I'm always concerning about my penis, need some help

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Hi, I'm 20 years old.
I'm writing this because I think I have a problem that I need to solve somehow but I don't know how, maybe you guys can help me. I have to admit it, i kinda like it to show my penis or the sensation that some people are looking at it. I have a 11-13cm flaccid penis (depending on the conditions) and I like it when I see it (sometimes if I'm horny I even get an erection; im not gay), so I like it when other people do it aswell. The problem I always have is that everytime I know that someone is looking at it I get very nervous and start to think about what other people will think about it (if they will think I'm big, or not...) and I feel really weird about myself and about my thoughts, and then I feel really really bad.
Another example is my bulge when I'm wearing underwear; when I buy new unerwear I normally check how my bulge looks like and it's ok for me, but again when I'm with friends or something I start to think if they will look at it and what will they think and I feel bad again; it's like I would like to show it with full confidence but then I feel weird about if they will think I'm big or small or whatever.

I would like to be able to show my penis or not withouth giving any fuck about it or about what other people will think; I like my penis and I would just like to be capable of showing it off (for example if I have to change my clothes in a gym with my friends, or things like that...) without thinking about if they will think I'm big or whatever and without feeling weird about it.

I have even tried to avoid the mirror and not looking at my penis for a while for avoiding bad thoughts about it but this is stupid; I think my penis it's nice and it should be everything ok but instead of that I'm always concerning about other people opinions or possible thoughts when they see it.

I don't know how to get used to this situation I've been dealing with for some years... if some of you could help me I would be bery grateful.

Thanks
 

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Stop trying to show off your penis. The truth is, no one will ever give a shit about your dick, not the way you do. That's not unique to you; no one really cares about other people's bodies. So, like anyone, you crave validation. Fine. But you can't control your cock, or how other people respond to it. So you must either learn to enjoy being out of control, or find some other means of gaining that validation. While you can never control the reactions of others, there are aspects of yourself which (unlike your penis) you can control. Get validation from something you can control, and perhaps your weenie worries will evaporate.
 

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I think the previous posters really covered a great deal of ground - though I think they might keep your age in consideration. You are 20. Yes, you need validation and support in many areas of your life. You are focusing here on your penis. If you were older, I would be worried that you might be obsessing too much. However, I do believe that this need you are feeling will dissipate with time. Just feel comfortable being naked in front of other people (in the appropriate circumstances). You are a man now. Your emotions will catch up with your body. Relax about it. Check back in with us and see how you are doing. (The above posts are right on but just have a different tone)
 

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Wait until you're in your late 20's when you'll start staying the following, "I dont' give a crap what other people think."
 

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Most of us have felt something like you do at some time or other. Just relax about it, go about your business, and don't think about what others are thinking or saying. At your age, some of your friends might tend to make more comments one way or other but with maturity all of that will drop off. Most of us don't go around discussing male packages with friends and acquaintances--look and admire perhaps but usually no comments. What a guy has or doesn't have between his legs is not related to mental sharpness, which is more important in daily life, in public anyway. And a clever mind will help a fellow figure out how to maximize the use of what he carries between his legs.
 

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Well mate only i have to say is that if you have a true huge dick
show it and feel proud
and if it is 13 cms in flaccid condition indicate a good cock and if it is a bit thick much better
so try to show your dick as something
natural because is not your fault the nature gave you
such present
 

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Let me solve this problem for you.

You're 20 and you think your penis makes the world go round. Sorry to break this to you but it doesn't. Your bulge has nothing to do with success, happiness or social standing in life. In many cases it has nothing to do with getting a piece of ass either. Your personality, not your wang, will win many more people over.
 

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You could also sleep naked. The second you wake up in pain from rolling over on it from a wet dream and laugh to yourself about it then you will have enough comfort to realize that it only a certain extent, for certain reasons, during certain times with certain people or person. Until then, make it hard. Put a piece of popcorn on the head of it and try to find somewhere silly to flick/flop the popcorn colonel into.