I'm confused and suffering

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_Kyuss, Oct 10, 2007.

  1. B_Kyuss

    B_Kyuss New Member

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    I met a girl last week and i fell desperately in love with her. She's very tiny, she's like 1.40 (that's 4.60 in feet i guess?).
    She's got the most beautiful dark eyes i've ever seen, the most beautiful smile and perfect round tits, and she's got a smell on her that made me want to kiss her from the first time i saw her; so, I'm really really in love and I like her as a person too, when I got to know her.
    I've been very close to her in the last week and she seemed to enjoy the attention.

    Yesterday we were at her place and we kissed. She got pretty wild and we found ourselves naked, almost. I got rid of my boxers and i kept kissing and touching her, but I felt her colder, like she wasn't interested as before. So i asked her what's the problem a couple times, because she didn't want to ansewer, and she said something like "that's the biggest cock i've ever seen and I fear it will hurt too much".
    Man, I'm 6,5 inches!!!!
    I was quite disappointed, so i tried to explain that it would maybe hurt just a little, asked her if she had any lube or something, but she didn't want to have sex. At this point, the erection had vanished and i was confusional at best. We kissed a little more, then we took our clothes and I went home, where I fucking broke my hand punching at a door.

    WTF, she's had at least 3 other guys, what the hell they had?! pins instead of their dicks?! and she's never seen any porn? I don't know, I'm totally mad, what can I do?! Was she lying, did she change her mind? I love her and I want her so bad, this is killing me.
    Plus, I'll be totally embarassed when i will see her again because of my broken hand: she will know.
    This is so weird and stupid.
     
  2. AlteredEgo

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    Why can't you simply take her at her word? While not huge, you are well above average in size. Further, what you described was lust, not love. You'll be okay soon.

    To be clear: Perhaps you do love her, but that is certainly not what you described here.
     
  3. roosevelt

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    Well, the good news is, you'll probably get over it in short order, the bad news is, you've got a warped perspective of love.

    It's not much fun, but life does go on, I promise.
     
  4. B_Jennuine73

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    When two people meet and find a strong attraction to each other endorphins kick in.
    So these feelings you are having are probably not love, but very strong none of the less.
    That's why people may feel almost dizzy when with said person.

    Though frustrating for you, it is her right not to fuck a dick she thinks will hurt like crazy.

    Anger management classes my be a good idea for you. Not trying to be flippant or insulting, please consider it.
     
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    mankind has small dick
     
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    Just be sensitive on the subject and over time she will probably lighten up about it.
     
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    You just met her last week, so you haven't had a chance to really get to know her. I'm not going to say it isn't love. On my first date with my husband he told me he was going to marry me. It's always possible. Even so, lust or love, they can both feel very intense.

    Talk to her and let her know that you will take it slowly. There is nothing wrong with taking your time. Go out with her and see if there is anything deeper than the chemistry.

    If she wants you, but is still frightened, reassure her that you be as gentle as possible and that you will stop if it hurts too much. Talk about using some toys, starting out small and working up to larger ones. This will not only help stretch and reassure her, but will make for some fun foreplay.

    Most of all, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Sex, especially when it involves a strong attraction, is very powerful and brings out our stronger emotions and reactions. As does frustration.

    Be honest about how you feel and keep the doors of communication open.

    When I was in college, I dated a 6'8" guy, and when he took out his c**k, I left. It scared the heck out of me, so I understand how she feels. Now that I am older, I would have hung around to see if it was possible.....maybe! :redface:

    This is a chance for you to learn and understand women, what scares us and how to comfort us.
     
  8. Principessa

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    Kyuss, I can understand why you are upset, but as you have already figured out punching walls isn't going to help. :redface: When she asks about your hand tell her the truth (part of it anyway:tongue:). Tell her that you were really angry about something and punched the wall. If she wants more info, tell her it's a private family matter.


    As for your future intimacy issues with her, you are going to have to go a lot slower with her than it seems you have, with other girls. You're a smart guy you know the routine, double or triple the amount of time you would normally spend on foreplay. You might even have to have a few dates where all you do is go down on her. Never underestimate the power of a sensual massage. :wink: Invest in some lube, and make a big production of applying it. Make sure she knows that the purpose of the lubricant is to ease your entry into her.

    I know it doesn't make you feel any better; but statistically speaking, at 6.5" long you are above average. So it is possible that the men she has been with before were all smaller than you.


    That wasn't at all helpful.:mad:
     
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    :bsflag: GAME RECOGNIZES GAME

    this girl is full of bs

    ok here's what she's probably doing. (i've done this a lot before with guys so i know)
    it got hot and heavy and she doesn't want to have sex with you so she says "oh man that's big, it might hurt too much" to make you feel good, without having sex with you.
    she's been with at least three others so there's no way she's never seen one around that size, come on now.

    one time this guy wanted me to blow him i didn't want to so i was like "man you have a big penis i'm not sure i can do a good job." i put it in my mouth and took it out and i was like man i've had one that big before, i'm not gonna be able to do this tonight.

    another time this guy want to fuck my ass and i dont do that, so i was like "well i've never had anal before, and you've got a big dick. i want to do it, but i want to start off with a finger or two, then a small guy, then an average guy then maybe i'll be ready to take that big schlong. its too much for me to handle"

    lol. bs :lol:
    i make them feel like they are too much man for me to handle which makes them feel good about not fucking me.

    complete BS!!! lol
     
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    I disagree, gcbenji. I've never seen or been with a man who is uncut, but the average man is not. Are you going to accuse me of BS?

    Assuming that she is lying is certainly not a solution, as there is nothing to base the assumption on. This is a situation that calls for sensitivity, not accusations from the OP. You are questioning someone else's integrity and honesty based on how you would handle something similar.

    If I were with a guy for the first time and admitted I had never seen an uncircumcised penis, and he called me a liar, I would simply leave and have nothing further to do with him.
     
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    I don't know if this is love, ok, but i really really enjoyed the days we were going out together, i find her interesting and nice, we talked a lot and as a first impression it was so positive. There's a possibility she could not be the same person she showed me, problems can always come to surface, but I feel like I'm in love and I want to start a relationship with her, she's the only thing I can think about.

    As for the anger, I'm usually calm and patient and this punch classifies in the top 3 of the most stupid things I've ever done.
    Now I realize I didn't behave well, but I was confused, I was angry but I didn't know at what. I already asked her out again and she said she'll come, I want to apologize.

    Thanks for the answers, they've been precious, you helped me settle down and focus on the solutions of this problem. I admit I was in a heat and I now realize that I've been a little selfish.
    And oh, some are flattering, i never thought about me as "big" :p
    Also, sorry for my english if there are any errors but I never had to write about complicated things like this ...
     
  12. gcbenji0

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    i'm not making any statements about her integrity and honest, i'm just saying she didn't want to have sex but she didn't want to say she didn't want to have sex. nothing wrong with that its just funny that she has him so caught up.


    edit: and also i wasn't suggesting that he call her out on her bluff. i was simply letting him know that he needs to know her angle becuase obviously he's extremely caught up obsessed and head over heels for this girl
     
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    Just to let you know, we finally made love on sunday evening.
    She was just a little tense but she relaxed and got comfortable in no time and didn't even felt too tight for me.
    No problems at all, i'm with the most beautiful girl evah, and i'm very happy right now :D
    And yes, this is definitely love.
     
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    Awww, that's great Kyuss! I wish you many happy moments together.
     
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