I'm not gay, but...

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by 4work, Oct 25, 2011.

  1. 4work

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    I'm a str8 married guy, who couldn't even think of kissing or hugging(sexually) another guy, but when I see some guys with a nice body and big dick, it really turns me on. I double teamed a hot girl when I was younger, and I was more excited by touching my friends big cock than by the girl. I have a great job where I get to watch hot men and women models try on underwear for me, when we do our fittings or photos. Although I really love watching when the women take of their clothes, I often can not control myself when a well hung guy takes of his underwear and reveals his package... I've only jacked off with one buddy, but it still gets me off whenever I think of it. Do any of you have similar feelings and experiences? I'm not conflicted with this, but I do find it interesting and confusing .
     
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    we like what we like. why should we be confused?

    what we were taught to expect sometimes turns out to be true in our own experience; sometimes it turns out to be bullshit.

    people told me i would fall in love with a girl and get married and raise a family. it didn't turn out that way for me. there's nothing wrong with me. it turns out it was the other people who were mistaken...
     
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    No personal experience but a buddy of mine in high school went through a phase of that. We used to joke with him that he was neither gay, nor straight, nor bi, but downright horny lol! As a friend of mine once told me "if it makes you motor purr, go with it."
     
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    Why try to label it?
     
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    To the OP - I have a good friend from the south, married, never tried anything with another guy, and after I came out to him, he admitted he was bi. Since then, he has "uprgraded" to gay, after years of chemicals to have a child with his wife and and a subsequent adoption. He identifies as gay to only me as far as I know because he loves his wife and kids and is comfortable with his set up.

    He used to visit me in the Northeast and we would go to gay bars, but our long history kept us from misbehaving. He goes on Craigslist, particularly when out of town, and usually just has coffee, but he wants more (and has had more from craigslist).

    Label yourself as you like - you sound to me like a straight guy who really, really likes big cocks (in which case, welcome to the site!). Whatever it is, if you need to get big cocks out of your system, then do so. If you need to tell your wife you like big cocks, but you really want to stay with her, then do so if you think that will be the right outcome (ie think seriously if you really like big cocks and she will take her and the three kids to nebraska). This is the 2010s and alternative relationships exist, including lots of man and woman married couples who love each other, but have un50s interests. Good luck, and I hope you and your partner find what is best for both of you.
     
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    I agree on this one. There's really no reason to be confused. Avoid labels and avoid confusion.
     
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    LMFAO...why should a man label himself as gay just because he gets hot for built, hung stud types? ...just because he dreams, or actually does suck cock and take it up the ass? This nutty denial crap in LPSG will never end....c'mon guys, you're gay gay gay!:wink::biggrin1::tongue::tongue::tongue::tongue:
     
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    agreed. I love women and get turned on by them, but I also think a hot guy w/ a nice package is sexy as well. Relax and enjoy the human form
     
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    Ah, the old "But" codicil.
     
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    I am becoming increasingly aware that many men her have a partialism -

    "Partialism refers to a sexual interest with an exclusive focus of a specific part of the body.[1] Partialism is categorized as a paraphilia in the DSM-IV-TR of the American Psychiatric Association.[2] Individuals with partialism sometimes describe the anatomy of interest to them as having erotic attraction for them "

    With this defined - I think a dude can have an erotic attraction to the male penis and not be gay, because there is not homo-romantic or gay-identity.
     
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    There is this big fear that just because you enjoy some part of another person sexually, that somehow that is your core. If I'm in the mood I'll suck a dick. I actually enjoy being good at it. It's kind of fun, just like watching a BJ porn scene is hot. After I bust a nut, eh not so gay anymore... Back to whatever I was doing before. Sex is just a pleasurable welcome distraction. I have no need to get all political about it. I have an ex-wife and a great girlfriend. Don't overthink it, it's not that serious. Suck, fuck, nut. Do so with whosoever you like.
     
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    Most men are fascinated with large penises (just watch straight porn to find that out). So I can easily accept this idea of "partialism".

    As for me, I get off on showing my big dick to other dudes and making them jealous. I also enjoy comparing my donkey dong to other dudes that I consider well-hung. But sucking a dick, or getting mine sucked by another man does not get me hard (but you don't necessarily have to be really turned on by the act to do it, as we boys can get wood for nothing:biggrin1:).
     
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    Just out of curiosity, what exactly is your job?
     
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    My question has always been: How can a man who enjoys being a man have no attraction to an ideal penis (unless he is a trannsexual/transvestite lesbian LOL)? :biggrin1:
     
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    i have had the exact same experience except i am not "str8"
     
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    Straight but not narrow?
     
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    or, just being a man....everything can turn us on if the timing is right....

    the wind blowing, it being a Thursday, having change in your pocket, you have no milk in the fridge, there was traffic on the way home, you have email.....the list goes on and on- why question it....
     
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    great philosophy, sounds like the one i live by.
     
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