If you've ever cheated, why did you cheat?

[javyn]

I have cheated, several times, why? Because for me one thing is "just fuck one night" with out any kind of relation, and another is to "make love" with my girlfriend.

Right now, i have 3 fuck friends, and one let say is very very close to me....

I wonder how many fuck friends your woman has, and if you knew, how much would you care?

 

[Elohim]

I wonder how many fuck friends your woman has, and if you knew, how much would you care?

For what i know, she have "0", but if some day she tell me some thing like this, yesterday night i have fuck a guy, don´t remember is name and didn´t get the phone number, was just a fuck, my answer is > it was good?

Because for me one thing is a relation, is to love one person and live with that person, fell if she is happy or not and she is going to sleep with me and its me that she care…etc...etc, another thing is a simple fuck! Fuck and move on, no tides or anything like that.

 

[lickme69]

Never cheated, but my ex husband felt I did. I started seeing a man before our divorce was final. We had been separated for a year and he kept prolonging the divorce. I am still seeing this man. So if you call that cheating, then so be it.

 

[javyn]

Never cheated, but my ex husband felt I did. I started seeing a man before our divorce was final. We had been separated for a year and he kept prolonging the divorce. I am still seeing this man. So if you call that cheating, then so be it.

Not judging you here, but you may want to lay off until the papers are signed. If your hubby has a good lawyer, he'll point out you are seeing someone else before the divorce is final and that will totally screw you if you are contesting property. Just warning ya, take it or leave it.

 

[lickme69]

Not judging you here, but you may want to lay off until the papers are signed. If your hubby has a good lawyer, he'll point out you are seeing someone else before the divorce is final and that will totally screw you if you are contesting property. Just warning ya, take it or leave it.

Thanks and I am aware of that. The divorce is final and has been for awhile. I was separated from him for over a year. I filed for divorce and he thought that by leaving state and running from it he could make sure it did not happen. Well, it did prolong it, but after several court dates with him not showing up, I was finally granted my divorce and got everything. He doesn't pay child support or anything. I wasn't worried about him contesting anything and knew he did not even have a lawyer. He is still in denial and considers us still married.
I was just tired of putting my life on hold and had met a terrific guy and started seeing him. :smile:

 

[Drifterwood]

Never cheated. Anyone who does is a scumbag, and yes that includes women, and no, no excuse is good enough for cheating.

Which mind control drug did you get?

 

[Principessa]

Which mind control drug did you get?[/QUOTE] He's one of our many resident trolls.

 

[javyn]

Which mind control drug did you get?

I need to be on a mind control drug to believe cheating is wrong? Wow, way to go buddy.

 

[Drifterwood]

I need to be on a mind control drug to believe cheating is wrong? Wow, way to go buddy.

But you didn't just say that you personally felt it was wrong. If you had said just that, then there wouldn't be a problem. You chose to say that anyone who cheats is a scumbag.

Tell us, what is the longest monogamous relationship that you have had?

 

[javyn]

Yeah anyone who cheats is a scumbag. I have no problem standing by that, and my longest relationship has been 10 years, why that matters I don't know.

 

[Drifterwood]

Yeah anyone who cheats is a scumbag. I have no problem standing by that, and my longest relationship has been 10 years, why that matters I don't know.

Well had you been a twenty year old with little experience of life, then that would have been one thing, but to have some experience of life and to talk as you do, is another.

 

[javyn]

OK sure? I know you're trying to get a rise out of me, but it's not going to work. I can really care less about anything someone who condones cheating thinks.

 

[Drifterwood]

OK sure? I know you're trying to get a rise out of me, but it's not going to work. I can really care less about anything someone who condones cheating thinks.

There is a difference between condoning cheating and understanding why 50% of people do it.

I am not trying to get a rise out of you. Unlike you, I could care less why people who have a different POV to me, come to think the way they do.

 

[modernluv]

Yeah anyone who cheats is a scumbag.

Anyone who makes sweeping generalizations and demeans people without being in their shoes is an ignorant fool.

 

[javyn]

I guess based on these responses we know who is and who isn't capable of remaining faithful. And yeah, I have no problem making sweeping generalizations about cheaters. Better an ignorant fool than someone who thinks so little of the person they supposedly love that they can feel justified dicking around on them. Way to go.

 

[javyn]

Sounds like it was over before you cheated any way Konch, at least, it shoulda been by that point if he hit you.

 

[modernluv]

Better an ignorant fool than someone who thinks so little of the person they supposedly love that they can feel justified dicking around on them.

Well it seems you concede that you are an ignorant fool. So we're on the same page on that one.

 

[modernluv]

Sounds like it was over before you cheated any way

It almost always is, and if that's news to you, then it just reinforces the aforementioned perception of your ignorance, and the recklessness you're apparently willing to speak about things you know little about.

 

[javyn]

In fact, I do know little about cheating, I have always been faithful. I guess you're the expert. I feel bad for anyone who has the misfortune of dating you.

If being monogamous means I'm ignorant to you, fine. It says far, far worse about you.

Edit: BTW, I'm likely more educated than you'll ever be.

 

[nicenycdick]

I respectfully refer you to a blog I posted when I first joined this site:

http://www.lpsg.org/blogs/nicenycdick/when-is-an-affair-ok-300/

There are some interesting responses and viewpoints expressed there...all, for the most part, without rancor.