A meandering introduction: I consider myself and in practice have shown myself to be a more introverted fellow, the result of which is that I seem to develop my ideas of the world in a vacuum. I must be easy to get along with, because when I go out with friends I meet people and they seem to not be offended by my presence, but I usually just go home and that's that. Recently, though, I experienced a spate of hook-ups with girls, something far outside my character. And yet, with each one of these girls, I did not have sex with them. I have been, for a while, vocally against one-night stands (but these things often turn out this way because, after the fact, I discover that whoever was lying next to me post-coitus was not actually the person I thought they were, honesty appearing in beds like religion in foxholes). So I'm wondering, in my, err, actively avoiding sex while being in what is clearly a sexual situation a function of my wishing to not experience that post-sex let down, or is it a matter of some invented respect towards whomever I happen to be with(ha ha, probably not, I'm a male american college student) or do I even LOOK for that lack of sex and enjoy the other aspects of the hook-up? I feel like I'm missing out on something that a lot of college students "get" and I don't know if I'm better or worse for it. Is my situation more common than I think and have I been taken in by the braggadicio of my compatriots, or is this something to worry about? Hrrm, that was long and not particularly interesting, and I come off as someone who keeps his self-esteem in a tic-tac container. Take from it what you will, I'm just looking for the experience of others to see where I lie.