I'm not gay.......but

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  1. uk_dick

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    I'm not sure if this is the reight thread but I just wanted everyones thoughts on something.

    Being an exorbitionists as we probably all are, it's nartural to find everything horny. Now I'm not gay, never had a gay sexual experience but I have jacked over pictures of big cocks before now. I guess this is having Bi feelings then? I'd love to have a threesome with two women but I wouldn't say no to another guy. The thought of kissing a guy makes me a little ill but I guess what I'm saying is that if push came to shove I probably would wank a guy off.

    my friend and I were watching some porn and I decided to show him some videos and pics of me and another girl.....but mainly my stiff member. The thing was it wasn't strange and I seemed to be getting off on the fact my friend was staring at my dick.....not to mention he confessed I was bigger.lol

    Any suggestions on this being normal?
     
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    And the definition of normal is???
     
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    Much more normal than you like to think ...
     
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    touché
     
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    That is so hot!
     
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    What is an exorbitionist? Exclusive OR bitionist? exorcism bitionist?

    Seriously though, I think your assumption that we all find "everything horny" is ridiculous, and stupid. Here are some things that aren't horny, and don't make me horny. Toenail clippers, a strudel, fluorescent light bulbs, string cheese, paper weights, monkeys. I could go on.

    I would say some of your behavior is normal, if you are bi.
     
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    Are you saying this doesn't make you horny? :3822733875wackit: .Seriously?

    And you've never had my strudel.
     
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    naughty spy !!!
     
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    uk dick, don't be in a hurry to put a label on yourself. You'll figure it out. And then it will be what is normal for you.

    The more I've been on LPSG, the more I realize that trying to fit everyone neatly into one box or the other in regard to sexuality, as society seems to wish us to, doesn't reflect reality. I am amazed at how many guys seem to fall somewhere on the spectrum between exclusively straight and exclusively gay, whether it be in behavior, desire, or whatever.
     
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    I believe the spectrum between exclusively straight and exclusively gay is called "bi" as a more general term, with varying degrees. Like 'mostly straight', or 'mostly gay'.

    I will agree that for many it is futile to label themselves because they can't handle it. Generally the "I'm not gay, but" threads are good examples of that. To me, straight, gay, and bi (and all sub terms of bi) have no negative value.
     
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    dont worry about putting a lable on yourself you will be a better man because of that. just live life the way you see fit and it will have a happy full jorney with no regets
     
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    Evidently you have some attraction to men. Maybe you'll act on it, or maybe you won't. Just feel free to go through the experience without prejudice. That fear of same sex attraction is, in my experience, the result of years believing what others think about it. And I agree that labels are unnecessary. Actually, it's quite easy: just do what feels right inside.
     
  13. erratic

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    There's a lot of societal shit that gets piled on people, preventing them from just being able to enjoy stuff. What you're describing here is often called internalised homophobia. A lot of queer people (ie., not-100%-straight people) have to work through feelings that having sexual contact with a member of the same sex is gross, bad, etc. You'll get over it, cause you're clearly attracted to men. No one says "oh, alright, I'll stroke your cock" without money or hormones involved. Money always lies, hormones don't. If you "probably would wank a guy off" that most likely means your hormones are just barely outweighing your internalised homophobia.

    And don't get me wrong here - even hard-core queer liberators have some kind of internalised homophobia to work through. I'm not saying you're a homophobe; however, like parents who are cool with other kids being gay but not their own, it's different when you are the one having queer feelings.

    This is exactly the kind of intimacy that some guys who aren't 100% straight use to entertain some of their queerness without going in to full-on socially-forbidden territory. It's just not-gay enough, you know what I mean? You're just showing pictures.

    I had a friend who anyone on earth would call bisexual, but he refused to admit it because there was always a woman involved in some way or another. His quote was "it's not gay until your balls touch."

    Of course it's normal. You're totally normal. The truth is, people have to work really fucking hard to be abnormal.

    Dude, there are lots of people out there who are not 100% straight. Ask yourself: Do you enjoy fucking women? Do you enjoy dating women? Do you find women attractive? Do you want to fuck women? Do you want women to want you? I'm guessing you'll answer yes to each of these. Switch "women" for "men" and you'll have a harder time answering those questions, won't you? That's because the world around you is goddamn homophobic, and like any other living tissue, humans absorb what's in the world around them.

    If nothing else, take it as a lesson in how hard it is for gay and lesbian kids to come to terms with their sexuality. You, like other men who find both sexes at least passingly attractive, have the luxury of being attracted to the opposite sex. You don't have to make the choice between coming out into a hostile world, or staying closeted and miserable, the way gay people do. Meanwhile, the universe has handed you a chance to increase your empathy and compassion for humanity by being able to feel a bit of what an oppressed minority feels every day. The universe has also, very generously, given you the chance to fuck around with guys simultaneously. Congratulations :)
     
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    Cock is cock. Being turned on doesn't have to = gay.
     
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    there's a word for that, it's called bi-sexual.

    Part str8, part gay.
     
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    I'm probably going to get a lot of hate mail for this, but I really dislike how everyone tries to jump to the conclusion that if you play with other males that means you are gay or bi. Ever stop to consider that the turn on might be due to the fact that the attraction is to the taboo in itself which causes the sexual arousal. So many people on here sound like homosexual recruiters and are very biased.

    So in my opinion, what you're doing just means you are really fucking horny, and like playing on the edge a little because it turns you on that what you're doing is wrong. In the end, do what you want, and don't give a crap what many of the recruiters say.
     
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    I would say that being attracted to the only the taboo is incredibly rare. And even so, it may be considered wrong or taboo to say, sleep with my friend's girlfriend, but I still have to be attracted to her to do it.

    I think it is interesting that you use the words "that what you're doing is wrong." Do you think homosexuality is wrong? The OP never said he thought it was wrong.
     
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    I don't think anyone has conducted a survey to really say that taboo attraction is rare. I think you'd agree that turn-ons are unique sometimes.
    How many guys have you heard of that were married to beauty queen material wives ended up cheating on her with the fat whore next door. Isn't it wrong in his mind to do so ? hence the taboo. If you re-read what I posted you'd understand what I meant.
     
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    Personally, I can't think of any stories like that. But you don't think that if a person cheated on their beauty queen wife with a large woman, it can't be because he is attracted to large women? And I didn't say taboo attractions are rare, said being attracted to JUST the taboo would be rare in my opinion. And taboos are subjective. How many gay and bi men do you think there are that actually think being with a man is taboo? I certainly don't think it is taboo, and I'm neither of those things.
     
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    Well it doesn't mean you're gay necessarily, but as far as the act itself, it certainly doesn't = straight either, now does it?

    Recruiters? :rolleyes:

    Certainly a whole lot rarer than rationalizing or being in denial. :wink:

    It's quite possible Pend understood you better than you are willing to admit.
     
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