That's the problem. I'm quite aware of how paranoid I sound. But if you were experiencing what was being done to me, then you'd feel quite uneasy. Especially with the whole propaganda, data manipulation and so on.
Excuse the long post.
Imagine knowing someone (Stacy) for 10 years , and within basically a year of knowing them, you realize you're in love with them and wanting to spend the rest of your life with them. You two are getting on, something accidental happens that almost broke the two of us apart. We end up coming back together. Then people find out the two of us are close, which they didn't realize because of how quiet we kept things. So when they find out, they spend the years until now trying to force the two of us apart and make it uncomfortable. Trying to force this woman to cut ties with me, leaving paper trails to make it look like she wants nothing to with me, force her to act so as well. Then she has to sneak about to have a relationship with me. We keep things under wraps to get away from all these manipulative people. They start amassing people around the city (technology makes it easier to spread misinformation) to dig into mine and this woman's privacy and they start sitting on the internet daily making taunts about mine and this woman's relationship. Start trying to get this perception out to other people that our relationship is imaginary and so on. Meanwhile myself and my significant other are building an actual relationship. These people run around trying to make me look crazy. They help my neighbor (R*sh*wn) in the area, who has a history of being what guys call a "cockblock," try to ruin my relationship. This guys friends, down to even his god-brother even stopped inviting him out places because as they'd say he's a liar and a cockblock. It was always a major conversation that I'd overhear. And he was in a whole relationship, with the mother of his two kids (Ang**a), in this time during him doing all of this. Its not like he was there looking out for the women. He was there as jealous they were getting the attention and he wasn't. He'd even done what he believed to be him cockblocking me. I hate to use that term because cockblock is a term used more for sexual escapades rather than relationships and marriage but that's what he does. Here are a few instances, of course these are not me cheating. It was through the time my significant other's cousin (I knew her 10 years prior to meeting her cousin) had been psychologically manipulating me into believing my significant other didn't want to be with me. I had to figure out what the cousin was doing was forcing my significant other's obedience into doing what she wants (I don't know how) and then coming to me trying to make it seem like my significant other despised me. The younger cousin also has two kids but can be extremely controlling and manipulative:
1)He thought I was getting close to someone, so they said they'll call me. He walks by into the conversation and loudly walks out yelling to her "no you're not." He thought this place was basically a domain he owned. Positive communication between me and this woman, slowly deteriorate.
2)He found out some girl kissed me on the cheek, he saw what looked like her and I getting close. He comes to me with a story, how (particular girl, who was younger than me. An adult but not as old as I thought) gave him oral sex. Now guess why he said that, because the person kissed me on the cheek. So he wanted the perception to be, the same lips that kissed my cheek had been on his slurping on his private parts so don't feel special. Not that I had feelings for this girl anyway. But that's not something he knows. He just sees a female gravitating towards me. My communication with this person slowly deteriorates.
3)We were at this parade one time and this female coworker of ours ended up there. She started speaking to me. He knows the girl works there. He sees that she stopped to speak to me and not him, he goes and interrupts her and scares her away saying "yeah, yeah get out of here (scram). And the the girl was frightened off. Its not like she was holding up traffic as the group of people I was with were just standing around. Haven't seen the person since.
4)My wife's older cousin/relative now. She's a married woman in like 2013-2014. I've known her since 2000 as we lived in the same complex with my wife's other cousin's family living on the floor below (the same cousin who is being super controlling). This neighbor in the area know she's married. I know she's married. He grew up with her sons, he's there age. And grew up around the woman's nephew and niece. So I met my wife at her older cousin's house. Anyway, this woman and her daughter had come by the neighborhood to check on me. So I'm in front of my neighbor's house with a small group of people. And of course she knows some of the individuals from having lived in the area and her children being friends with them. So now I'm sitting on the steps. He comes to me because he's trying to upstage me in order to look good to them. His motto as he told me is "a woman may not like the first guy but she'll like the second." You see his thing was me being the first guy and him being the second. So he tried to do that. Hoped for my screw up or trying to find a way to make me look bad while he would then look good in contrast and hope that wold work his way into women's favor over me. So now what he did here is pull this whole move, "get up and let them sit (on the steps) can't you see two beautiful women are standing here." In reference to this married woman and her daughter. What he's doing and saying sounds so gentlemanly, if you don't know his personality and that he'd wanted to sleep with the woman's daughter for years now. So now he knows these people came here to check up on me as opposed to there to see him. So its a jealousy thing. So the first part was him trying to make me seem ungentlemanly and of poor manners. Of course I know they weren't there to hang out with them or harbor on the people's steps around m neighbor's horny self. So I didn't bother to get up. If it was at a formal setting or a situation where they were planning to linger around, then it would be different. As for the two beautiful women part, that's him trying to flirt with them. They're not ugly or unsightly women at all but he was saying that flirtatiously so they could hear, while simultaneously trying to make himself look like the superior male to me and a more refined and gentlemanly guy than me. I'm a guy, plus I know his personality so I know what he was pulling. So now fast forward into a later night. I'm walking and talking to this woman while I'm passing by their old home. She asks me how I'm doing and how my mother is doing because I'd usually be around and hadn't been around for a while. This neighbor comes around out of nowhere, jumps in between the two of us (me and my wife's older cousin) and flirtatiously (not forcefully) grabs her wrist/forearm talking about come over to his god brother's room a few blocks down get drunk with him. His god brother lives in, just a room (not judging, just mentioning to give the visual), where the only space in there is really a Queen size bed and that's it. So if she came there, what she'd be sitting on is the same bed with him. Alone getting drunk with him. This is in the dark of night, so you wouldn't even see her going over to the room. Of course she looked at him like he was mentally disturbed, like what the heck is wrong with this guy and ignored him. And ended up going back in her house. You have to really put the pieces together. That one day he's referring to her as beautiful indirectly, in earshot, then the next he's coming up out of nowhere late at night trying to invite her over to get drunk with him. In a room he takes girls to sleep with. Like one time he picked up a high school girl, clearly you can tell he is, he was somewhere from 24-26. When its dark out. And he's in there and he can be overheard repeatedly asking her, "you not gonna suck it, you not gonna suck it, you not gonna suck it." He brought her in there thinking he could take advantage of her and then kicked her out when she wouldn't give him oral sex. I'm not making this up, even the two people that were listening in through the door were looking at the girl wondering if she's even an adult. She definitely wasn't. Now anyway, this is the same room he's asking his childhood friend's married mother to come get drunk with him at. And in the dark of night. while flirtatiously grabbing/touching her. He was trying to act out a porn fantasy. And the thing is he literally came from out the blue. Like maybe off the train. Then he sees me and her walking alone. And he's thinking with private parts. In his head he's not going to let me get an opportunity to get cozy with this woman because the opportunity is for him. Nevermind that the brief conversation taking place between her and I wasn't flirtatious or romantic and is communication that could take place in front of her husband. What he did in that moment, he could not do in front of her husband because its flirtatious behavior. And that man is very protective of his wife. She did do the right thing in ignoring him. And that man is very protective of his wife. My neighbor thought he was stealing this woman's attention from me, when in reality the woman is faithful to her husband.
These are four situations where this guy saw what appeared to be a closeness between me and a woman, he oddly snf blatantly attempted to try to come between me and the person and put himself in the picture.
So here comes my actual relationship now.
5)I started to get wind of rumors (a lie he had people spread them) that he was sleeping with my significant other. Now given his past actions, I knew for a fact that he would try to sabotage my relationship with this woman. So once I started to here those rumors I told him to stay away from my significant other. But as he is the way he is, he wouldn't respect my relationship. And he kept trailing and tracking my every move with my significant other somehow. I'm guessing he knows someone who can do hacking. Anyway he's behind the thefts of my phones, through other people. To which he stole a very revealing photo of my significant other and apparently showed it around to people, making them think he was sleeping with her. I know exactly what photo he was showing around too and people came to me and told me he told them he was sleeping with her. Then one of the people he told, said to me "but who's got the pictures." The pictures he's referring to are the ones he stole of her from my phone. And that very body revealing one, he didn't know it existed until my phone was stolen. He's a true dirtbag secretly. Like this guy has his own family (speaking of which, his behavior isn't defining of his whole family and only him. He probably lied to them about the situation in the first place) and he's busy trying to ruin the one I'm building in real life. And its not just her (S***y) photos he's running around with. Even my personal photos and personal thoughts that I have not shared with anyone, he ran around and stole and leaked to people. Even my emails to find my new social media. Then he ran about lying to people claiming I sabotaged his relationship with the mother of his two kids as well as got him fired from kmart. He actually, according to two of his coworkers (one was a manager at that specific store, even though he left), got caught receiving oral sex from an underage coworker in the workplace backroom. From what the ex-manager said, on hidden camera. Which I guess they put back there to catch employees getting drunk in the room. And then he likely wasn't aware and got caught. Lost his job. Lied about it. Tried to blame me to the public. Then he tried to cover it up by recording himself and his building neighbor with some random girl to make it look like he got lied on. Then the mother of his kids must've seen the cover up video and decided to keep a close eye on him and tried to catch him in the act. Then she did, which led to a domestic violence court case. Then he apparently had an 8 month temporary restraining order. So what he did was blame me for all of this, not by accident through coming to a wrong conclusion. But through knowing he did what he did. Like he was literally smiling telling me the story about how the mother of his kids caught him cheating and then he pulled out a firearm on her. But the way he lies and how he said it with excitement on his face, I didn't believe him. Then I ran into her in March 2019. Her teeth were missing. But I don't pay much attention to her, so I didn't notice her teeth weren't normally like that. Until it randomly crossed my mind after August because I was pissed he had went on social media lying to everybody about all this stuff. And was trying to clear my name. I literally have nothing to do with his mess or the mother of his kids. He made everyone think I tried to destroy his family. This was after I realized that for the last 7-9 years he had made people think I called his children sickly or claimed them as sick. He actually asked me to type him up a missed work excuse note claiming he missed work and was about to get fired and not be able to take care of his kid(s) (I'm not sure if he had both his kids or only one was born at the time). So he told me to type that his kid(s) was sick and he had to take his child(ren) to the hospital. And email it to him. Which I did. Then after I let him know I did, he claimed that he didn't need it anymore and got the note from someone who works in the hospital (he already was aware I don't work or study in the medical field). So now years later, as in within the last 12 months, I'm starting to realize he may have even lied about having work in the first place. And just took the document he asked me to type and sent it around to people playing oblivious and wondering why I would type something like his kids being sick. And tried to make me look delusional. And if he didn't have work, then when I told people the story about it then he would claim I'm a liar because he wasn't scheduled for work on the date the message was written for. But of course since he'd been lying from the start (as he's been prone to do), then obviously it wouldn't be on record.
His plan was to have something that he could use to screw over me life anytime down the road, as well as justify any of his screwed up actions he wanted to carry out against me. To which he'd claim that I had insulted his kids, so its all fair game. Which includes him trying to sabotage my life and relationship/marriage. So that email he asked me to type up and send him, was a cover to justify anything he does to me and get people's support in doing so because of how much of dirtbag I'd look for "insulting his kids." I remember well how these things happened. People don't like that I recall these things either, since they tried to smear me a lot. Even last year he saw me posting a picture of my significant other at an event her and I were to meet up at, and I was mentioning her and married life. So then he ran this plan where he came to me the next day and started this BIG LIE that he was expecting a third child. And how it wasn't with the mother of his second child. And he ran this lie with the other misguided, immoral people in or from the neighborhood (after he stole my phones and pictures of my significant other of course) that the woman his was having a baby with was my significant other. So they were mad that me and S***y were continuing a relationship behind their controlling backs. And tried to force this twisted lie. In order to psychologically harm me as well as make me paranoid and cut ties with my significant other. To which they'd then hope to get her on board with having me jailed for communicating with her and portray me as delusional by making it seem like I never really loved her. Which would then domino effect into cost me a major job opportunity that I worked hard and put a lot of time in to earn. As well as screw me out of other opportunities. I know, that seems paranoid as heck, except its true. So its really people doing some psychopathic crap. A bunch of them are in on this lie and when there is no baby, "maybe it was a miscarriage" and all this stuff. And they feel that since they're all on one side, not the truth, and basically there's me and possibly my significant other that their version of the truth becomes the true truth. They have all this going on but they forgot the one thing called: tell the damn truth that people are lying for R*sh*wn and have been trying to sabotage Javari on his behalf. I know that's the truth. I could even feel my mind being twisted, which tells me they're trying to manipulate me and damage me psychologically as well as psychologically weaken me.
This bastard stole the pictures out my phone of my significant other (S***y, the mother of his kids he had the domestic dispute with is named A*g*la) and probably went to courts and claimed that I forced him out his relationship with (S***y), who is actually my significant other. He wasn't in a relationship with S***y or any sexual anything or romantic anything. He was actually stalking the two of us with his friends and peers and everything in regards to S***y and I. Back in Thanksgiving of 2017, her and I were coming down a trainstation on different sides and she's in tears. Because I communicated with her to meet with me. This guy was trailing us the whole time and tried to distract me while she was walking, this was during a whole crazy mess that was going on where all these people plotted to make it look like I had another woman and was playing my significant other. And I wanted to clear it up and let my signifcant other know I was involved in anything sexual or romantic with this woman and was strictly in love with her (S***y). This bastard knew about the rumors, so he wanted to stop me from clearing them up while he spread rumors that he was sleeping with S***y, hoping it would open the door for him. Like when he planned out this big lie to make it look like his female best friend named Sh**n*n was sexually involved with me, that has not ever happened. Not even flirting. The neighbor pantsed me in my sleep and photographed my private parts in hopes of humiliating me and ruining my relationship with S***y, then sent the photo to Sh**n*n. So that when she sent it to me, it would look like Sh**n*n had a photo of me from a memory between her and I, which would look like she was sexually involved with me. Its disgusting he's being allowed to tell all these lies. But its really him and his peers and accomplices stalking S***y and I. And yes they're STALKING US and trying to control both of us into doing what they want. Which is why my significant other and myself seem to be inconsistent. And I know they're stalking us because they broke into my messages between her and I years ago. Which had to do with her styling my hair and starting my dreadlocks. They took that text message and LIED to everybody claiming that I tried to use her doing my hair to trick her into getting close to me. They're breaking into stuff and taking advantage of any information they can, knowing that strangers wouldn't know the truth and speculate and treat that as the truth. And that has been the situation throughout our relationship. An issue I've been trying to get permanently shut down. They've made our relationship more about the drama they can create between St**y and I and less about the two of us loving each other. And it needs to go back to our relationship being about St**y and I loving each other.
There is more to add in a next post.
