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Hi.

I am gay and am not into anal at all... I have tried both many a time. I've dated tops and bottoms and have tried my best to please my partners but I have come to the realisation that I am never going to like it.

I am so much more into sucking, wanking etc... but, this is obviously going to be a barrier when it comes to finding someone to settle down with.

Am I alone?
 

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Bad odour is a big turn off for me. Takes less than a second to go completely soft if I smell anything bad. Still love guys butts just not interested in the hole though. Nothing better than going down on a hot guy but I’ve also been really happy being with a friend who I’m sexually attracted to.
 

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Bad odour is a big turn off for me. Takes less than a second to go completely soft if I smell anything bad. Still love guys butts just not interested in the hole though. Nothing better than going down on a hot guy but I’ve also been really happy being with a friend who I’m sexually attracted to.

Glad you wrote that, if someone sends me a pic of their hole, gaping or closed, I lose all interest and I’m a top!! Oral top that is.
That’s another thing about anal with strangers, knowing how empty they are - last few guys I fucked, I really wish I hadn’t - messy unclean (despite the promises of being empty) bastards
 

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People having no interest in anal is probably more common than you think. In my opinion, people's expectations have been affected by porn scripting when real life is less formulaic.

Obviously the more things you are open to, the broader your appeal will be. But think if you are honest with what you like and don't like you will find someone with similar interests and in the end you will be much happier.
 

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You're not alone! I really don't like anal much. Never had a real urge to fuck or be fucked. I kinda begrudgingly accepted that I'd "have to" choose top or bottom and chose bottom. I'd probably be fine with never doing any anal.
 
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you aren't alone buddy. I admit I'm a top but anal is best done with someone you know, trust, and prepares in advance. I've been pretty lucky over the years to have avoided really messy situations but it's a process. I love seeing male butts but I agree with the guy who says seeing a hole exposed in pics or porn is a little bit of a turn off.

I've not had much luck in the way of long term relationships but I've found anal is better when I've dated someone for at least a few weeks and we can plan.
 

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Are u really out here fucking guys that don’t douche? But good luck.. lol that’s like saying I’m straight but don’t like pussy... it’s not that it’s uncommon just unlikely but good luck... idk why gays have to be so complex; I wonder if women have to deal with this sort of thing =\
 

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People having no interest in anal is probably more common than you think. In my opinion, people's expectations have been affected by porn scripting when real life is less formulaic.

Obviously the more things you are open to, the broader your appeal will be. But think if you are honest with what you like and don't like you will find someone with similar interests and in the end you will be much happier.
Wow this is perfectly said. Couldn't agree more especially about the porn having skewed peoples expectations.
 

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lol that’s like saying I’m straight but don’t like pussy...

lol no actually that’s like saying “I’m gay and don’t like dick”. Just because someone is attracted to the same sex doesn’t mean they’re automatically attracted to anus. Do lesbians love anus?
 

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I'm another who's not into fucking. Tried it years ago and didn't like it - either giving or taking. The taking in particular just felt alien to me: something going up that I thought should be coming down. I don't think there's a compulsion for gay men to like anal sex, although some gay and straight people seem to think there is.

When I've been on sites like Grindr and have told people I'm not into it, they often lose interest completely and sometimes stop responding instantly. That lack of basic good manners usually tells me they weren't worth talking to anyway.
 

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Hi.

I am gay and am not into anal at all... I have tried both many a time. I've dated tops and bottoms and have tried my best to please my partners but I have come to the realisation that I am never going to like it.

I am so much more into sucking, wanking etc... but, this is obviously going to be a barrier when it comes to finding someone to settle down with.

Am I alone?
 

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No, you are not alone - but just very much the exception in the gay world. Most gay guys require to fuck or be fucked - anything else is just not "sex". When I was young and naive, just assumed I'd easily find guys into wanking and touch because that's what was natural for me. As time went on I worked out that cock up arse was what being "gay" was all about.
It's got to the point where I don't even think the word "gay" is the right label for me - even though I am only attracted to guys.
It has also largely killed off my sex drive; knowing full well - from experience - that yeah I'll find someone to wank with easily enough, but 5 mins later he'll start fingering my arse, or ask "so what do you like doing?", which is always a round about way of saying "are you a top or bottom?". I have no interest in sucking or being sucked either.
I have nothing to do with the so called "gay community" and don't identify with it. Instead, I hang out with nudist guys where there is a lot less pressure for anal sex, particularly with straight guys. Even so, it's easier just to wank on my own and not have to deal with the more common than not sexual incompatibility with guys.
 

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There is a similar older thread. Preference - No Anal You can just make out, hug another guy, suck him off, jerk him off, buy him a drink, do the macarena and a billion other things besides penetration. No need to do something that doesnt work for you.... Just get rid of toxic dumbheads that critisize anoyne and anything and dont poison your private moments.
 

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Hi.

I am gay and am not into anal at all... I have tried both many a time. I've dated tops and bottoms and have tried my best to please my partners but I have come to the realisation that I am never going to like it.

I am so much more into sucking, wanking etc... but, this is obviously going to be a barrier when it comes to finding someone to settle down with.

Am I alone?

You're not alone! Many gay or queer men don't enjoy anal, myself included. I do it to please partners, but I rarely cum from it.

Like you, I mainly enjoy oral and passionate foreplay/kissing.

Try not to worry about it! I'm with you xx