If your first time sex is not gay sex, would you be gay?

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Any1 here ever asked this:
Men who are gay now, back in their teenage years, while they were still virgins(never had gay or straight sex in anyway), they actually thought they wanted girls? But then a gay sex came, like they were
a. experimenting with boys
b. seduced by elder men
c. stumbled upon people engaged in gay sex, and was so horny actually joined;
d. raped by men of daddy's age; or by big bullies in school or hostel

After that they decided or believe they are gay?

So any1 would say if their first time is not gay sex, they will not be gay?
 

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My answers will bother you, I'm quite sure.
Yes I was gay in my early to mid teens, until I was 18. The U.S. Army scared me straight, when I was inducted into the military. I was married three times, had four other g/f's and stayed straight for 40 years. I have one child, one step child, and as of last count 6 step grandchildren. I came out nearly 4 years ago, and haven't looked back since. I'm quite content being gay. My first gay encounter, did not convince me, that I was gay. I knew that I was. As for the 40 years I believed to be straight, I was deluding myself.
 

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My first sexual encounter was with a girl - although i was wishing it was her brother i was with. My first gay sex was the next day, and i moved in with him shortly after. i was with a couple more girls and a few more men before i got married and had four kids. We were together 9 years, then I dated a few more men, then married a girl - this one only lasted a year. Then I realized I was only kidding myself - I like dick way more than pussy, so have lived as a gay man since. I regret not having the balls to be myself, but can't imaging my life without my wonderful children and grandchildren.
 

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I guess the common thread here is most know all along but out of fear do not confront it. Some are lucky and confront it very early on. Some don't and "live straight" because they are literally afraid of the reaction around them is they lived as gay. That's what took me so long. With me it was in my twenties that I came out to my then wife of one year. I haven't looked back. It was fairer to both her and me to be who we really were, her a heterosexual female and me as a gay man. Too much wasted time if you let it go for years.
 

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There are a number of factors in answering this question.

Those of us who are older grew up in a time where there was very little acceptance of gay people. Parents of generations previous to that time were even less accepting. As a result men born in the first fifteen years after World War II felt incredible pressure to perform and behave in a manner that society of those years felt acceptable. By the end of the 1960's the first bits of acceptance began to take place especially in the largest metropolitan cities.

Though homophobia is still alive and well, the numbers of people not accepting in spite of the bombardment of the religious right are shrinking each and every year and as the older more extreme individuals die off, things are changing.

Many decades ago I was engaged to be Married in a heterosexual Marriage. The female was and is a great human being. The problem was that I would have been Marrying into a family that were dysfunctional ultra-conservative Baptist authoritarian bigots. The time was the late 1970's and I was trying to figure out myself simply because I did not want to hurt a great person.

On a regular basis at that time I was subjected to family discussions regarding the lives of gay people and what they did as if these dysfunctional idiots were absolute authorities on the subject. Of course there was zero truth to the statements made. Some of the statements made by these people which came from a Baptist MInister were so outlandish as to be insane. If their "preacher" said it, it must be the truth.

While the various degrading statements against gay people went on, the same family had numerous skeletons in their closets that were "re-colored" to fit their own opinions and morals. Like many, these people picked and chose what they wanted and ignored the rest as if it did not apply to them.

My time of discovery led me to the acceptance of my own homosexuality. It took time, it was a process, and I did not like some have the luxury of knowing when I was five years old or some other such preposterous statement. My other half eleven years my junior discovered his orientation in a College Level Sexuality Class.

Because both my other half and I have experienced heterosexual intercourse our discovery was an educated one that came from time and understanding the emotional connection necessary to be able to actually classify orientation.

Most males and some females are able to have sexual intercourse and enjoy it with zero emotional connection to their sex partner. Just like in porn there is "gay for pay" there is also "straight for pay" as well.

The lack of attraction can easily be taken care of by an injection of Trimix or Quadmix and then the person can perform equally well either way. The rest is acting to create an illusion.

Successful relationships require an emotional connection between the partners no matter what the orientation. If the emotional connection is not there then over time the relationship will not as a usual rule survive.

My first sex was definitely not gay sex and yet my orientation is gay. On occasion I do think about heterosexual intercourse, but, I know that it would never lead to anything productive.

 
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no, I was gay and fell head over heels with a girl in high school. We fucked furiously, got married later and had kids.

I'm obsessed with cock now. I was what is referred to as a latent homosexual.

Just know one thing, most people are bisexual or homosexual. Percentage wise there are very few real straight people in the world. There are a lot of straights, but percentage wise not many.

IMHO.
 

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Umm, isn't this question just a variation of: "Why did you choose to be gay?" ?

No, its not. Fact is the term:"choosing to be Gay" is a poor "choice" of wording. Its more like a realization that you're gay. Did anyone who is straight make a conscious" choice" to be straight, I strongly doubt it. Sexuality & sexual indentifaction is a process of self realization.
 

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No? A lot of homosexual men, especially in the past, had their first sexual encounters with women.
 

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Gay sex is a lot of fun, and I like to have as much of it as possible, but I don’t think any truly straight man would become gay just for the sex.

Your question does have interesting implications regarding abuse victims being gay later in life. They didn’t “become gay” because they were abused. Rather I suspect that the abusers chose victims who were already gay to begin with.
 

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My first time was with my cousin when I was about 14. We were in the woods in Alabama and he took his cock out for me. He was a year older and that thing was huge compared to mine. I felt it and electricity went through me. It was awesome.

I sucked him it seemed like forever and then he asked me if I had ever been "cornholed"? I didn't even know what that meant. So he turned me around spit on his massive dick and proceeded to stick it in me. I thought I was going to die as it felt like he was ripping me open. After a little bit it started to feel good though. He came in me and we lay there, then he got hard again still in me and fucked me again, another load full. It was running out of my ass. I had to wipe with my underwear and throw them away.

It never happened again and we never talked about it again. He got married and had 2 kids. I never married and am gay. I remember thinking about cocks from the time I was 7.

To this day I want him to fuck me again, but it will never happen!
 

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@buddyforyou..

I haven't heard the expression "cornholed" since I was in fifth grade in Alabama, lol. I think it's an old southern expression. I had a boy in my fifth grade class who liked to feel me up in class sometimes, yes, lol.. and would invite me to his house after school. I remember him speaking of cornholing while at his house, which of course is nothing but fucking in the ass. He also asked me to go in the boys restroom in a stall and let him see and feel my dick. I never went to his house and never went to the bathroom stall with him. I wonder if he's sucking cock today.

I am.
 
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@buddyforyou..

I haven't heard the expression "cornholed" since I was in fifth grade in Alabama, lol. I think it's an old southern expression. I had a boy in my fifth grade class who liked to feel me up in class sometimes, yes, lol.. and would invite me to his house after school. I remember him speaking of cornholing while at his house, which of course is nothing but fucking in the ass. He also asked me to go in the boys restroom in a stall and let him see and feel my dick. I never went to his house and never went to the bathroom stall with him. I wonder if he's sucking cock today.

I am.
I'm not sure why I found this funny but it literally made me LOL. Great story though.
 

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d. raped by men of daddy's age; or by big bullies in school or hostel

After that they decided or believe they are gay?

It makes me sad that people are still asking this question. Not only is the logic behind it complete nonsense, but it's also pretty offensive on a gut level.

Of course, the answer is no. Same-sex rape does not cause homosexuality. It can cause the survivors of it who happen to be queer to question what effect the rape had on them and their sexuality, but that's part of the insidious damage that rape can do to people, even years later. The answer is still no. No, no, no, no.
 

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My first sexual encounter was with a man, but my relationships were all with girls. As my friend says "sometimes you have to kiss a lot of princess before you realize you would rather be kissing the prince."