I'm Coming Out of the Closet Right Now!

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  1. gcbenji0

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    I'm doing it by text message. A few days ago, over aim, my friend asked me if I was gay and I told him no in a nervous panic.
    So right now, I'm texting him and I'm going to tell him. And that's going to be it.
     
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    Good for you and welcome to your new adventure!
    :smile:
     
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    I think it's great you are coming out of the closet. :smile: I think you'll find a lot of other things in your life which may have been up in the air start falling into place as you become more true to the real you. :cool:

    I am so out of the techno-loop, :redface: I think it's odd to do it via text message. I wouldn't expect you to send an engraved note on Cranes Paper. I guess I'm more a phone call person when it's something personal or serious. Then again I'm an old fogie compared to you. :tongue:

     
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    Welcome to the rest of your life. Hope yours goes as well as mine has.
     
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    Good. Don't hide it anymore. Let it out, man!
     
  6. gcbenji0

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    Told him.
     
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    and what did he say? how did he take it?
     
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    congrats, man... how'd he take it?
     
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    Good luck Benji! Big hug for taking such a big step. Remember we're here to help.
     
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    Comon out that closet boy! closets are for clothes! Are you clothes? NO!! so what are you do-rin in that closet!!?! Now look, I came in the closet to get you, and now i'm lost :mad:.. damn closet, now lets see, he said make a right at O Gosh! it's my dad, nope..not going out that way, O look it's Ryan Ceacrest i'll just ask him...but he probably want know the way out :smile:
     
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    Welcome to the gay community!

    haha

    I hope everything goes well!
     
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    I am sure by now you will feel as thought you have had a huge weight lifted off your shoulders my friend. It is a huge and difficult step to take, but one I am sure now that you have done it will make you feel so different.

    If you do get any bad reaction from friends and they turn their backs on you then you just realised they weren't that good friend in the first place. I am sure you would stand by your friends no matter what.

    Do keep us posted, don't forget you are surrounded by gay friends on here, only willing to help in anyway possible.

    Good luck and much Love
     
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    GREAT NEWS! Welcome - be safe & blessed - Let go and let God.
     
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    hey body, I just did the same thing with my best friend :) I wish you the best with your comming out
     
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    Good luck guys. I recall telling my friend that was kind of a red neck. He hears me out, is kind of quiet, then asks, "So, do you think I am good looking, I mean I always wanted an honest answer." Got to love it.
     
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    It's never easy and it has huge risks. But living an authentic life is it's own reward
     
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    well done my man. how did they take it? you coming out that is
     
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    This is when your life really gets going. You are now you. I know when I came out it felt like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders. No negative reactions either. (Everyone assumed anyway!)

    Congrats!
     
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    Here's a transcript of the text message conversation.
    i'm jon. my friends name is, well i'll call him Rob
    Rob in blue, Jon in red. My commentary in black.
    Jon: Can you keep a secret?
    Rob: If you wanted to tell a secret to anyone it'd be me
    Jon: Ok. I'm gay. That is all.
    Rob: When did you know?

    Ok so he was asking when did I know and I thought he was asking when did it happen.
    Jon: Um when I was born.


    Rob: Oh ok kool
    -ten minutes of silence, no texts-
    Rob: Have you told anyone else?
    Jon: No, I told you because you asked.
    Rob: Are you serious or are you joking?
    I hate this. When I came out in high school, I had to convince everyone that I wasn't joking. I was being sincere and this is what I get. FML
    Jon: Deadly serious. are you ok with this?
    Rob: I have no issues.
    Jon: k
    Rob: haha kool

    He's clearly in some way disconcerted with this. I have no idea how this will affect thing when I see him again.
     
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    I doubt it'll be negative, he's probably just gonna need some time to soak it all in.
     
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