I'm being immature & getting a complex...

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by hardw1ck, Dec 1, 2006.

  1. hardw1ck

    hardw1ck New Member

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    Looking at the posts, it seems like many people have 9 or 10 inch penises.

    There is much talk too of 12 or 13 inch ones.

    I'm searching for a little perspective here.

    It just seems like even a 9 inch one would be colossal if honestly measured.

    [Honest measurement: on top, with a straight edge, from penis tip to perpendicular abdominal wall, whilst the long axis of the penis is at a right angle to the abdominal wall]


    We all watch porn.

    The biggest boners I've seen are by Lex Steele some guy called Sean something and a few other black guys. They look MASSIVE. Nothing else comes close. There is a stepwise, whole integer increase. Even Lex's might only be 9.75 inches, yet it dwarfs all others (Lexington Steele - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia).

    But lots here say they have similar or greater length! I've never seen a white guy with a penis approaching Lex's. Perhaps one of the biggest white ones is Peter North at say 8.5 inches (Peter North (porn star - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)).

    I measured mine (criteria above, gf present): whilst nominally excited at 7.75 inches (feeling a little soft) going to a tiny bit over 8 inches when girlfriend applied baby oil whilst wearing red nail varnish. Respective girths are 5.75 and 6 inches. I made a joke of it with her. I don't think she actually gives a s***t about the size or lack of it. She's sweet. She did actually say, unprompted & spontaneously, that it might feel a little better having sex with a guy with a 'big' cock than a small one.

    In terms of comments from girls, I have been told that it's 'massive' once, 'quite big' three times, 'quite impressive' once, 'ah, a big one, eh..!' once. One said 'I feel like it's going to come out the other end'. Most girls don't say anything and don't actually seem that interested in it as an object, which feels fairly consistent with average female psychology (emotions etc). One said that my size was 'OK', but it wasn't stiff enough. Another said her previous boyfriend's was probably longer, but thinner. Another long-term one guessed it 'must be 6 and a half inches' and looked at me for my eager agreement. I'm 39 and have slept with 42 (poss another 10-14 HJ's or BJ's). No other notable comments!

    I know it's immature etc, but my current gf has said its 'big', but only after 3 months and rather jokingly. She's 35 and has slept with 50-70, including black guys and so I feel f*****g depressed as she's obviously been stretched wider before etc.

    Get's my goat as she's really petite and really pretty. I love this girl. The visual image of her fine-featured, pretty, tender, feminine, girly face with a Lex-type cock bursting into her bulging cheek hurts me pretty badly. It doesn't do my erection any good either, potential vicious circle.

    So here's to the 9 inchers. And, honestly, how many really have 10 or more inches??!!!

    By all means be BIG. But, be accurate. Be honest.
     
  2. joyboytoy79

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    I was pretty much with you, until you started all that crap about black vs white.

    I've said it before, and i'll likely have to say it again:

    THERE IS NO SOUND SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE THAT RACE ITSELF IS A VALID SCIENTIFIC TERM, LET A LONE A PREDICTOR OF PENIS SIZE.
     
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    Dear hardwick

    Yes it's a drag being a little fish in such a big pond isn't it?
    Why I'm told that even Topper here doesn't feel he quite measures up sometimes to the mythical phantom monsters with no pics.

    There once was a sailor named Topper;
    my Gawd -- he had such a whopper!
    Once around his neck:
    twice around the deck,
    and up his nose for a stopper!:eek:
     
  4. Detroittothetop

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    Well then you now know better not to date women who have been with many black guys :p and ps 8 inches is big
     
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    Joyboytoy - I did not mean to offend in any way. I did not mean to imply anything perjorative about my observations of a porn actors' race. It just does seem to be my personal observation. I'm very open to references to other Lex-sized actors to balance my perspective.

    Moderators - sorry for wrong section posting!
     
  6. Gisella

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    Well...for sure you are right about a true, real, eye to eye 9" being colossal and if its at least a 6" in girth more colossal and very very rare to find it. And I can understand how you may feel too but try to not think to much about your girl/s being strecht by lenghts above yours but concentrate about your excelent girth :cool: ...

    Sure sometimes in a large penis board things can get out of reality and lots of talkings without real proof of having a 10" above...as it is growing in every corner...:rolleyes:

    In my very modest experiences (compared with the numbers of you and your gf parteners) I had 99% averages (6") and below averages and a 1% 9"x6". Never had a 7" or 8"...:wink:

    If I let the natural course of things take its place without planning and hooking up with someone that I know already has a large penis, the chances I meet a 7,5"x6" and aboves will be very slim.(I think..)

    But again and again I for sure will not be looking for great lengts but great girths, after my experience with a colossal 9"x6", what I would want to experience again will be the rarity of the 6" (girth) not much the 9" (lenght).

    Being accurate, honest as I can...you do have penis meassurament that will satysfied very good most women for sure, but you already know you are no Lex carrying a 9"...than what's the point you picture a girl like your gf in a situation being experiencing "Lex" and you become upset ? We all watch porn but when the scenario brings us bad feelings and put us down is better change the porn situation u are looking at..I think..:confused:

    Thanks...:smile:
     
  7. Gisella

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    I understand what you're saying JTB..but to be fair with the poster he is just hooked in his mind to Lex and his girls situation...and it seems many people are...:rolleyes:

    I dont think is a race issue is his situation...but 'male' issue...
     
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    Gisella

    Thank you.

    You sound like a sensitive and lovely person.

    I think I am feeling a bit inadequate 'cos she has slept with so many men. Also, she must, by statistics, therefore have come across at least one 9.5 incher or worse.

    It is so irrational, I know, but somehow it gets me for the moment 'cos she looks so innocent.

    I'm gonna get over it....:)

    Big hug to you.
     
  9. Gisella

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    I understand...:hug: and be good to you!
     
  10. Skull Mason

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    Just know that whatever you are imagining in your head is probably a lot worse than what has actually transpired. Lex and Mandingo has massive cocks that get rock hard. Chances are any guys she had were not that big and not that hard, and sure couldn't fuck like those guys can. You have a big cock brohim, don't be fooled. If she's been with a lot of guys she knows that you are amongst the biggest out there.

    And I know this might be out on a limb a bit, but does that thought of your slender, petite, innocent girlfriend slowly gagging on a Lexington cock stimulate you at all? Does it make your stomach turn? I think these things are good because they are giving you emotions and sensations! For me this is part fantasy part fear but I've learned to love thoughts like this and it really drives me to the edge during sex. Part fear because I know I want to be the biggest my lover has had, its a man thing. But i know there are bigger out there and I want to see her experience them. See how much she likes them etc. See them bring her pleasure. There is a sexual realm outside of our "issues" as men that if we learn to harness and explore many great things can be achieved. At first thoughts like this kind of bothered me, but now they turn me on. But you must be secure with yourself as a man! All men deal with insecurities at some point, regardless of their cock size. I'm still fighting the battle of being the biggest or being the best, but its tiring on the mind and soul. We've got to learn to let go and just experience.

    At least you already know she has experienced these things and has chosen to be with you. Having all of the above being an unknown with a girlfriend who is not very experienced can drive your mind wild!

    The fear also stimulates me to try harder and to always please her, its competition. Its good for not letting you get complacent, because in the back of your mind there is Lexington swinging his dick around waiting for you to leave...
     
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    best not to think what has come before, it'll only drive you mad.
     
  12. hardw1ck

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    Skull Mason - I will think carefully about what you say.

    I respect your inner strength. Your post does bring me some peace, I will reflect on it.

    Thank you.
     
  13. Lordpendragon

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    OK - here is an honest if un pc response.

    If you feel insecure about your partner's previous experiences - and this is more a man thing sadly - you need to learn how to absolutely fuck her brains out. You have the cock equipment - but also learn her responses to anal, oral, clitoral, g-spot, massage - everything - then learn about her moods and responses and put everything together into serious lovemaking sex - and don't be clockwork yourself either. Make her cum until she is incoherent.

    Then don't give a shit about anything else ever. :eek:
     
  14. D_Elijah_MorganWood

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    Here's the God's honest truth:
    ALL women who have fucked black guys have had their pussies stretched out beyond belief and couldn't possibly feel the teenie little weenie of a white guy. ;)~
     
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    That's it. You've got it. Couldn't be any ohter way. :tongue:

    Really, Hardwick, do you really think it's worth your time to worry about such things? I have so much to do, and so little time in the day to accomplish it all. I couldn't imagine wasting a minute of it worrying about those issues.
    Pendragon is spot on! Learn to screw the daylights out of her. Learn to do just what it takes to loosen the connections in her brain and make steam blast out of her ears. Sex is a mental activity. My penis is about the same size as yours, and I promise you I screw my partner like crazy with it. We have worked on it as a team project for a while now, and it's just not that unusual for us to have a session that we both think is "the best time ever!" It builds on itself like that. If you don't get the kind of validation and acknowledgement you need you may be best off finding another partner. It seems that in a solid friendship the sex can't help but get better. Without that sense of friendship there seems to be no way for it to get better.
    Good luck.
     
  16. va_lk_yr_ie

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    Size doesn't necessarily equate to good sex, nor is it a pre-requisite. A guy has to learn how to use the equpiment he's born with to turn his partner on.

    For my own part the absolute best sex I have is with my partner - he's on the upper end of average with close to 6.5/5 so not a massively hung guy by any stretch of imagination. He knows my body like myself after 12 years together, knows where I'm sensitive, what I like, just how to thrust into me for maximum pleasure, where I like to be licked, what positions I love and how to move in those, how to bring me from cold to sex-raving lunatic begging for multiple orgasms in a matter of minutes. That's sexy and that's a turn-on.

    Of course I have great sex with endowed guys too - especially guys that we've seen for a while and that have come to know me and my body better over time. But if my partner is the master, they are still in training when it comes to making me enjoy sex. Lordpendragon is spot on - learn to work with what pleases her - cock size is just a very small part of the equation (although an enjoyable part if everything else is there).
     
  17. D_Bob_Crotchitch

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    Just let it go. Most of the women I know find you more satisfying in bed if you treat them right, respect them, cherish them, make them feel special on a daily basis. Do some house work, walk by and still a kiss, say I love you (use the pet name here), and walk off humming or singing. It's the daily life that is the bigger influence. Start that fire burning in the morning and stoke it all day long.
    Skull Mason that was the most honest I've ever seen a muscle man in here be about his inner feelings. You deserve a star for that one. I don't want to the biggest, the most earth shaking, I want to be the one she loves and cherishes. The one that she thinks about during the day and can't wait to jump my bones when I get home. That's who I want to be.
     
  18. Chrysalis

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    Um...not true. I would know. And contrary to the prevailing, delusional myth, different colors come in a variety of sizes.

    But I assume you were joking.

    P.S. Even if the pussy has been stretched, it will recover its tightness over time, especially if the woman uses her internal muscles on a regular basis.
     
  19. sandiasky9

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    I am not going to tell you not to worry about it since they are your feelings. I would "advise" you to consider the attempt to redirect them since putting focus on external. You sound sensitive so though she is attractive it would seem that you are seeking a soulmate and would like to be hers. You are seeking that but getting blocked by wanting to be her "best lover" ever and presuming size is only factor. It is a factor but not only one and you got some feedback above (heck, I needed to read that about what to focus on regarding being a better lover and thought the response was right on and wonderful).

    You are sensitive and caring AND have huge dick. That puts you in the very far right of bell shaped curve. Seeking to be the furthest one over there for her can be done if you are able to put change the angst you have over "possibility" of a lover or two that surpassed you in that ONE category you will become number one IF change it to love making skills, giving her attention she never had.

    Yes, a woman will enjoy a nice sized dude. My favorite experience in regards to getting me on right path was having a nice little tart leave me for another. Now get this, he was an ex and she had told me first time together that I needed to be careful or something at first as dude I was following was not near my size. Well, he was also the type of dude that got up in morning and made coffee for them so they could chat a few minutes before the day started and would want to hear how her day went at the end of it. Can you fricking imagine that!! LOL. Anyway, after a month or so with me she went back to him. That was an eye opener. In my youth I made love with my dick. This dude made love with his soul, his entire body and he trumped me.

    Now to you. You have a big one dude. If those are real measurements you have left a wake behind of dudes bummed not able to even come close to measuring up. You are in unique situation that no woman is going to have dreamy thoughts of a bigger one during her private times.... she gets plenty from you dude.

    Please consider trying to use energy on emotions of the possibility of one or two that were bigger and try to put a little time into "morning coffee breaks with her". With what you are blessed with she will never think of another... and have no reason to do so.

    Blathered too much but wanted to address your feelings versus try to poo-poo them. They are yours so they are real. In odd way maybe they will be a good thing since will "force" you to try harder... do what it takes so that when she is by herself and having dreamy thoughts it will be the time you did ... to her.
     
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    Oh yeah, read about that Chrysalis lady. Man, she is a dream - intelligent, sensitive, pretty and sexual all in one. A wonderful and rare woman.

    Well, she has a post where she states she can't imagine anyone topping her man. How wonderful! But get this, look at pics of him. I am sure he is beyond wonderful lover and friend to be with someone like her. He apparently has her heart. Now, not to be wierd but go look at his pics as he is generous enough to post it all.

    I would gather that he might be bigger than average based upon detailed surveys done but in my mind he looks at best average. That is just my thought and based on the only dick I know - mine. When I take on a new lover that has only have a few before me I gather subconsciously that she has likely only experienced guys his size. Yet, to her no man could measure up!?! See, so much more to being the best than just size.
     
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