I'm looking for a father

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This is not a sex posting exactly. I'd like someone to be a surrogate father to me. I have been fantasizing about having a dad: someone who will take me to the park and play catch with me, watch movies with me, read me stories and tell me I'm a good boy when I have had a good day at work. In return, I will do chores, put away laundry, fetch him beers and basically be a loyal son. When we're out together, people will think we're just a couple of adult male friends, but in private we're daddy and son. Nothing would make me happier than to see a warm smile on my dad's face when I bring him a present on father's day or to call him in the middle of the day to tell him that I miss him.

Has anyone else had these fantasies or, better yet, fulfilled them?
 
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someone who will take me to the park and play catch with me, watch movies with me, read me stories and tell me I'm a good boy when I have had a good day at work.
My actual Dad doesn't do any of those things with me.






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My own father (who is straight) had a terrible father. However, when I was a little kid, I noticed that he had a couple of much older friends that probably served as a surrogate dad. I think it's pretty natural for a guy to search for this type of relationship when it has been missing.
 

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How do you relate this to being 100% straight? I mean, I am not judging the desire I just don't understand the total placement of this wish
 

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Think that you shouldn't look for a father online. If you are going to do that sort of thing...you should try in your local area with men you are able to meet and be friends (?) or family (!). You can meet older guys who have "fatherly traits".


My father wasn't perfect but I wasn't the perfect son. I didn't have "surrogate fathers" but I had men who taught me other things that my father lacked knowledge in. (NOTHING SEXUAL, mind you.)


I think that everyone has parentals that were lacking but sibs always found means to find people who picked up the slack where the parentals lacked.

 

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How do you relate this to being 100% straight? I mean, I am not judging the desire I just don't understand the total placement of this wish

Oops. I meant to say that I was 100% gay...which I am. I clicked the wrong thing while filling out my profile. only noticed that now...
 

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I don't think it's ever too late to want love. It sounds like you wouldn't mind if sex never even entered into it. Here's hoping you meet a friend, just that wee bit older than you, who is willing to hang out and be your lifetime companion.

In my own life I dated men who were almost certainly part surrogate dad, as much as 30 years older at first. The sex would peter out after a while and a period of simple living together would follow. Over the decades I moved to partners ever closer to my own age. Now I even have a 'boy toy' (in his 40s) !

Maybe it's easier to find a relationship like this combined with romance, but don't discount straight friendship to fill this need.
 
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I don't entirely understand, sorry ?

It sounds like you want to put a label on something, which may or may not reflect what is really going on ... and I am not sure if that would be fair to anyone involved ?

All of us can have many different relationships, with many people. Some are where we are the caring one, others where we are cared for. Some are emotional, some are intellectual, some are about team work, or mentoring, and so on ... many different kinds.

I think overall, a diversity of different relationships is best. It makes us more well- rounded. More flexible, and responsive to changing circumstances around us ...
 

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JCs Dad is quite amiable i would think OP
am not 100% sure he really loves gays like us tho, never really taken his word as gospel on that, despite his promises ..




sort of like Obama ..