IM 18- First time anal. help

[AbercrombieStud4627]

OK...

tonight was the first I had ever had my dick in another guy

im 18 and i have fooled around with guys before... mostly all my friends still in high school... but tonight this guy said he wanted me to fuck him. so i did. only for like 4 seconds before getting freaked out and pulling out. i dont know him, and all the suddent i got freaked out by the whole aids thing, and it just rushed in my head. I cant even begin to tell you how great it feeled. in all that short time all the porn i have ever watched made sense. it felt amazing. i was about to cum soon, but then i was overwhelmed with fear.
he sat on top of me and lubed me up with some clear liquid he had... and it was bareback... should i be concerned about using a condom. will it affect him or me. he says he doesnt have anything. he is probably right. and now he thinks im weird cause i like got scared and pulled out and put my clothes on and left... but it felt amazing. and i want to do it again. Also... what

is your opinion about my virginity... have i lost it now. does 4 seconds of me inside someone else count as that. it was so short... none the less i need to know. can you get something from just sucking someone or them sucking you or fucking without a condom. even if you are almost certain they dont have anything

i just get freaked out. reading this thing has trained me

and i usually dont ever post. so i am reallly hoping you guys can help me out

and sorry for my grammer and typo galore. i wrote this in like a second... i get fast when i am... assertive? ha... please help guys

 

[crowdpleaser]

Although I have never had my cock in another guys ass, I am going to say you are no longer a virgin, but I am sure others will debate that.

Secondly, you should use a condom, especially if it is some random guy you don't know (which is another issue all together). If someone thinks your weird because you don't want an STD screw them.

You can get a few STDs from sucking, i.e. herpes.

STDs from fucking of course, and I am pretty sure the ass is actually easier to contract STDs, but I can't I am really not too sure.

Future advise: Try to have intimate feelings toward lovers in the future. Oh and don't be afraid to get tested. There is rarely a guarantee someone is STD free.

 

[vinnyc]

Hi abercrombiestud4627,

you can sleep peacefully... statistically there is very few chance you got AIDS (but don't forget that there are still the other STD's that are more contagious, though curable indeed).

I have the official statistics of risks of contamination by type of sexual activities (oral, anal etc...) but it's in french (french deartment of health).

I can try to translate it if anybody interested.

And congratulations for the loss of your virginity.

See ya'
vinnyc

 

[Freddie53]

This was not a "storybook" story of how you want to remember the night you lost your virginity. I would say though that you didn't really have anal sex, you just almost did. I hope you will find another guy that you can have feelings for and the next time can be very special. In this day and age. Yeah I would use a condom and I would have him use a condom as well.

As for testing, it may be difficult at your age to explain yourself and why you want testing to your parents unless you have already moved out and have your OWN health insurance.

Google STD. And go to TeenWire and follow the links to refresh yourself of symptoms. If any symptoms should appear, head to the doctor. It is easier to say, "I have a discharge from my penis, I need to see a doctor," to your mother than say, I screwed this guy from school and I might have caught something." Second quote not easy to say.

 

[LouisVauban]

You are DEFINITELY not a virgin anymore.

Condoms ALWAYS! Although statistics say a top (who never bottoms - EVER) is far less likely to aquire HIV through barebacking, you really need to care for yourself and create a habit of ALWAYS using a condom.

Why take ANY risk? Syphillis on the rise again... and there are a multitude of other STD's. (I'm talking in gay circles for the most part)

ANAL gay sex unprotected (Without condom) is THE SINGULAR prevalent way to contract HIV. Please don't risk a healthy normal life for a life with endless daily pill regimens and monthly trips to the doctor or hospital... recurring infections, etc. I've seen too many friends go this route and is NOT WORTH 4 seconds of skin on skin euphoria.

Congratulations on your newly found sexual freedom. Please respect it and yourself..... AND ENJOY EVERY MINUTE OF IT!

 

[MH07]

Congratulations on losing your virginity!

Your instincts were correct; unprotected sex is the surest route to STD's including AIDS. Why risk it?

I hate condoms. They are terrible.

I hate funerals worse. I attended many in Dallas and NYC in the mid- to- late 80's.

Wear your raincoat next time and stay in a little longer. It DOES feel GOOD! ;-)

 

[latinohung]

Congrats, yes no longer virgin.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

As for testing, it may be difficult at your age to explain yourself and why you want testing to your parents unless you have already moved out and have your OWN health insurance.

Wait you pay for STD testing in the states?!

 

[davidjh7]

Of course----you pay for EVERYTHING in the states related to health care, one way or another. Very few insurance plans pay for STD testing, either, from what I have read. Many STD tests are reasonably priced through certain agencies, but if you go to your friendly local doctor for them, a battery of STD tests will likely cost you $300-500. The US health care system is the best thatmoney can buy--as long as you have the money to buy it.

 

[darkone]

I agree with david I wouldn't trade our healthcare for any other countries. Prices are only high because we are letting the hospitals get away with it and the insurances carriers. We could fix it if we choose too its just our elected officials on both sides are too afraid to tackle that area. They care about public opinion over what is right thats what the problem is today in politics. Just do whats right and the people will love ya

Plenty of info on the net for STD's just do searches and be careful!

 

[AbercrombieStud4627]

would anybody here argue that i am still a virgin

 

[MonsterUncut]

would anybody here argue that i am still a virgin

Hey Dude,
Well, you're not a virgin, CONGRATS, but next time wear the glove. You really don't want to take any risks. Yes, there are some STD's that can be cured, but there are others that can't. You're young, excited, and will have many many more fun times. Don't go labeling yourself with the gay, bi, or whatever. Just do what feels good to you, live your life and have fun, but always be careful. If your partner doesn't want you to wear the glove, well, like the old saying goes, NO GLOVE, NO LOVE. Just be yourself, and the next time I'm sure will be even better for you. Take care.

Peace

 

[bobabooey69]

The US health care system is the best thatmoney can buy--as long as you have the money to buy it.

Yup, I lived in Europe and South America, both had free healthcare.
I agree the US has the best medical treatment, if you are rich, if you are poor...you're pretty much screwed.

Oh and Aber, congrats on poppin your cherry, but wrap it up next time kid.

 

[flaming infinity]

I'd say you're no longer a virgin. You probably should use a condom, though. Body fluids carry germs and yes, you can get an STD from oral.

 

[mask13000]

No, you are not a virgin. I'm sorry that your first time wasn't all love songs and candles but if it's any consolation, I think few people's are (Mine certainly wasn't).

And you can never certainly know that someone doesn't have something. It's always a risk which condoms help to lower considerably. Get some condoms and get right back out there.

Good luck.

 

[B_big dirigible]

I agree the US has the best medical treatment, if you are rich, if you are poor...you're pretty much screwed.

What is this bullshit?

I was unfortunate enough to have a serious heart attack at the same time that my business absolutely tanked, so I ran up the bills just when I became bloody goddamn poor. I was amazed at what the poor (at that time, me) don't have to pay for exactly the same medical care the non-poor (me, a bit earlier) are soaked for.

 

[LouisVauban]

BTW: In the US, if you are lucky and have medical insurance, most doctors will include STD testing with your annual physical blood testing at no extra cost. And a doctor who specializes in gay medicine will make sure it gets paid for every six months if you step up and be vigilant with your testing.

 

[DarkAuron]

I've yet to have sex, but I'll be damned if my first time is without a condom. If the guy wants me to go bareback for any reason, I'll either talk him out of it or dump him simply for being an asshole. I only live once and I'm not going to willingly go through life with an STD because of a stupid mistake.

 

[capcraz]

Quote: "If someone thinks your weird because you don't want an STD screw them."

No... don't screw them... nothing is worth risking your life, imagine contracting HIV or another STD on your first shot... as much as they are a pain in the ass, condoms are life savers and should not be ignored unless you're married and both clean, or you're ordering up sex for one

I'd say you're not a virgin, you've had your erection inside of another’s willing orphus, but if you're wondering if it's the 4 second thing that is the deal breaker you're probably right, that's really not enough time to actually experience love making, but if you mean does sex have to be vaginal to take ones virginity, you could say that there are several ways to lose one's virginity All equally special and memorable.

 

[UK8x6]

As far as whether you're still a virgin...I'd argue that its debatable. You didn't actually have sex, so its up in the air.

In the end it comes down to your own definition of having sex. I personally don't consider getting a blowjob as "sex" in terms of losing your virginity...but my boyfriend does. Some people (skanky girls, mostly) will even argue that they're still virgins if they've done anal...so long as they don't have vaginal intercourse. Yeah...whatevs...

Either way, it shouldn't really matter to you. I know that losing your V-card is a big deal, but contracting an STD is much more relevant.

1. ALWAYS use condoms, especially with people you don't know. Period. My boyfriend and I don't use condoms, but we've been monogamous for over 4 years now and are both clean...but you can bet your ass (no pun intended) that I'd use a condom without question if I hooked up with some random guy (or even someone not so random) regardless of whether I was topping or bottoming.

2. Anal sex is the easiest way to contract any STD's, including AIDS. Its less of a risk for the top (i.e. you, in this case)...but there is still some risk. And why risk your health? Seriously...

3. If the guy thinks you're a freak for wanting to practice safe sex, then to hell with him. My guess though is that he's probably more confused by your sudden freak-out. It sounds like you sort of just flipped and ran out of the room in a panic...which would've made me think you're a freak too.
Just talk to him...he'll understand. And if he doesn't...then like I said, fuck it (not literally).

4. You can definitely contract STD's from giving oral sex...and there is a very slight risk of contracting something when receiving oral sex. Most risk occurs if you have a cut either on your dick or in your mouth, and if you let the guy cum in your mouth.

Story:
A friend of mine was with an HIV+ guy for almost 5 years (this is a while back, before I knew this friend). His ex-partner contracted it from a guy while giving him oral. What happened was: this guy (my friend's partner) brushed his teeth before giving head, and apparently was too rough with himself. He ended up giving himself a very small (probably un-noticed) cut on his gums from brushing too hard...which allowed HIV in this other guy's "fluids" to go straight into his blood stream.
Just sayin'...

Anyway...don't freak out about it too much right now.
Your virginity...whatever. It doesn't matter. You can decide whether its gone or not.
Your health...much more important. In all likeliness, there wasn't much chance for you to have contracted anything since it was so brief. BUT you should definitely be more careful from now on.

Hope that helped.