"I'm not a top...

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Novice:

Do you know that old joke, "What do you call it when two gay tops hook up?" "A Liar's Club meeting."

This is not so hard to fathom really. There are very few tops in the world. There are lots of bottoms. Supply and demand suggest that a little versatility is in order to get some action. So then the question is why are they hitting on YOU specifically. Well, I'd suggest it is because you are so damn cute... (You may substitute hot if it works better for you.)

Be complimented, not surprised. Then just say whether or not you want to play. If it ain't your thing, then it just ain't.
 

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novice_btm said:
Yeah, I guess I get this part of it, but I still don't get the guys who are bottom-only, yet still approach other bottoms to "hook up".

"Uh, yeah, ok, and do WHAT?" :tongue:

Some people are willing to forego their preferred role in order to make time with someone they desire.

Take it as a compliment.
 

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novice_btm said:
...but I would for YOU."

OK, something I'm not getting. There's nothing ambiguous about the BTM in my nickname. Now, considering most of my "experience" with men is pretty confined to chatting and the cyber realm in general, they see a firm label planted on me from the start. It's not like the guys that I'm chatting about see me in the market, and have to figure anything out at all. So...

Lately, I've been approached by guys that say things like, "Hey, bottom here too! What's up?", and "I need to get pounded so bad. Wanna hook up?" :eek: Or, my two most recent favorites, who said almost the exact same thing, "Well, there's just one problem... I'm not a top, but I would for YOU." The last two could be taken as flattering, but I don't get devoted bottoms approaching another bottom. :confused:

It just seems odd to me. I mean, straight guys don't approach another guy and say, "Man, I need to get in some pussy. Can I suck your cock?" :rolleyes:

You mean all this time I've been thinking it meant "Better Than Most", and it's not true??:rolleyes:
 

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Novice, you are just too cute! EVERYBODY wants you!:smile:

I've never "approached" you before, being a total and "novice" bottom myself!
If I were to approach you however, I would want YOU to do the flipping for me!!!:wink::biggrin1::tongue:
 

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I'm a top...born attracted to men's asses. I grew up in a beach town and even as a young brat, I always eyeballed other men's asses in their tight suits. All of the serious men in my life have been bottoms, born with some kind of extra sensitivity in their anal areas, penetrated themselves with their fingers and maybe makeshift dildoes. That has been a universal report from every one of the above mentioned men (to me when we talked about it). I don't 'flip' because I have no feelings of sexual/sensual desire in my ass area, not because I'm on some dumbass macho trip. Conversely, the bottoms of my life have never been on some kind of dumbass non-macho trip. They always somehow seemed to spot me before I could spot them, mainly because I never could figure out just who had that natural thing, it's personal, subtle, and internal. I've had a GREAT sex-life!...and, btw, as Lex pointed out, there are some tops who enjoy a super rimjob without being interested in 'flipping'...believe me, I know. (mmmmmmmmmm)
 

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Furthermore, it's also becoming increasingly trendy for gay men to be attracted to other [gay] men regardless of their specific sexual predilections. Therefore, if one is willing to bend a little (or in this case bend a lot :tongue:) then why not give it a shot (or a shoot :tongue:) - even if it's but for a moment.

I guess a lot of it has to do with how you live your life.
 

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GoneA said:
Furthermore, it's also becoming increasingly trendy for gay men to be attracted to other [gay] men regardless of their specific sexual predilections.

I always knew that if I just waited long enough, eventually even I would become fashionable.
 

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Matthew said:
I always knew that if I just waited long enough, eventually even I would become fashionable.

I see you've gotten the ball rolling by advertising your very fashionable pocketbook.
 

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joyboytoy79 said:
Lexie, this had me cracking UP!

Although, i can assure you, as a "Bottom" myself, i DO move, a LOT. And often i'm not lying down. In fact, usually i'm in a sitting possition and the "Top" is lying down and not moving much (other than to arch his back from intense pleasure!).

My favorite kind of bottom...:biggrin1:
 

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Hatched69 said:
You mean all this time I've been thinking it meant "Better Than Most", and it's not true??:rolleyes:
I'm sorry. It's actually "Blows Tall Men", but even my very first time I was actually told that I was "Better Than Most", so you may actually be on to something. :rolleyes:

Thanks for all the compliments guys, and yes, I also take the other bottoms hitting on me as compliments too. It's just a bit confusing, when I'm so blatantly a bottom that another total bottom would see pix of me ONLY showing my ass, and in a profile that says I ONLY bottom, and that somehow makes them think, "Damn, he needs to top me." :tongue: Maybe it's like trying to snag a straight guy. Maybe it's a challenge thing. :rolleyes:
 

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joyboytoy79 said:
Oh, i shoot while riding. I shoot a lot while riding. In fact, you could say i'm a trigger happy cowboy! :biggrin1: Would you be my trusted steed?

Horse-hung but not a horse, babe. Save a horse, ride a Cowboy!! (or a joyboytoy) Giddie up!!
 

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fortiesfun said:
Novice:

Do you know that old joke, "What do you call it when two gay tops hook up?" "A Liar's Club meeting."

This is not so hard to fathom really. There are very few tops in the world. There are lots of bottoms. Supply and demand suggest that a little versatility is in order to get some action. So then the question is why are they hitting on YOU specifically. Well, I'd suggest it is because you are so damn cute... (You may substitute hot if it works better for you.)

Be complimented, not surprised. Then just say whether or not you want to play. If it ain't your thing, then it just ain't.

Again--you hit the nail in the head, Fortiesfun!
 

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Novice btm, boy, do I know what you are going through. Most guys think I am a top, maybe because of the way I'm built but the truth is I love nothing more than having some guy take my ass and fill me with his big penis. I have to admit though that I have become an excellent rimmer to please tops who turn. Thankfully I now have my bf who is a top and we compliment each other very nicely.
However for various reasons you are a "top" in my book. And I think that you are btm in every sense - Better than Most and Blows Tall Men (I'm first in line, by the way).
Hang in there, someday you'll get your top :smile: :cool:
By the way, having just checked out your gallery, awesome pictures.
 

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fratpack said:
Novice btm, boy, do I know what you are going through. Most guys think I am a top, maybe because of the way I'm built but the truth is I love nothing more than having some guy take my ass and fill me with his big penis. I have to admit though that I have become an excellent rimmer to please tops who turn. Thankfully I now have my bf who is a top and we compliment each other very nicely.
However for various reasons you are a "top" in my book. And I think that you are btm in every sense - Better than Most and Blows Tall Men (I'm first in line, by the way).
Hang in there, someday you'll get your top :smile: :cool:
By the way, having just checked out your gallery, awesome pictures.
Thanks frat!
Tell you what... you, me, mix in a big hunk of Syrian... :firedevil:
 

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I've sort of adopted the mentality of being open to whatever happens. I tend to bottom more often than not. I really like it. I'm not passive or submissive. That's just what I like. However, in the last few years, I've noticed I've been much more into checking out guys from behind and I'll get the desire to top every so often. I've hooked up with other vers guys where we flip back and forth during sex and that can be fun because it's very spontaneous. I'm also 5'4" and topping for me requires the right partner physically because the visual of a chihuahua trying to mount a great dane often rolls through my head when I top. ;)