I'm A Masculine Man, But In The Bedroom, When I Bottom, I Feel Totally Feminine

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I'm a masculine man, but in the bedroom, when I bottom (truthfully, I have never topped, nor have any desire to, I did try once and completely lost my erection), I have started to feel totally feminine. It's almost a very strange transition, and now, more and more, as I flirt with someone that I believe that I would enjoy having sex with, those feelings of femininity begin to surface and I feel more and more "girly" as we talk and chat. In fact, with the guy that I am now chatting with and am considering meeting for sex… well, he recently referred to me as his new girlfriend, and it made me super hot. Is that the case for anyone else? Or what is your experience with that? Looking for insights and suggestions, others that can relate. Thank you.
 
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Yeah...I’m similar in a way. Not “feminine,” necessarily, for me, but submissive. I feel a craving to have strong protective arms around me and to be made “HIS.”
 

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I’m versatile so perhaps I’m unique. There’s no difference in how I feel or act. In fact, we enjoy flip-fucking where both of us get off as a top. I can also jerk off while getting topped and get off that way.
I think I’m different from a bottom in that I don’t feel lesser or subservient or feminine at all when I’m a bottom. I also expect to get off as a bottom, where some guys are only concerned with the top getting off.
 

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I think I’m different from a bottom in that I don’t feel lesser or subservient or feminine at all when I’m a bottom. I also expect to get off as a bottom, where some guys are only concerned with the top getting off.
i do not want to start aflame war, but as a bottom i do not harbour those thoughts of being "lesser or subservient". I think that you are confusing bottom and subservient. When i play as a sub i will be the one giving the pleasure to the top with little or no need for reciprocation; as a bottom there is a give and take where we both will end up satiated. The only time i feel "feminine" is when i am told to dress up as a woman for role play. Just my $.02 worth, we are all different and respond to situations differently.
 

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i do not want to start aflame war, but as a bottom i do not harbour those thoughts of being "lesser or subservient". I think that you are confusing bottom and subservient. When i play as a sub i will be the one giving the pleasure to the top with little or no need for reciprocation; as a bottom there is a give and take where we both will end up satiated. The only time i feel "feminine" is when i am told to dress up as a woman for role play. Just my $.02 worth, we are all different and respond to situations differently.

Hi @muskokan
I’m not sure you meant to reply to me but perhaps the original poster. I didn’t take or see any offense in what you said.
There are so many grey areas in human sexuality. I like your clarity on submissive versus bottom. Personally, I wouldn’t be comfortable in a submissive or feminine role. I don’t equate bottoming with either.
Hopefully I’ve been agreeable in my response and not mischaracterized your previous reply.
 

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I'm a masculine man, but in the bedroom, when I bottom (truthfully, I have never topped, nor have any desire to, I did try once and completely lost my erection), I have started to feel totally feminine. It's almost a very strange transition, and now, more and more, as I flirt with someone that I believe that I would enjoy having sex with, those feelings of femininity begin to surface and I feel more and more "girly" as we talk and chat. In fact, with the guy that I am now chatting with and am considering meeting for sex… well, he recently referred to me as his new girlfriend, and it made me super hot. Is that the case for anyone else? Or what is your experience with that? Looking for insights and suggestions, others that can relate. Thank you.
I think you might be confusing feminine feeling with submissive? However you mentioned that you being referred to as a “girlfriend” might indicate something else.

I’m not an expert by any means and take any advice with a pinch of salt but it seems to me that you have a power ‘fetish’. You are masculine and in control in your life but when it come to sex you want to let that go and be submissive and “feminine” does that sound familiar?

you shouldn’t feel any type of way about how you feel. There will be guys out the who understand and who are the same as you and the opposite of you who you can partner with. Good luck!
 

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Feminine and masculine are only human constructs of stereotypes. We then have social pressure to keep up with these constructs of our imagination. I find to fully be yourself let go of these ideas and just enjoy another human being regardless of gender and your stereotypes. It’s hard sometime like obviously I wouldnt feel comfortable going round wearing a skirts you have to think at the end of the day that the idea of a skirt is just ridiculous.
 
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I think you might be confusing feminine feeling with submissive? However you mentioned that you being referred to as a “girlfriend” might indicate something else.

I’m not an expert by any means and take any advice with a pinch of salt but it seems to me that you have a power ‘fetish’. You are masculine and in control in your life but when it come to sex you want to let that go and be submissive and “feminine” does that sound familiar?

you shouldn’t feel any type of way about how you feel. There will be guys out the who understand and who are the same as you and the opposite of you who you can partner with. Good luck!

To sum up your post. OP like being a bitch in heat in the bedroom.
 

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I'm a masculine man, but in the bedroom, when I bottom (truthfully, I have never topped, nor have any desire to, I did try once and completely lost my erection), I have started to feel totally feminine. It's almost a very strange transition, and now, more and more, as I flirt with someone that I believe that I would enjoy having sex with, those feelings of femininity begin to surface and I feel more and more "girly" as we talk and chat. In fact, with the guy that I am now chatting with and am considering meeting for sex… well, he recently referred to me as his new girlfriend, and it made me super hot. Is that the case for anyone else? Or what is your experience with that? Looking for insights and suggestions, others that can relate. Thank you.


And you're my type of guy...!!!!!!...grrrrr!!!!..lol
I'm a masculine man, but in the bedroom, when I bottom (truthfully, I have never topped, nor have any desire to, I did try once and completely lost my erection), I have started to feel totally feminine. It's almost a very strange transition, and now, more and more, as I flirt with someone that I believe that I would enjoy having sex with, those feelings of femininity begin to surface and I feel more and more "girly" as we talk and chat. In fact, with the guy that I am now chatting with and am considering meeting for sex… well, he recently referred to me as his new girlfriend, and it made me super hot. Is that the case for anyone else? Or what is your experience with that? Looking for insights and suggestions, others that can relate. Thank you.


And I think I just fell in love...lol
 
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I think you might be confusing feminine feeling with submissive? However you mentioned that you being referred to as a “girlfriend” might indicate something else.

I’m not an expert by any means and take any advice with a pinch of salt but it seems to me that you have a power ‘fetish’. You are masculine and in control in your life but when it come to sex you want to let that go and be submissive and “feminine” does that sound familiar?

you shouldn’t feel any type of way about how you feel. There will be guys out the who understand and who are the same as you and the opposite of you who you can partner with. Good luck!

I think this is spot on for a lot of people who feel as the OP does. Men often associated the desire to submit as feminine. Nothing wrong with that but this feels more accurate to me. Enjoy the responses here, but don't let them undermine how you feel. Go with what feels best for you, your feelings are what matters.