So, I just signed up so I could ask this question - I'm not sure where else to go.
All my life I've been gay, and a total top. Never felt like bottoming, and everything was great. Recently, my boyfriend started insisting that I bottom for him once - said I would love it. I didn't.
In fact, it was so bad, that I am now questioning why other guys would ever like it - and I'm now hesitant to fuck my boyfriend, cause why would I put him through that? It burned like hell, felt like I was being impaled (and he's only 6.5" and average thickness) both at my ass and in my abdomen - like I had the worst case of stomach flu cramps ever. I never once got anything remotely pleasurable out of it even when he supposedly found my prostate with his fingers - it was an ordeal I will NEVER repeat.
And so, my problem. Now he feels terrible, and I think I might lose him. Plus, I'm not at all keen to fuck him or anybody else now - and it was my favorite thing. I asked him if oral would be OK with him from now on - he's not that happy. But why would I want to hurt anybody, leastways somebody I have feelings for?
I read through so many forums where guys say it feels so great, but they all admit it hurts, burns, and that that's part of the appeal. You've got to be kidding???!! I thought, given stuff I'd read and conversations I'd had, that bottoms felt GOOD having sex. I just can't hang with the "hurts so good" crap.
What the hell am I going to do?
All my life I've been gay, and a total top. Never felt like bottoming, and everything was great. Recently, my boyfriend started insisting that I bottom for him once - said I would love it. I didn't.
In fact, it was so bad, that I am now questioning why other guys would ever like it - and I'm now hesitant to fuck my boyfriend, cause why would I put him through that? It burned like hell, felt like I was being impaled (and he's only 6.5" and average thickness) both at my ass and in my abdomen - like I had the worst case of stomach flu cramps ever. I never once got anything remotely pleasurable out of it even when he supposedly found my prostate with his fingers - it was an ordeal I will NEVER repeat.
And so, my problem. Now he feels terrible, and I think I might lose him. Plus, I'm not at all keen to fuck him or anybody else now - and it was my favorite thing. I asked him if oral would be OK with him from now on - he's not that happy. But why would I want to hurt anybody, leastways somebody I have feelings for?
I read through so many forums where guys say it feels so great, but they all admit it hurts, burns, and that that's part of the appeal. You've got to be kidding???!! I thought, given stuff I'd read and conversations I'd had, that bottoms felt GOOD having sex. I just can't hang with the "hurts so good" crap.
What the hell am I going to do?