This one just kind of makes me angry because it is a disgusting display of an insecure person trying to make himself look better by putting down another human being.
1. There is no human being that can be fingered with regards to orientation based on the style of music they enjoy. I do not care personally if a person loves Michael Jackson, George Michael, Boy George, Prince, Donna Summer and the Village People. A preference in a type of music does not indicate anything other than what it is. It does not signify sexual orientation, period!
2. The only way he could "out" you would be if he had photographic proof of you in bed with another male. That is the ONLY way.
3. I do not know the age of the individual involved, but the mental maturity is incredibly questionable.
4. Many years ago, when I was working in the Music Business, like many, I dealt in what is called "Institutional Sales" of pianos and organs. These are very expensive instruments sold to colleges, churches, concert halls, etc. etc. etc..
My situation was a little worse than yours, I had a 70 year old Christian Fundimentalist go to a photocopier and using an old concert picture from an old concert flyer, she peppered my business territory with a bulk mailing stating that I was a homosexual and that no church should purchase an instrument from me.
I took this to a very good West Hollywood Attorney. Because she had broadcast this with the idea of doing me harm in a financial way, the Attorney did an assets search and determined the extent of value of nearly everything she owned. Her assets that could easily be found totalled out to be about $750,000 at the time. He then proceeded to send her both a letter and a copy of a filing of a lawsuit not yet filed. He basically stated that because she had intended to do me financial harm by her actions that he was prepared to take everything she owned. The sexuality or orientation was not even the issue and my orientation would not have been relevant in Court. What was relevant in Court was that based on her belief system and some crazed whim she decided to do this potentially financially destructive mailing.
The thing that surprised me according to the Laws of the State of California was that all that would have been necessary was another person receiving her communication. That was it!
The "old-bag" was given 14 days to contact all the churches to which she had written and in writing state a retraction, AND in addition, she was placed on notice that If I lost a single sale of an instrument based on what she had done, and we found out that the institution in question had even simply received one of her "flyers" every asset she had was GONE!
There was very little doubt of the orientation of Liberace, he was "outed" by a tabloid back in the 1950's. He took them to Court and because they had no proof of their statements, he won judgements in incredible amounts for that time against both the publication and the author of the story separately.
What you need to do is to look at intent here. Is this just a "loud mouthed idiot" that nobody pays attention to, or is this some guy actually out to do harm to you by his "foot in mouth disease".
If you need additional help on this don't hesitate to PM me and I will try to give you some guidance.