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I have a friend who I'm so close with, we practically tell each other everything. He's straight and he knows I'm gay. We've been hanging out so much new feelings have popped up. I dont know what to do, should I be honest with him? Or keep it a secret in order to protect my friendship?
My advice is. Discretely distract yourself from being in his company so much.I have a friend who I'm so close with, we practically tell each other everything. He's straight and he knows I'm gay. We've been hanging out so much new feelings have popped up. I dont know what to do, should I be honest with him? Or keep it a secret in order to protect my friendship?
Yeah. We've both had problems with a breakup and I was there for him and he was there for me. I currently have alot of problems at home, and I usually go to his place to wait things out. I was thinking that these feelings were like that, except I was thinking that I admired him too much. I'm taking some of the advice on here and trying to be around him less. I dont know if he'll take it in a bad way though. Like if he realizes that I'm trying to avoid him, and he'd probably confront me about it. Hopefully it works out and things can go back to normal.Might sound like i'm giving you a hard time here or something but have you by any chance also went through any rough times? Maybe a bad breakup or problems with family? Something that would make you feel more vulnerable than normal? Sounds to me like you've been friends for a while. And sometimes when we're in our most darkest times or most vulnerable we can sometimes mistake appreciation for someone being there as real feelings for that person in a romantic way.
Could be horrible advice but i'd say to talk to them. Before you do though i'd also say to find out if the above is true. Don't know why i feel the need to say but being alone isn't the same as being lonely. Sometimes when we're lonely we might do things we regret to end that feeling of loneliness. Keep in mind i don't either of you from adam. And aren't an expert in anything. Hope it works out though.
Yes! I agree, I wasn't thinking about that at all. Except I think he's bi-curious, he has told me about him thinking of trying something with a guy. He has teased me before, but I blew it off as just a joke most of the time.Find another person to like, one that you know is actually gay or bisexual. He isn't the only person in this world and you don't have to limit yourself to hoping he likes you back. If he is straight, respect his orientation. If he does come to you and says he is curious & wants to try things out with you because you are good friends, and he trusts you, go for it.
I say, remain friends. From my experiences, if a guy is bi curious trusts you, he is going to get really comfy and want to try things. I just say don't always expect that situation but sometimes it can work out like that. Guard your feelings and take it slow, remember, if he is curious and new to the scene you have to treat him like he is a baby learning to walk. Make him feel at ease, make him feel loved and accepted. Tell him that no matter what problems he has at home you will always be there for him as a friend and you are always there to listen. Be there as a friend, build trust and things may POTENTIALLY turn out to your liking.Yes! I agree, I wasn't thinking about that at all. Except I think he's bi-curious, he has told me about him thinking of trying something with a guy. He has teased me before, but I blew it off as just a joke most of the time.