Im average wife things im big

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Hey everyone, looking for some mental pointers. Im personally very average in size 6-6.5 inch about 5 thick. When we have sex there are no issues but shes usually sore for a day or 2 after still. I personally have a complex where i want to be bigger

The issue is my wife insists im plenty big and doesn't want me any bigger, yet i still have a complex/issue about being bigger. Any ideas how to cope with it?
 
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listen to your wife we always want to be bigger women are happy with what we men have so listen to her or look into an extender but you do not want to make her more sore do you?
 

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Ultimately, what is more important? Your wife or fantasy?

If you work on making your penis bigger to match your fantasy and it hurts your wife - emotionally and/or physically, you may lose your wife. No woman wants to think that a man doesn't care how she feels about sexually or that she doesn't care about about his body. If you work on getting bigger without her agreement, it's like thumbing your nose to her. She's going to be hurt. If you do indeed get bigger, it will hurt her physically and because you did it without her agreement may feel alien to her - like it's not even a part of you.

You can't make her want you bigger. You can't make her change her mind. All you can do is talk things through. Come to some sort of compromise. Talk about using extenders during foreplay, but not during sex. Talk, talk, talk.
 

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You're wife is happy, you should be too.

I am thicker. Let me tell you about thicker. Good head is VERY hard to come by. And my wife gets sore enough fucking that we never go back-to-back days, because she gets too sore.

Enjoy your situation.
 

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Hey everyone, looking for some mental pointers. Im personally very average in size 6-6.5 inch about 5 thick. When we have sex there are no issues but shes usually sore for a day or 2 after still. I personally have a complex where i want to be bigger

You are not 'very average' you're at the large end of 'average', or even above average, depending on what sudies you believe. Don't believe 'internet' or 'porn' averages, which are not even close to being real.

The issue is my wife insists im plenty big and doesn't want me any bigger, yet i still have a complex/issue about being bigger. Any ideas how to cope with it?[/QUOTE]

Listen to your wife! I used to want to be bigger myself, but as it is now I haven't been fully deepthroated, and my wife get sore as well. She is very happy with my size and says if I were bigger she might not be able to take it! Enjoy what you have, your wife does.:biggrin1:
 

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I have 8.7 and most girls do not like it when I go deep, which I love doing, it took my gf a while to take my whole cock, I think your size is good.
 

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Mate you have a wife that is very content with your size and currently already gets sore. My guess is all of this is more your problem of your perceived size vs the reality that you have a perfectly good sized penis. Why rock the boat?
 

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Nick I know how you feel. I'm about 8 1/2" length and 5 3/4" girth. However, I've had similar complexes, to the point where it really irritated her and was a turn off. I've made comments in the past such as I was getting surgery etc. just to get feedback and she told me if i do she would not sleep with me because I'm already too big. She has told me several times I was big. She's showed me that by her actions in bed, the pushing back, limiting our positions, screaming, cumming, at times her legs are shaking, saying that i'm filling her up, saying that I'm so long, grimacing even when she is drunk, stoping me from raising her legs.
Men always want bigger but most women could care less. Whatever the case may be, listen to your wife, learn to please her. Focus on making her comfortable and making love to her and pleasing her. Don't try to hurt her, dont try to make her sore for 2-3 days afterwards, it only hurts your chances of having sex more frequently.
The only way to cope is to accept what you have. You can't change it. There must have been something that happened in your past to make you feel the way you do. Deal with those issues and just know that if your wife enjoys it you shouldn't ruin it by constantly asking if you are big enough. Being unconfident is a huge turn-off. Show your confidence by your actions and your words. You will get alot further in your relationship.
 

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I completely understand your desire to want a bigger cock - I have that same desire. I have never gotten any complaints about being small or whatever, so the desire is completely for selfish reasons, as I suspect yours are.

Your wife, whom you will spend the rest of your life with, enjoys your cock as it is. That says something. She loves the man and the cock attached - not the other way around. So enjoy her accolades, ooh's and ahh's about your cock as it is and try to soak it up. Hard, I know. I get it. But it seems like she's got exactly what she can handle. Anything bigger would probably tip her over to the discomfort side rather than the pleasure side.

I should listen to my own advice sometimes.

Simba
 

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You've identified the problem and that's half the battle. It's in your head, not your penis. Having a mild desire to have a bigger dick is normal for most guys. If it really impacts your self confidence in bed or elsewhere, then there's a problem. Let me warn you though. I have VERY rarely heard a women say she had a serious problem with a guy's penis size (especially when she loves him). However, I have heard women say that the've had a problem with a guy who had a problem with his penis size. In other words, it isn't a problem until YOU make it a problem.

She says she's satisfied. Do you not beleive her? Or do you beleive her but still have issues?

Think on it this way, statistically speaking, you are likely to be bigger than most guys in the room.

I'm not sure what else I can say. But as I said, at least, you've identified that it is your mental issue that is the problem, and not really the size of your dick.
 

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Remember;
A -- It is not the length of the wand, but the magic inside.
B -- It is not how deep you go, but wether you touch the sides.

I am even smaller than you and my wife has infatically told me that I am fine. She personally did not like big men as they hurt. I want to be bigger also, but as I look back, I have never had a complaint and more than one lover has told me they preferred men of my size.

Your wife is having sex with you. WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT!!!!!!!!????????? For crying out loud....
 

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If you still feel "small" after all these comments, do like other small guys do...buy a huge 4x4 pickup truck with a lift kit and chromed out trim...hth

fwiw - dude, just enjoy life, your wife loves your dick as is, what's the problem ?