapy' a while back-too bed you didnt explore this with a qualified (god knows who) guide.
 

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seems like you were 'close to therapy' a while back-too bed you didnt explore this with a qualified (god knows who) guide.

I was, many times, you’re right. Inside I knew I should but... my foolish pride took over. Always bloody does lol The classic “it’s fine, I’m fine”. And that other voice (so often ignored) saying.... yeah, that self loathing you’re doing is mighty fine. And all that repressed anger. Manly. Thinking with my dick, even when it’s limp. Typical eh.

A dry chuckle to myself but I know, if ever again, I’ll learn. I’ll burn for sure o_O but I’ll learn. Eventually.
 

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What would I do if I lost my vision? Or hearing? Or sense of touch all together?

I'd have moments of frustration and I'd find a way to cope. Honestly, I have physical incapabilities which haunt me more than the idea of not being able to fuck ever again. Significantly more.
 

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Fair enough although i think the implication is that which will give sexual release...so maybe this is a question only hetero men can answer..because frankly everybody else has some sort of alternate option
Straight guys do, too. It just won’t resemble what was before.

There are teachings that uncouple orgasm from ejaculation, so even without an erection, males can experience orgasmic pleasure.
It takes patience, and love and respect. And a partner very onboard with sessions that are/ can be one sided for a while.
 

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What would I do if I lost my vision? Or hearing? Or sense of touch all together?

I'd have moments of frustration and I'd find a way to cope. Honestly, I have physical incapabilities which haunt me more than the idea of not being able to fuck ever again. Significantly more.
Loss of sense of touch? That chills me. I navigate at night by touch, my work is led by touch, we all have proprioception that is informed by touch/ skin sensation.
 
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