I am not upset that my grandmother wants me to be a lawyer. She's welcome to want whatever she likes. I am upset by her tone and general disregard for my feelings.jeff black said:I think he is upset that grandma wants him to be a lawyer, or he is confused.
No. I don't.jeff black said:Either way, Chase, do you want to be a lawyer? :biggrin1:
Correct.mindseye said:I think it's the other way around -- she's criticizing him.
Yes, that's the one. I have made no commitment to Deep Springs, nor have I ever even considered going there. Muvie is actually the one who mentioned it to me as something she thought I would like. I checked out their website for a couple minutes and decided it wasn't for me.mindseye said:So . . . by Deep Springs, are you talking about the two-year school in California? And if so, have you made a commitment to attend Deep Springs, or do you have other options on the table?
Bingo.mfoley said:His grandma sent him a letter telling him her tiredness of laywers, and said he should gett of his hieney and go to school, then to law school.
*sigh*mfoley said:I think you should go for it! Make tons of money, have a huge house, live large...
It would be easier for me to get a law degree than it would be for just about anyone else.Bryan_Lyte2 said:Oh, O.k. thanks for clarifying. It's really not correct to demand a lifelong carrer choice be made by someone, even if considering it.I'd be a street musician just to piss her off. All jokes aside I have to ask, if she feels that she needs "A
LAWYER IN THE FAMILY", why you, and not someone else?
Spladle said:It would be easier for me to get a law degree than it would be for just about anyone else.
Spladle said:It would be easier for me to get a law degree than it would be for just about anyone else.
Well actually, "I'm exasperated" was the subject line of her e-mail. But other than that, well, yeah. That's what she's saying.ChuckRich said:So she's basically saying you're a loser if you choose what you want to do over something to benefit her and the rest of the family. And that your very existence isn't justified if you don't?? I can see why you're exasperated.
I have done.ChuckRich said:Tell her you're trying to find something YOU want to do with your life and she should be helping you make that choice not trying to make it for you.
I know. That's why ditched college back in January. It wasn't making me happy. However, I'm beginning to realize that I feel the same way about poker, and perhaps that's just how I'm going to feel about any way that I decide to make my living (barring some unusual circumstances), so I am seriously considering taking Muvie up on her offer. That is to say, I'll get a law degree if she'll pay for my education and hook me up with some living money so I don't have to work or play poker. Basically make school my "job" so to speak. I think I could handle that. My life is just kicking so much ass right now in so many ways that it would definitely be worth taking a shit-ton of classes if that's what it took for me to be able to keep living this way.ChuckRich said:Because if you get pushed into something you don't want it'll only make you bitter and unhappy and you'd end up failing at it from lack of motivation.
:biggrin1:alex8 said:Dear Muvie,
Many lawyers are self-centred, obnoxious wankers who prioritize the letter of the law and their own ability to play semantic games, rather than following what is in their hearts or what corresponds to their sense of right and wrong.
I would prefer to be a nice person.
Love,
Chase.
Oh? Is the position available?tallguypns said:Chase, I think you should take a job as my house boi. :wink:
*roflmao*mindseye said:Spadle hasn't had a chance to respond yet, and I'm concerned that a few of the responses here are bitchy and snarky enough to cause friction within the family. Let's assume that his goal isn't to estrange himself from his relatives, okay?
Sorry it took me so long to get around to doing upkeep on this thread, but I was out of town over the weekend, and I've been doing yoga at 6:00 in the mornings, and I've actually slept the last several nights, and I've been running bad at poker so I'm having to play a fucking ton in order to make rent and pay my bills which are due on the first. So I've had less free time than usual.mindseye said:So, here's my question: Why Deep Springs? What are your reasons for going there? Have you thought through the pros and cons of a non-traditional school? What are your goals for when you get out, and how will Deep Springs help you achieve them?
Hehehe. One of my wrestling buddies paid me $300 to re-take his SAT for him after he failed to make the minimum score he needed to receive an athletic scholarship to the college he wanted to attend. You don't have to do your very best, you know. I think I wound up getting him something like a 1200.ChuckRich said:The valedictorian of my H.S. class paid me to take his ACT for him. He wanted me to take his SAT too but I'd broken to school SAT score record (still well below a 1600 but what can you expect in the 49th ranked state?) and I was afraid I'd do better and everybody would think he'd broken my record. Damn that.
:sorry:vinny_spiruccino said:I seem to remember, young Grasshoppa, that we were once to have a career in porn together. Muvie would be so tickled, but I suppose it's now outside of your options.
**runs off weeping**
It's not that I actively want to not be a lawyer, though. I just have no desire to be one. Does that make sense? As for those other professions, well, I could easily be one of those, as well, but I have the same feeling of apathy towards them as I do towards lawyering.jeff black said:It just sounds like a waste. If you don't want to do it, you would hate it. And If you are smart enough to be a lawyer, why not try to be a doctor? Or some other highpowered business man?:biggrin1:
Spladle said:It's not that I actively want to not be a lawyer, though. I just have no desire to be one. Does that make sense? As for those other professions, well, I could easily be one of those, as well, but I have the same feeling of apathy towards them as I do towards lawyering.
I do like my grandmother. She's nice. It'd make her very happy if I did this.
It's a great anecdote, and it illustrates what I've said to a lot of people over the years --- the qualifications and experiences you gain don't set anything in stone; just keep hunting until you find a place of happiness and comfort.BronxBombshell said:I don't think she meant to hurt you when she said she wanted you to do something of value. I suspect she sees your apathy, and it terrifies her.
Part One: no desire...which leaves you with a big void deep inside, killing you slowly. As opposed to hating something, which is altogether a kinder form of death.
Spladle said:S'put it this way: There is friction within the family. I am estranged from my relatives.
Bottom line is, Deep Springs is not for me, and I'm sorry I didn't clarify this earlier.