Im curious...

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  1. MidusCo.

    MidusCo. New Member

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    I know this post may seem odd that a guy would post this.. lol.

    But yeah, on to the story:

    Recently Ive been dating a girl who I really like, shes had sex multiple times before and Ive never had sex once. And it sort of bothers me because I want to but Im sort of afraid seeing as I never have had sex before. I dont know if it makes her upset or anything thats one thing I was going to ask;
    I guess Im afraid that I would cum before her. Which I dont want that at all. Thats always bothered me, its probably the reason Ive never had sex lol.
    Im just wondering what most girls would think of a guy who is afraid to have sex or that wont because of the reasons I stated.

    And I was also looking for advice but have yet to find any lol.
     
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    Make sure she cums first thru foreplay and she will not care how long it takes for you to cum.
     
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    Was hoping to get a bit more advice, but thanks for throwing in your thoughts.
     
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    The more you worry about cumming too soon, the more likely you are to do so. That's why the traditional advice of "Think of doing your tax return" doesn't usually work, because in the back of your mind you are thinking "I can't cum early, I can't cum early!"...and you become tense and worried. Tension (both physical in the lower abdomen, groin, etc, and mental) is a sure recipe for cumming early.

    So, my advice would be to relax and try not to think or worry about cumming too early. Breath deeply into your lower abdomen and imagine the muscles relaxing. Hope this helps!
     
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    I wouldn't worry about cumming before her. If it's your first time, it's quite likely to happen. The experience is quite the rush.

    You don't mention your age but if you're young I'm betting your recovery time will be in the vicinity of five seconds. Just keep going.
     
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    lol Im 19 almost 20 if that would matter.

    Now see I was suprised to get this much advice. Its not that Im thinking about cumming first, It just bothers me cause of the whatif factor.
     
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    I was almost 22 years old before I sex the first time.My girlfriend had been with 3-4 other boys in highschool so I know how you feel.Thing is I was so jazzed about being with her ,the idea that she realy wanted me.When I shot off to fast I just kept going with my hands and mouth.We spent a couple hours playing I shot 3or4 loads and gave her several orgasms.She told me later that the others had just taken what they wanted and left her high and dry.It took me about six months to get over the jitters so whenever we had sex I would just concentrate on her,she was very happy with all the attention.AS for what she thought of my fear,well we've been married 15 years and have 2 children.So I guess she was ok with it.:smile:
     
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    Any1 throwing anymore advice? Or can I assume thats it? lol.
     
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    Here is some info.

    If you cum.... finish cumming, take the condom off and starting working her with your fingers/mouth. Keep her in the mood, give yourself 20 minutes or so.. then get your cock back in there.

    You are young, youth has a way of springing back after blowing a load.:biggrin1:
     
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    Sadly... I wanted to use my mouth and she said she didnt like it, but then again she never let me try.
    *We havent had sex but have done other things in reference to that.

    But yeah I was planning on doing that based off of the information Ive gotten so far.
     
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    How about you grab a dildo...and fuck her with it until you get hard again?
     
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    lol nice. I think I know where she has one to.
     
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    Firstly if she is understanding she will not be bothered if dont make her orgasm..Personally i would be more concerned being the experienced one making sure you enjoyed your first time. It honestly is best if you tell her you are a virgin and she should help you through.

    However if its advice you want..

    Unless you are 100% sure you can recover quickly dont let her give you a blow job first, thats just going to make you cum even quicker. And as for pleasing her, fingers, tounge, dildo use anything it takes and make sure she is extremely wet and turned on before penetration as it will make her cum quicker also taking the pressure off you...

    May sound weird but alot of virgin men think it is all about the pussy IT ISNT spend plenty of time working her clit, that is much more important. And dont even bother trying to get her g-spot..you wont be able to do that for a while yet

    If you feel yourself starting to cum you can always stop for a bit, use that time to kiss, play with her nipple etc or just slow right down, or use a variety of speeds & intensity so if you are embarressed she dosent know why you are slowing down.

    As for positions, start with missionary, you on top as it will give you a deep penetration. If that dosent seem to be working for her get her on top to ride you cowgirl, she knows what she likes and how to do it.

    But really dont be to bothered about cumming first and if she dosent..There are still many experienced men who can make a woman orgasm
     
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    Thats prolly the best advice Ive seen so far.

    I actually agree with most of it, I just dono about how she would feel about me being a virgin even though I think she already knows.

    Thanks for the advice :).
    Guess Ill have to try it lol. Only way to find out right? :p.
     
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    The last guy i was with was only a year younger than you and was also a virgin and i loved that he picked me to give it up
    too. And knowing that made me want to make it all so much better for him. Also knowing it wasnt going to be a cheap, sleeasy one night stand made him comfortable enough to know if he wasnt great at first (he wasnt) that he would be eventually (and he was)

    Honestly the best thing you can do is tell her you are a virgin and that you are nerous..At least then when you fumble (and you will) she will know why and that it isnt just because you are just a dud root

    And if you are shy/nervous because you think you are they only 19 year old virgin and havent one what your mates have.....I promise most of them havent done half as much as they say they have, and certainly arent as good in bed as they claim to be
     
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    Heres some advice for what its worth. Let her know you are trying and that will turn her on. Women don't like it when you just think for yourself so just think about her as much as you are thinking about yourself and you will do just fine. She will realize that and love the attention...

    As for the not liking to be licked in her pussy, after you fuck her for a however long it takes you to cum, you might find her more willing to let you lick her clit. I am sure she will like it anyways...And then when she cums with your tongue, you should be hard again, cause of your age, and then you can fuck her again...Its all good, just work hard and the payoff will be wonderful for the both of you
     
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    How about how she feels when you give her an orgasm and she is done and you haven't come yet? She wants to pleasure you too.

    The climax isn't the only part of sex! Just relax, it's supposed to be a stress reliever not a stressful event. :)
     
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    I guess so... lol. Right now Ive just been doing exercises. lol. Hopefully they pay off even if I do cum first, not that thats what I meant, I meant I wanted to give her a really good time.

    But yeah thanks for all the advice guys, Im just guessing Ill have to find out myself. For some reason I have a feeling itll be soon lol.
     
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    Seems to me that the real question here is... is she worthy of the special gift you are about to bestow upon her. And do you really wanna give her your virginity? Looking back upon my own experience the girl I gave my virginity too was younger than me but quiet experienced :naughty: I thoroughly enjoyed it too although I wasn't in love with her, and now I wished I would have given it to someone that I really loved. I truly wanted to wait till I was married but being 17 and with raging hormones I didn't even come close :tounge-in-cheek: That being said I came in record fashion all but 2 Min's :34: and that's stretching it a bit. But being the ohhh so horny lad that I was I didn't really go soft and was ready to redeem myself and that I did :1244: as I was ready to cum again she had orgasm ed and as I was about too myself she jumped off much to my dismay :banghead: but I told her and we went at it again :smileysex5: and we both came at the same time truly awesome!!! We even did it 2 more times and this being in my parent's car how cliche is that? :smirk: Anyways I'm sure you'll do fine just plan it well so you have enough time to do what you want and where you want. Well good luck!!! hope this helped you some. keep us inforemed.:awink:
     
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    lol Helped quite a bit actually. And in reference to her being worth it, she definately is. I dated her before, and out of every girl Ive dated for some reason Ive always come back to her.
     
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