Why does my girlfriend feel the need to be so touchy and feely with other men??? I don't understand it. It is SUPER frustrating and annoying to me(im soooo fucking angry right now). I down right hate it. I have asked her several times not to do this and she still does it and says "its part of my personality" or "its who i am". I call bullshit on that! We can all be friendly, but I believe a line is crossed when males and females start touching each other. My girlfriend is young (21) im 26 but i know how to treat my significant other in a relationship. And constantly touching others and putting other men above me is not it. I have expressed this to her several times but she keeps doing it. I know that she is not cheating or has any ill intent towards me b/c she doesn't hide or even try to hide it from me but dammit, wtf... STOP IT for FUCKS SAKE!!!
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A relationship is a balance between being I/You and being we. It's disrespectful to you. The fact that you are posting this suggests that there is a significant leakage of trust and respect out of the relationship. My advice is to ignore the specific behavior -- her having intimacy (by way of touching) with other men. Pull back and ask the larger question: Is she willing to adjust her behaviors to make for a better WE?
As a boyfriend, if you make a reasonable request about something in the relationship that is important to you, is she responding in a way that demonstrates commitment and respect?
My HONEST opinion: You're not so much as a person she's in love with, but an acquaintance with no standing that is deserving of accommodation. As human beings, we don't love men or women, we love individuals. YOU. Not some idealized notion of a man and what a man should consider reasonable behavior, YOU. You, with your unique likes and dislikes, talents, and gifts.
If she can not tune into the radio station that you're broadcasting -- and do it lovingly and with the enthusiasm and verve that a caring loving relationship requires, you're not a boyfriend, you're a fucking friend and not an essential one at that.
I pity you if you marry her.
In your current relationship state, that is.
I'm a guy who has lived a lot of relationship experiences. There are not a lot of women who get physical with men. Touching and feeling. That's not "usual" female behavior.
Listen.
You are not comfortable. Your request is reasonable.
Respect yourself. When you find the right woman, when it's truly right, it can be so good, and so uplifting. And if you can't respect yourself have her PM me.