I'm Gonna Say This Once - LOCKERROOM/GYM ETIQUETTE

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_bobs3304, Jan 24, 2008.

  1. B_bobs3304

    B_bobs3304 New Member

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    For EVERY SINGLE gay guy out there that works out at a gym or swimming pool or sauna...

    DO NOT stare at a guy's junk if he spots you on the bench.

    DO NOT stare at a guy while he's changing

    DO NOT stare at a guy while you're in the sauna together

    DO NOT stare at a guy's junk while he's working out.


    :mad: NO no no no no.


    I'm sick of it. Last time I'm taking it kindly anymore. If one more dude does any of those things at the gym, I'M CALLING HIM OUT on it.

    It's fucking perverted, disrespectful, distracting, and RUDE.

    I don't care what you do in the bedroom. But have some standards JESUS.

    For all you G&L All. feinds, I'm not being homophob. Straight dudes atleast at MY gym don't ogle the women too much, if at all. But a couple "suspect" guys DO stare at me, and it's phucking NOT HAPPENING ANYMORE.


    Sorry for the rant.
     
  2. Mr. Snakey

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    Food for thought. If they are looking at you. You are looking at them no?
     
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    you mean if they're voyeuring and im catching their perverted no class ass, i'm voyeuring too?


    riiiiiiiiight.
     
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    Dude,

    You must be pissed off tonight...

    Try to imagine what it's like for us gay guys working out at the gym and being hit on by other gay guys we don't fancy!

    Double whammy:

    1. An unattractive guy is supposed to be just an unattractive GUY to you. To me it's an UNATTRACTIVE guy.

    2. If the oggler has ANY reason to suspect I am gay (say, from seeing me talk to a gay acquaintance of his), I will be FAR MORE fair game to him than YOU would be.

    In conclusion, don't just rant here! Just tell them to their face whenever they cross the line. Believe me, it works!

    The other night, the guy would even MASTURBATE to me in the showers when noone was there. I had to tell him straight: "Should I call the cops!".
     
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    ^ Fair enough, and for now on I am.


    But where the hell are you where guys openly jerk off right in front of you?


    Jesus Christ.
     
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    You're 7" soft. There's a lot to look at.

    What's happening is you're letting the situation build to such a point that you'll go ballistic on the next guy who does it again. That's passive-aggressive and not healthy. It's better to address each instance as it happens. Eventually you'll let the whole gym know that you are not interested in that kind of attention and it will happen without you getting frustrated and angry like this.

    Find a good comeback that's polite but pointed enough to let you know you don't appreciate their stares.

    Maybe we can help you come up with a few?

    The old, "Take a picture, it'll last longer," is a standard.


    Any other suggestions to help out bob?
     
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    God, build a bridge and GET OVER IT!!!!

    You are more than happy to show your penis off here to MILLIONS of people around the world, of both sex's. Why not turn your dislike of gays, into a compliment. If they are staring at you, then you must be worth staring at....

    Turn it into a positive experience, rather than a negative one.

    Ariel

    PS: how do you feel most women feel, they get oogled at all the time, both in and out of the gym.
     
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    gay dudes in public restrooms are the worst
     
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    oh and PPS: you say you are not a homophobe, maybe, maybe not. But you are at least a BIGOT. Calling us "fiends" and "perverted". Time to move into the 21st Century I think. The dark ages are looooong gone.

    Ariel
     
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    bob, if you are so against someone looking at your "junk" then get off lpsg and find some completely "straight" site to post on. you are obviously somewhat interested in a man's opinion or you would not be here. exactly how closeted are you anyway?
     
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    I got called out once - very embarrissing. But, like uncut said, I misinterpreted his return looks at first and pursued the matter too far.
    I try to be discreet when looking, but found that some are so paranoid they will stare back at the slightest glance. In fact, every time I look in their direction, their eyes meet mine immediately.

    But I, too, know what it is like to be leered at by those I am not interested in. Uncomfortable, because I don't want to give any indication of mutual attraction. I have no plans to call them out, just ignore them like pesky animals.
     
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    I guess you have a few options if men keep staring between your legs:
    1. take it as a compliment (hey, at least they think you're hot)
    2. scowl at them or say something to let them know you don't like it
    3. wear really baggy shorts and never shower with the door open so no one thinks there's anything interesting to look at
    4. have penis reduction surgery (does that even exist?)
    5. find a gym with no gay guys at all in it (might be tricky to arrange)

    If there's a good looking and hung naked guy in a gym sauna there is NO WAY I can stop myself at least glancing at him. You'd be the same in a mixed sex sauna I bet
     
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    In truth, my experience has been that it's the straight guys who stare or make comments. Gay guys tend to glance and smile and look for some other kind of sign of reciprocation. In short, gays have learned the hard way to be discrete lest they end-up getting punched in the face.

    Straight, and the proverbial bi curious, guys aren't used to looking at dick without looking like they're looking at dick. They may not also realize you'll think they're after you until just a split second too late.

     
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    dudes im not tryin to be rude and get kicked off the site.

    i just do NOT like the negative attention unless it's from a lady, and even then I don't like it to be blatant.


    Yes, I feel "threatened" when a homo stares at me. Does that make me bad? No.

    It makes me human.


    I think gay guys need to be more tolerant of straight guys' right to privacy just as much as "we" should be more tolerant of their sexuality, and personally I dont give a fuck if you homos wanna stick a giraffe up your butt as long as I'm not involved.

    Just being honest.

    Don't be so sensitive. Or Ignore me. Whatever.
     
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    Don't worry, sounds like you already have something way bigger than a girafe shoved up there.

    anal retentive much?

    Ariel
     
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    Dont look at them and you wont see them looking at you. If it bothers you that bad dont go to the gym.
     
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    ^ That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard dude.


    And I WORK at the gym I'm a personal trainer. Next time one of you does that I'm TOSSING HIS ASS out of the gym. It's against the rules anyway. Respect people's privacy. I think 99&#37; of the time, you can tell if someone's gay. I am fairly blatantly straight.

    Gay guys are just horny voyeurs that would screw a lampost if it had a dick.

    And don't get sensitive, b/c you know it's true. Statistically gay guys watch more porn than anyone else on the planet.

    Not to mention the whole AIDS thing.

    Again, i'm no phobe. I'm a good fair dude. But cross me.......
     
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    God I hope someone bans you
     
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