my and my good friend are members to this gym. she introduced me to this gym in the beginning and i joined. since i know a lot about working out and nutrition, i told her i would help her. so we went for a few days together, doing classes, which for me, doesnt suit my purposes. i want to gain muscle, she wants to lose weight.
I don't see why you're at cross purposes because of your goals-- weight triaining is wonderful and necessary for people that are trying to lose weight, and everyone needs cardio. My point is, and you have to know this, both of you need to have ample amounts of strength training and cardio in your routines, so I don't see why this, specifically, is a problem.
It almost sounds like what you perceive as her being clingy is the problem, in which case, this is not about the gym at all, it's about your relationship with your friend.
so anyway, now shes like when are you gona go so i can work out with you. its like she cant go to the gym alone, without me(she had a friend that went with her before who has now quit). and i dont want to go with her cause me and her dont have the same goals and i cant focus on myself. i want to work out alone.its like when your with someone and working out, its hard to really do anything if there someone following you. but shes a good friend, and i dont know wat to do. she doesnt have self-motivation watsoever. so what to do? i dont want her to be mad at me.
well, you have a few choices... tell her the truth as nicely as you can and she may get mad at you. don't tell her the truth and start weaseling out on her, and she'll get hurt feelings and probably mad at you. keep going with her the way you are now, and be miserable. or, work out a schedule with her that's a compromise, i.e. "i can go with you on tuesdays and fridays, but i need to go alone on wednesdays and saturdays" or whatever.
The more honest you are with her, the more hurt feelings you'll spare in the long run and the better you'll feel about this friendship. "It might make him/her mad" is rarely a good reason to not be forthright with someone.