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Everyone I need some advice...

Last year a coworker and I started to get to know each other, some flirting and private msgs thru Facebook happened as well. Eventually the conversation turned to sex but we were both unwilling to engage because she was married. Well one day she messaged me saying he had sex with her husband and brought up how she wanted to bring in another guy, which he was ok with. So the threesomes started happening quite a lot and then her and I would play on the side all the time. They have invited me and paid for 2 different vacations. The woman consistently tells me how much she loves me, how she wishes she was married to me and not him. She goes behind his back and makes excuses to come have sex with me.

They wanted me to move in back in March which I did. She has been all over me when she can. Tells me all the things I mentioned before and I found myself deeply in love with her. I love this woman to pieces and everything feels perfect when we are together.

So the other night we had amazing sex by a river and when we were driving back home she tells me this...I can't leave him, we have been through to much together. I live you and just know I want to be married to you but I can't. I want you in my life forever and I'll get really mad if you go and find another woman.

What in the hell do I do? I've moved in with this couple, the sex is probably gonna stop between me and her. I'm laying in bed lonley every night while I the woman I love is laying next to a man she tells me she is not sexually attracted to and does not romantically love. For God's sake they haven't even had sex one on one since I came in the picture and it's been 9 months....
 
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You allowed these people to manipulate you. It happens. You know you need to end this, grieve it, and move on. What you're in right now is functionally and emotionally very much like a failed marriage. It just happens that your "spouse" has another, actual spouse.
 

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Forgot to add they want me to move across the country with them in a few years as well....
I'm confused. You gallery pictures are either you sucking a guy or a guy sucking you? Are you really bisexual? It seems like you might want to clarify your own sexual orientation first.
 

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I'm not sure why you said the sex would stop, maybe something was missing from your description but I didn't see a reason that would be that case.

I think you need to decide whether or not the relationship as she/they have described it is what you want for yourself. If its not, which it sounds like it isn't, then you should get out of it. If she's told you that she's not going to be married to you, and that's when you want then you should take her at her word and move on.
 

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I'm confused. You gallery pictures are either you sucking a guy or a guy sucking you? Are you really bisexual? It seems like you might want to clarify your own sexual orientation first.
His orientation is displayed as 50/50. That's pretty much textbook bi. But why would it be a factor here? He's in love with a married woman...he hasn't expressed any feelings about her husband, so why would his orientation matter? I'm asking seriously.
 
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You went in with eyes wide open, and willingly had an affair. I'm not entirely judging when I say that, but let's not beat around the bush and pretend that the pickle you are in wasn't of your own creation. You knew from day 1 that you were involved with a married woman, had regrets but kept it up, got involved in the duplicity against her husband, moved in, and are still even considering moving across the country with them.

So, you knew what was going on, and charged ahead anyway. And now you are asking for advice on what to do? When you consciously took this journey with full awareness?

I'm asking myself what more do you say to someone who is that aware of their actions, yet fails to see the obvious answer to fix the situation.

Move out. Get a new life that doesn't involve them. Heal your Self, and then take a serious look back on that period of your life.
 

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You need to get a plan "B" together real soon and when they decide to move across the country, you implement your plan "B". This was a very stupid thing getting involved in this situation with a married woman much less a married couple. She has already told you that she can never marry you as she says she won't divorce him. That should end your relationship and you move on to your plan "B" and don't look back. NEVER, EVER get involved with married people...it will never work. Good Luck with what ever you decide.
 

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You went in with eyes wide open, and willingly had an affair. I'm not entirely judging when I say that, but let's not beat around the bush and pretend that the pickle you are in wasn't of your own creation. You knew from day 1 that you were involved with a married woman, had regrets but kept it up, got involved in the duplicity against her husband, moved in, and are still even considering moving across the country with them.

So, you knew what was going on, and charged ahead anyway. And now you are asking for advice on what to do? When you consciously took this journey with full awareness?

I'm asking myself what more do you say to someone who is that aware of their actions, yet fails to see the obvious answer to fix the situation.

Move out. Get a new life that doesn't involve them. Heal your Self, and then take a serious look back on that period of your life.

+1 to this, @420Canadian nailed it spot on...

i think she seduced you into falling in love with her through her words and her actions; and you knew it all along and was cool with it. the fact that you were able to move in with them means the marriage was okay with you being around and in it (which is both a good thing and a bad thing for you). on the positive side, you get free booty whenever you want without any worry from her marriage. on the negative side, you will always be the side piece, forever, period.

she won't leave her husband because the marriage is giving her something you can't. we don't know what that is and only she does. she probably won't truthfully share that with you. she's also selfish in wanting you to be in her life as her side piece. don't get me wrong, her feelings for you may very well be real but not enough for to be with you ONLY. she's very selfish in wanting her marriage and you (plus not allowing you to have another woman but her, wtf?!). it's not a good or bad thing, it's just who she is and what she's decided for herself. the question now is what are you going to do for YOU?

i doubt the sex between you and her will end. it will most likely continue however the emotional toll on you may be the problem here as sex with her may only reinforce your feelings for her and therefore tax you emotionally unless you can separate the mental from the physical and just enjoy the free fucks.

so what do you do now? well, follow what @420Canadian said and move out and move on with your life OR face the reality of the situation that you got yourself into and commit to the consequences of it and enjoy being a part of that marriage until you get bored of them or they get bored of you... or perhaps you three can create a wonderful poly-relationship together in the long-run? regardless, listen to the others here and get a plan B in place JUST IN CASE. you don't have to play this card but always keep it nearby!

this is all i can say with the information you've provided.
 

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Where's Judge Judy when you need her?

How's your relationship with the husband? Are you actively lying to him? Are you involved with him too? Is it something you would consider, to solidify a triad poly relationship?

I'd be worried about my FBook history if I were you. Those messages always end up haunting you, and can be twisted into the most nefarious ways. If you left, would she be vengeful? Would work be at risk due to the messages? Would she tell her husband you forced the situation on her?

It would be great if all three of you could live happily, but with it all starting in lies, I can't picture it.

Also, I totally think she's still sleeping with the hubby.
 

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Everyone I need some advice...

Last year a coworker and I started to get to know each other, some flirting and private msgs thru Facebook happened as well. Eventually the conversation turned to sex but we were both unwilling to engage because she was married. Well one day she messaged me saying he had sex with her husband and brought up how she wanted to bring in another guy, which he was ok with. So the threesomes started happening quite a lot and then her and I would play on the side all the time. They have invited me and paid for 2 different vacations. The woman consistently tells me how much she loves me, how she wishes she was married to me and not him. She goes behind his back and makes excuses to come have sex with me.

They wanted me to move in back in March which I did. She has been all over me when she can. Tells me all the things I mentioned before and I found myself deeply in love with her. I love this woman to pieces and everything feels perfect when we are together.

So the other night we had amazing sex by a river and when we were driving back home she tells me this...I can't leave him, we have been through to much together. I live you and just know I want to be married to you but I can't. I want you in my life forever and I'll get really mad if you go and find another woman.

What in the hell do I do? I've moved in with this couple, the sex is probably gonna stop between me and her. I'm laying in bed lonley every night while I the woman I love is laying next to a man she tells me she is not sexually attracted to and does not romantically love. For God's sake they haven't even had sex one on one since I came in the picture and it's been 9 months....

Thank you for sharing your story.
It seems like a perfect set up for a good cuckold relationship. If she's being honest with you about them not having sex together why couldn't she just tell him that she wants to have sex with you?
Many couples make this arrangement work.
 
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Where's Judge Judy when you need her?

How's your relationship with the husband? Are you actively lying to him? Are you involved with him too? Is it something you would consider, to solidify a triad poly relationship?

I'd be worried about my FBook history if I were you. Those messages always end up haunting you, and can be twisted into the most nefarious ways. If you left, would she be vengeful? Would work be at risk due to the messages? Would she tell her husband you forced the situation on her?

It would be great if all three of you could live happily, but with it all starting in lies, I can't picture it.

Also, I totally think she's still sleeping with the hubby.


Jerry Springer ..... is the one that is needed here.