It tends to be that if you are nelly, queen, effeminant that everybody knows you're "different" from them (ok well different from str8, and let's face it folks most people are str8) and if you associate with the nelly guys then people infer that you are gay. It can be difficult to have the wild nelly queen type as a friend. Because the most effeminant have spent their whole LIFE being openly gay (hey it's obvious right) it's easier to stereotype them. I always thought one guy I knew was gay til I found out he was raised in SF in a household with 6 female relatives (and had various abuse). He just had some feminine mannerisms. Turns out the dude is str8.
There's a scene in one of the Queer as Folk episodes where ted (the nerdy accountant) and emmett (the nelly obvious one) are talking. Ted tells Emmet it was easy for him because everyone knew he was obvious, never had to tell anyone that he was gay.
If it weren't for the gender rebels, men who are gay and effeminant or women who are lesbians and butch, where would gay rights be? You can't help who you are. 60Minutes (TV Newsmagazine in the USA) did a story about gays a few months ago, they had a little boy, 7yo I think, who was femme and you knew he would grow up to be gay, if not transsexual. Loved all the girly things, lace, barbies, clothes. His twin as boy and all boy, GI Joe, firetrucks, airplanes... It just depends on when those hormones (in utero)kick in as to if you're gonna be nelly or butch. The book Brain Sex by Anne Moir (?) had an interesting note in it. About 75% of boys who are "girly boys" grow up to be gay/bi men. Everybody knows XX is girl and XY is boy, except for when you're XO (turner's syndrome) or XXY (Klinefelter's syndrom) or XYY (xyy syndrome) or XXYY or XXX or XYXYXYXYXY(you'd be ok if you were a platypus though

) . Gender, sex, and sexuality is a lot more complicated than it used to be.
His rant is against gender nonconformity, which is what the little boy in 60minutes was "diagnosed" as having. He mentions nothing about the Dykes on Bikes, butch women. The feminine men challenge his view of what it is to be a man, so therefore he dislikes. He views queens as needing a tampon because of anal sex because he's narrow minded and a turd. He doesn't know anyone who is str8 and likes anal sex... mmm interview his previous girlfriends

He assumes that queens have tons of sex. I'm guessing some are monks and some are whores, just like everybody else out there. He's not gay so he doesn't view saying, OH that's so gay! as a slam because it doesn't effect him. If you were to call him a cocksucker that would offend him I bet.
Like Indy said it was the draq queens who got fed up with being harrassed that caused the Stonewall Riots, and the beginning of the modern gay rights movement.
Can we take bets now if he has a child that's a boy he'll be as nelly as they come?